In this episode, Marsha dives into one of the most charged parts of leadership and visibility: criticism. If you want to be seen, heard, and impactful, this conversation is essential listening.

Marsha breaks down why visibility is not a strategy problem, but a nervous system and identity issue. Drawing from personal experiences, client stories, and NLP principles, she explains why criticism hits so deeply, how the subconscious scans for danger, and why one negative comment can drown out fifty supportive ones if you let it.

This episode is a permission slip to stay in your lane, keep your side of the street clean, and continue rising even when others try to pull you back.

[02:05] Why visibility is nervous system work, not just strategy

[04:40] A personal story of being harshly judged and the moment everything shifted

[06:30] Why criticism hurts most when it mirrors something unhealed inside you

[08:20] The truth about judgment: it’s never actually about you

[10:15] Collaboration vs criticism and why your circle shapes your expansion

[12:45] You will never be criticized by someone who has done what you’re doing

[15:05] How the brain’s threat system fixates on one negative voice

[17:10] Choosing to focus on truth instead of emotional noise

[19:40] The “sides of the street” metaphor and staying in your values

[23:55] Boosters on a rocket and why some people are not meant to come with you

[28:10] Keeping your side of the street clean, regardless of how others behave

[31:30] A reminder not to shrink, because your voice is meant to help someone

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In today’s episode, Marsha explores what it truly means to stay Heart-Wired when life feels heavy, uncertain, or emotionally demanding. Recorded during the holidays, this conversation meets listeners in the reality that leadership, visibility, and openness don’t pause just because things are hard — and neither does the nervous system’s instinct to protect.

Marsha breaks down the difference between being hard wired (armored, shut down, surviving) and heart wired (regulated, open, emotionally present), and why most people default to protection when things feel unpredictable. Drawing from neuroscience, lived experience, and real world examples, she explains how staying open isn’t about bypassing pain, but about building capacity, self trust, and sustainable leadership.

This episode is an invitation to stop armoring up, reconnect with your heart as a source of intelligence and safety, and lead yourself forward even when it would feel easier to shut down.

[01:20] The science of heart to brain communication and why thinking harder doesn’t help

[02:15] Why slowing down, breathing, and listening create more clarity than force

[03:10] Hard wired vs heart wired: survival mode versus regulated leadership

[04:05] Why numbing out and armoring up feel easier but cost you more long term

[05:10] The subconscious need for predictability and why hard seasons trigger shutdown

[06:05] Common fear stories that surface under stress: “I’m too much” and “If they see me, they’ll leave”

[07:10] How armoring kills creativity, connection, and support

[08:00] Regulating through breath and anchoring back into the heart

[08:55] Vulnerability as expansion, not weakness

[09:50] Turning discomfort, criticism, and visibility into leadership fuel

[11:05] Why belief is the foundation required for what you’re building next

[13:00] Your heart as a superpower meant to be used when things are hard

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In this episode, Marsha is speaking with Charles and Heidi Hatley. They are the honest, unfiltered voices behind Kava and Kettlebells, a podcast that’s redefining strength, sobriety, and intentional living. Charles is a U.S. Air Force veteran and small-business consultant; Heidi is a personal trainer, homeschooling mom, and traumatic brain injury (TBI) survivor. Together, they’re raising their kids, lifting heavy weights, and sipping kava in a world saturated with alcohol.

After surviving a life-altering car crash, they turned to natural healing—rebuilding their lives through movement, faith, and a botanical alternative called kava. Today, they are advocates for stronger minds and calmer bodies through sober living and holistic practices. Their story is a testament to the power of choice: choosing sobriety, choosing strength, and choosing to live life with clarity.

[03:55] The early signs something wasn’t working despite outward success

[06:20] A defining moment that forced a shift in direction

[09:10] How identity and self worth were shaped by early experiences

[12:45] Recognizing patterns that kept repeating in life and business

[16:05] The role of nervous system regulation in sustainable change

[18:40] Letting go of perfectionism and the pressure to prove

[22:15] Why growth often feels uncomfortable before it feels expansive

[26:30] Rewriting old stories instead of reacting from them

[30:05] Building trust with yourself after burnout or disappointment

[34:20] What aligned success actually looks like now

[38:10] Advice for listeners navigating their own season of change

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In today’s episode, Marsha reframes why goals often fizzle out by mid January and introduces a concept most people never stop to measure: capacity. Rather than pushing harder, adding more, or proving you can handle it all, she explains why sustainable growth depends on nervous system regulation, subconscious safety, and honest self leadership.

