What it’s about:

People react to each other—it's just how things go. Most of us are bumping up against others, unconsciously hoping those bumps won't hurt us or them because we don’t like conflict or tension. But here’s the deal: we are acting like feeling tension warrants going into survival mode. It doesn’t. And there is another way to work with the fear of upsetting someone.

It's parts work. In this episode, we'll dive into Internal Family Systems (IFS) to understand not only what is going on under the surface that makes us feel so triggered, but how to help ourselves relax back from relying a little too much on this protective stance in relationships.

Interesting parts of the episode:

Know Your Parts: Learn about the different parts of your personality and how they influence your reactions.

Reduce Fear: Exploring how fear-based reactions, like people-pleasing and perfectionism, stem from a desire to feel safe.

Empathy in Action: Apply your knowledge of parts work to create more genuine and less reactive connections with others.

Links and Resources:

Free Parts Mapping Session: Interested in learning more about IFS? Here’s the link to get on the calendar! https://calendly.com/vicki-46/free-internal-family-systems-mapping-session

Further IFS exploration: Here’s a BLOG on the 8 C’s of Self Energy – a big part of IFS work. https://powertothepleasers.com/2022/01/04/the-8-cs-qualities-of-strength-stability-and-resilience/

Also check out No Bad Parts - https://ifs-institute.com/store/419 for Richard Schwartz latest book on IFS.

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Another way we can hang out - - - we can work together! Like in real life!

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Friendship is strange isn’t it? You make this unspoken agreement with another person to do what together? You aren’t dating. You aren’t co-workers. You aren’t “committed” like a life partner. What exactly are we agreeing to when we become friends? And how do you know if you are getting out of the lines of the agreement? Someone tells you. And if you are lucky, they are respectful and responsible about sharing their experience of your waning commitment. Today I share with you a recent exchange between myself and a friend that modeled for me the RIGHT way to do friendship. Welcome to a vulnerable share about how I was a bad friend and got called out on it. What makes this episode worth listening to:

1. Simple questions to help you do a Relationship Audit.
2. 3 respectful ways to share hurt feelings with a friend
3. How doing consistent inner work busts up long standing shame.

All the ways we can hang out and get to know each other:

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Website - https://powertothepleasers.com

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@powertothepleasers2020/videos

Taking it to the next level! Let's talk about working together!

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One of my clients inspired this episode after a few big ah-ha moments in a session.

They finally let their irritation and fatigue guide them to a balanced way of being naturally kind and generous.

And now you get the benefit of their hard work!

What makes this episode worth listening to:

1. Discover how you’re confusing people by “just being nice.”
2. Get honest about who you are into and who doesn’t make the cut.
3. How to use what you value as a guide to decide how you spend your time and energy.

All the ways we can hang out and get to know each other:

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Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/power.to.the.pleasers/

Website - https://powertothepleasers.com

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@powertothepleasers2020/videos

Want to do more than listen?

Well, hit me up and let's talk about working together!

Schedule a time with the link below:

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