Summary

Jason Minter, a gay parent and host of the podcast 'A Guide to Poor Parenting', joins Brian Banks on the Raging Hardham Podcast to discuss their experiences as parents. They talk about how they started their podcasts during the pandemic as a way to cope with the challenges of parenting. Jason shares his journey of growing up in Texas with two autistic parents and coming out as gay at 17. They also discuss their decision to adopt children through the foster care system and the process they went through. Overall, the conversation highlights the joys and struggles of parenting and the importance of support and understanding. In this conversation, Brian Banks discusses his experience as a parent and the challenges and rewards of foster care and adoption. He shares stories of the adoption process, the importance of support networks, and the lessons he has learned about himself as a parent. Brian also emphasizes the need for patience, understanding, and good boundaries when raising children. He provides resources for those interested in foster care and adoption and encourages open communication and self-reflection in parenting.

Keywords

parenting, podcasting, gay parents, adoption, foster care, challenges, support, parenting, foster care, adoption, support networks, challenges, rewards, boundaries, self-reflection

Takeaways

Starting a podcast can be a cathartic way to cope with the challenges of parenting.

Adoption through the foster care system can provide stable homes for children whose parental rights have been terminated.

Parenting can be isolating, especially for LGBTQ+ individuals, but finding support and community is crucial.

Understanding and empathy are essential when parenting children who have experienced trauma or have special needs. Foster care and adoption can be challenging but also incredibly rewarding experiences.

It is important to have a strong support network when raising children, especially those who have experienced trauma.

Good boundaries and self-reflection are essential for maintaining mental health and providing effective parenting.

The adoption process can be complex, but there are resources available to help navigate it.

Open communication and honesty with children about their past and emotions are crucial for building trust and understanding.

Sound Bites

"Parenting, as all parents, not just gay parents know, it's hard."

"There's a real shift that happens when you become a parent."

"Parenting can be kind of isolating. You lose your friends."

"In comes this group of social workers with black garbage bags and start beating on our tables saying, grab everything you can get."

"I've always been giving person, I guess you would say. Always felt like my purpose in life that I've found the thing that I come back to all the time is service to others."

"I have really good boundaries. So I am very capable of giving, I know exactly where to stop."

Summary

In this conversation, Brian Banks interviews Mallory Hagan, discussing her background, activism, and experiences as Miss America. They touch on topics such as standing up for oneself, allyship, systemic issues in the pageant industry, and the importance of empathy and understanding. Mallory shares her journey of personal growth and the impact of her platform on child abuse prevention. They also discuss the need for deeper conversations and critical thinking in politics and society. In this conversation, Brian Banks and Mallory Hagan discuss various topics including emotions, parenting, politics, and personal growth. Mallory shares her journey of learning to sit with her feelings and be present, as well as her experience as a parent and step-parent. They also touch on the importance of voting and the need for progress in local politics. Mallory emphasizes the value of journaling and self-reflection in her personal growth process. Overall, the conversation highlights the importance of empathy, compassion, and emotional intelligence in navigating life's challenges.

Keywords

activism, Miss America, allyship, standing up for oneself, systemic issues, pageant industry, empathy, understanding, child abuse prevention, critical thinking, emotions, parenting, politics, personal growth, voting, empathy, compassion, emotional intelligence

Takeaways

Standing up for oneself and others is a trait that can be nurtured from a young age.

Allyship requires empathy, understanding, and the willingness to engage in difficult conversations.

Systemic issues exist in the pageant industry and need to be addressed.

Child abuse prevention is an important cause that requires ongoing awareness and support.

Deeper conversations and critical thinking are necessary for personal growth and societal progress. Learning to sit with and explore our feelings is a valuable skill for personal growth and emotional well-being.

Parenting provides an opportunity to reflect on our own childhood experiences and break cycles of trauma.

Girls and boys may express and process emotions differently, and it's important to provide support and guidance for healthy emotional expression.

Voting is crucial for creating positive change in local politics and ensuring representation for all members of the community.

Journaling and self-reflection can be powerful tools for understanding and processing emotions.

Sound Bites

"Welcome to the Raging Heart on podcast. I'm your host, Brian Banks."

"You stood up for yourself and, and"

"Where does the love of other people that are unlike myself come from?"

"I'm learning to let feelings come up instead of go down."

"The first thing is to feel it."

"Parenting is an opportunity to think about what you were doing and feeling in that age."

Summary

In this conversation, Brian Banks and TJ Woodward discuss the power of healing shame and trauma. They explore the importance of reconnecting with our true selves and releasing negative self-talk. They emphasize the need to go beyond simply changing our narrative and instead delve deeper into the origins of our beliefs and energy. They also discuss the impact of shame on addiction and relationships, particularly for gay men. The conversation highlights the process of healing and integrating past experiences rather than trying to let them go completely. They emphasize the importance of being present with ourselves and allowing ourselves to feel and process emotions. The conversation explores the importance of building a relationship with our inner child and rebuilding trust with ourselves. It emphasizes the significance of doing the deeper inner work to improve our relationships and connect with others on a deeper level. The conversation also highlights the power of being present and feeling our emotions without intellectualizing them. It encourages unraveling the conditioning and expectations we have placed on ourselves and finding peace in the process of self-discovery. The conversation concludes with recommendations for starting the journey of self-exploration, including finding a community, reading books, and practicing meditation.

Keywords

healing, shame, trauma, self-talk, reconnecting, true self, negative emotions, addiction, relationships, gay men, presence, emotions, inner child, rebuilding trust, deeper inner work, relationships, presence, feeling emotions, unraveling conditioning, self-discovery, community, books, meditation

Takeaways

Healing shame and trauma involves going beyond changing our narrative and delving deeper into the origins of our beliefs and energy.

Shame is often a driving force behind addiction and relational issues.

Reconnecting with our true selves involves being present with ourselves and allowing ourselves to feel and process emotions.

Healing and integrating past experiences can lead to freedom and a shift in our relationship with ourselves and the world.

Reparenting our inner child and building trust with ourselves is crucial in the healing process. Building a relationship with our inner child and rebuilding trust with ourselves is essential for personal growth and improved relationships.

Doing the deeper inner work allows us to connect with others on a deeper level and experience profound transformation.

Being present and feeling our emotions without intellectualizing them is a powerful practice for self-discovery and healing.

Unraveling the conditioning and expectations we have placed on ourselves is necessary for finding peace and authenticity.

Starting the journey of self-exploration can involve finding a community, reading books, and practicing meditation.

Sound Bites

"We are really all carrying around this narrative that can keep us feeling stuck."

"When we feel disconnected internally, we look to the world to feel whole again."

"Blame is a really low form of consciousness, but accountability is like, no, this really hurt."

"Except this time you were not a great parent for most of this child's life and now you're having to build that relationship"

"It's okay to feel, right? It's okay to feel that it's safe for you now and I'm here for you."

"We're not as concerned with working on things in the external, because if it starts with the deeper inner work, then our relationships start to get much better."

Find the tools T.J. offers here:

www.tjwoodward.com