Marsha shares how being led by ideas instead of capacity once created burnout, resentment, and pressure, and how learning to pause, shelf ideas, and listen inward completely changed how she builds, scales, and serves. Through real examples from her business, including canceling programs, restructuring her calendar, and postponing high touch client work, she shows how honoring capacity actually creates better results, deeper impact, and long term growth.

This episode is an invitation to stop asking “Can I do this?” and start asking “Can I hold this?” If you are building something meaningful in 2026, this conversation will change how you make decisions, set boundaries, and lead yourself.

[01:22] Why goals often fizzle out in January and the role capacity plays

[01:43] What capacity actually means beyond pushing harder

[02:23] Why sustainable growth requires patience, not urgency

[03:32] Being led by ideas versus being led by nervous system capacity

[04:19] Capacity as the bridge between ambition and results

[04:44] When ambition works against you instead of for you

[05:26] How burnout, comparison, and proving energy signal dysregulation

[06:38] Checking capacity first prevents resentment and exhaustion

[07:09] Canceling and refunding a program as an act of aligned leadership

[08:22] Letting ideas mature instead of forcing them into the world

[09:15] Why your body blocks opportunities it doesn’t feel safe to hold

[12:12] Building a business that supports who you are becoming

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At the start of a new year filled with big goals, vision boards, and fresh planners, Marsha offers a grounding reframe that changes everything: the vision is not the problem — identity is. In this powerful solo episode, she breaks down why goals collapse, self sabotage shows up, or momentum fades when your identity and nervous system are not calibrated to hold what you want to create.

Drawing from NLP, subconscious rewiring, and real time examples from her own business, Marsha explains why identity is the deepest level of change and why strategy without identity work leads to burnout, contraction, and frustration. She walks listeners through how identity shapes beliefs, habits, language, and nervous system safety, and how micro shifts in language, boundaries, and self leadership create sustainable growth.

This episode is an invitation to stop asking “What do I want?” and start asking “Who am I choosing to become?” If you want this year to feel different not because you worked harder, but because you led yourself differently, this conversation will land.

[01:42] Why the vision isn’t the problem and identity always is

[02:32] The most important question to ask before setting goals: who can actually hold this

[04:08] Identity as the deepest level of change in NLP

[04:45] The ceiling and floor metaphor and why belief determines capacity

[05:29] Why habits don’t create identity — identity creates habits

[06:39] How goal setting from lack guarantees self sabotage

[07:42] Why vision boards fail when identity doesn’t match the image

[08:30] Self sabotage as self protection, not weakness

[09:55] A real example of identity contraction around expansion and opportunity

[11:11] How identity shapes what you see, hear, and feel

[14:03] Speaking identity into existence through present tense language

[18:48] Asking better questions: who do I choose to be this year?

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In this episode, Marsha speaks with Tom LeNoble, who has led in boardrooms and fought for his life in hospital rooms, surviving two life-threatening illnesses. From shaping growth at Facebook (META), Walmart.com, Palm (HP), and MCI (Verizon) to guiding startups, he’s mastered thriving through change. He is the founder of the Tom LeNoble brand and the Opening Pathways podcast. Today, he is CEO of the Academy for Coaching Excellence and a leadership coach with the Miller Center for Global Impact at Santa Clara University. An in-demand speaker, personal coach, and workshop leader, Tom uses his experience and insights to serve others. A committed philanthropist, he champions youth, women, education, and underserved communities and serves on numerous nonprofit boards.

In his new book, My Life in Business Suits, Hospital Gowns, and High Heels, releasing in November 2025, Tom shares unflinching lessons on risk, resilience, and reinvention. With candour and wit, he guides others to lead boldly, live fully, and love fiercely – a reminder that, no matter the storms you face, resilience is possible—and reinvention is always within reach.

Highlights:

[02:55] Tom reveals he’s lived with metastatic cancer for 13 years and is still here.

[05:05] On resilience: “I’ve had so much radiation I glow in the dark… it’s challenged me to take risks and have resilience, which I define as not just getting back up, but how do we grow from what’s happened to us?”

[07:50] Tom’s mindset for adversity: “Stomp your feet, cry, yell… but the only thing that can happen now is to move forward. This is my reality.”

[09:14] The concept of “terrible gifts”: “If you allow it to happen, a gift will come from it. Something will change in your life.”

[10:32] On evidence of survival: “We all have this evidence of what we’ve survived and accomplished… we forget what we’ve been through and don’t bring that evidence with us to the present.”

[13:52] Vulnerability in the corporate world: “It’s time for us to shift that whole idea that we don’t do that in the corporate world… we need to acknowledge that we have real lives.”

[20:46] Tom’s gratitude practice: “One of the first things I do is express gratitude that I woke up, because I woke up today. Some people didn’t.”

[22:40] On belief and survival: “At the end of the day, I know something that’s true. I believed I could.”

[26:04] What matters most: “It doesn’t matter what happened to you, it matters what you choose to do with what happened.”

[42:41] Tom’s favorite Maya Angelou quote: “Every storm runs out of rain. What it creates, that rain, is fertile ground. My question for you: what are you going to plant?”

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In this episode, Marsha shares several questions to support you in defining what you are meant to leave behind from the previous year. Here is a list of questions to ask yourself.

​​1. What story from 2025 no longer serves who I am becoming, and what new meaning am I choosing to give it now?

2. Where did I operate from survival, pressure, or fear, and what empowered state do I choose instead for 2026?

3. What belief created the most friction this year, and what upgraded belief will create more ease next year?

4. What emotional pattern did I overuse in 2025 that I am now retiring, and what emotion will lead me in 2026?

5. In what moments did I abandon my needs, and how will I honour myself differently moving forward?

6. What version of me worked in 2025 but cannot walk with me into 2026—and who am I choosing to be instead?

7. What am I finally willing to release so that my energy, capacity, and identity are free to expand next year?

8. What truth about myself did 2025 reveal—and how will I lead with that truth in 2026?

Highlights

[00:00] Why it’s still the perfect time to reflect before setting new goals

[01:10] The importance of reviewing the year before creating a vision for the next one

[02:05] How limiting decisions quietly crack the foundation of belief

[03:10] Why your subconscious cannot move forward while holding outdated identities

[03:55] The jug metaphor: making space by releasing old stories

[04:05] Question 1: Rewriting the story from 2025 that no longer serves you

[04:55] Question 2: Identifying survival, pressure, or fear states and choosing a new operating state

[06:55] Question 3: Upgrading beliefs that created friction into beliefs that create ease

[08:05] Question 4: Retiring emotional patterns that no longer serve your leadership

[09:00] Question 5: Where self abandonment happened and how to lead yourself differently

[10:45] Question 6: Honoring parts of you that worked before, without letting them run the future

[12:15] Question 7 and 8: Releasing resentment, expanding capacity, and leading with truth in 2026

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In this milestone 950th episode, Marsha welcomes listeners into the new year with one of the most important conversations you can have before setting goals for 2026. She breaks down the real reason most goals fail, not because of effort or discipline, but because the conscious mind and subconscious mind are not working together.

Marsha explains how your subconscious mind runs the majority of your behaviors, decisions, identity, and nervous system responses, even when your conscious mind thinks it is in control. Using simple metaphors and real time examples from her own business, she shows how internal contraction, fear, and old programming quietly sabotage growth, visibility, and capacity.

This episode is an invitation to pause, take inventory, and stop trying to outwork beliefs your body does not yet feel safe holding. If you want 2026 to look different, this conversation will change how you approach goals, support, investment, visibility, and success itself.

Highlights

[01:05] Why recovery after the holidays matters more than jumping back into productivity

[02:20] The power of the pause and how growth happens in stillness

[03:10] Your subconscious runs 95 percent of your life, not your conscious mind

[04:20] Why vision boards and goal setting only work at the 5 percent level

[05:10] The ceiling and floor metaphor and how belief determines capacity

[06:30] Conscious goals vs subconscious safety and why they often conflict

[07:55] How nervous system contraction quietly blocks expansion

[08:50] You cannot outwork what you do not believe is possible

[10:05] A real time example of feeling contraction around investment and growth

[11:20] Identifying old fear based patterns versus present truth

[13:05] Visibility as a subconscious safety issue, not a confidence problem

[15:35] Receiving support as a form of rewiring identity and capacity

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