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Welcome back to the show! I hope you enjoy this episode - it's not a typical episode; instead, it's more of a guided walk-through of the ReFRAME process, a six-phase model for personal and identity transformation.

Do you feel like you're not quite sure who you're becoming, but you know you're not who you were? Identity discovery is a fluid, ongoing practice of communication between our past, present, and emerging selves, and the ReFRAME model exists to help you through it.

The class-style session introduces each phase with short explanations and reflective exercises.

1. Recognize – Becoming aware that something no longer fits and identifying the gap between external expectations and inner truth through the Identity Gap Audit.
2. The little e – Choosing an emotional current—Kindness → Joy → Love → Confidence → Gratitude → Grace—as the controllable energy that powers all other steps.
3. Feel – Allowing emotions to surface and interpreting them as information using the Feel & Flow Scan (Name it, Notice it, Nurture it).
4. Reflect – Making meaning from emotion and identifying personal narratives with the Reframe the Story exercise, transforming limiting beliefs into new perspectives.
5. Articulate – Giving language to the new understanding through the IRL Identity Map (“Right now, I am someone who …”), turning inner truth into lived communication.
6. Move – Translating awareness into action with the GROW Action Plan (Goal, Reality, Options, Way Forward) and committing to one aligned micro-movement.
7. Embody – Integrating the work through the Identity Embodiment Exercise (Before, Current, Becoming) and a daily affirmation that anchors the desired state.

Beginning In November, you'll be able to dig deeper into this process by subscribing to the Reframing Circle for bonus content. And in January, you will be able to really do a deep dive in a six-week course. I hope you'll join me on this wonderful journey!

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In this bonus episode, we continue our weekly series, reading and discussing excerpts from my new book, Reframe the Moment. It's super fun and appropriate because each essay grew out of a Jen is Zen episode, so why not bring it full circle. Today we talk about Chapter 6 - Feeling the Feels.

We waste so much energy avoiding uncomfortable emotions. Whether it’s sadness, worry, fear, or uncertainty, pushing feelings away doesn’t make them disappear - it only delays healing. Emotional growth comes from sitting with difficult feelings instead of resisting them, so if we can stop avoiding what we feel, accept emotions as they are, and move through them with awareness, we'll emerge stronger and more centered on the other side.

Beginning next week - join me in The Reframing Circle and begin to ReFRAME you!

Video is available on YouTube, my website, and socials (I think y'all know how rare that is for me! I guess I'm turning over a new leaf!). You can order the book now if you'd like to read along.

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I hope you enjoy this episode! Teen friendships can be beautiful -and brutal. This episode explores why some kids become “mean girls,” how exclusion and gossip take root, and what’s really happening beneath the surface. Drawing from Relational Aggression and Social Identity Theory, it explains how insecurity, power dynamics, and the need to belong shape behavior in middle and high school friend groups.

The discussion discusses how social media magnifies hierarchy and comparison, how mean-mom culture models competition, and why boys can mirror the same dynamics through humor and dominance. It also examines the emotional, academic, and neurological impact of exclusion, showing that friendship loss can hurt as deeply as physical pain.

With insights from Family Communication Patterns Theory and Lisa Damour’s research on emotional development, the episode offers evidence-based strategies for parents to support teens: fostering open dialogue, teaching reflection over rumination, encouraging digital boundaries, and building resilience through empathy and compassion.

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In this bonus episode, we continue our weekly series, reading and discussing excerpts from my new book, Reframe the Moment. It's super fun and appropriate because each essay grew out of a Jen is Zen episode, so why not bring it full circle. Today we talk about Chapter 5 - The In Between. The "in-between" is the space between who we were and who we are becoming. And the more we can trust it, the more we can start to see it not as a pause or a waiting room, but as an initiation. Not something to be observed, but something to be embodied. Honor this part of your story. Don’t try to skip over it just because it's uncomfortable or uncertain. Let it teach you something. Let it soften you. Let it remind you that becoming isn't a straight line. It's a trust fall. And you're allowed to be held by the space between who you were and who you're becoming. What would it feel like to fully trust that space?

Video (kinda - i accidentally took a photo instead of a video - omg really?!) so had to go back, and the video is only the chapter not my (therapy-session-adjacent) episode. is available on YouTube, my website, and socials (I think y'all know how rare that is for me! I guess I'm turning over a new leaf!). You can order the book now if you'd like to read along.

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In this bonus episode, we continue our weekly series, reading and discussing excerpts from my new book, Reframe the Moment. It's super fun and appropriate because each essay grew out of a Jen is Zen episode, so why not bring it full circle. Today we talk about Chapter 4 - Underneath the Emotions. It's ok to feel all of the feels, but we just can't live there. We are not our emotions; emotions are like the weather - just passing through - and we are the clear blue sky underneath. Video is available on YouTube, my website, and socials (I think y'all know how rare that is for me! I guess I'm turning over a new leaf!). You can order the book now if you'd like to read along.

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Kindness realigns us - one small, intentional act can shift our energy and open our hearts to something bigger. When we lead with kindness, we invite joy. That joy clears the lens through which we see the world, allowing us to view life and people through love. Love naturally awakens gratitude - not the performative kind, but the deep, grounding awareness that helps us see the good that’s still here. Gratitude builds confidence - quiet, steady, authentic confidence —- the kind that softens your energy and lets you meet every moment, and every person, with grace. This episode is a reflection on how we can’t fix the darkness around us, but we can light our own corner of it by choosing kindness, again and again.

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College application season brings pressure, opinions, and plenty of myths about what makes higher education valuable. This episode unpacks the biggest fallacy of higher education - that college is job training - and explores four common misconceptions parents often hear: choosing majors only for profitability, dismissing the value of minors, chasing prestige instead of fit when selecting a school, and assuming general education courses are a waste of time. With a mix of practical guidance and communication theory, the conversation reframes how to think about majors, minors, schools, and gen eds while offering parents tools to support their teens through the application process and beyond.

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In this bonus episode, we continue our weekly series, reading and discussing excerpts from my new book, Reframe the Moment. It's super fun and appropriate because each essay grew out of a Jen is Zen episode, so why not bring it full circle. Today we talk about Chapter 3 - Life's a Rollercoaster, and it's appropriate because I know I often find myself comparing where I'm at on my journey and questioning if I will ever be "successful" if someone else "has ALL of the success." Video is available on YouTube, my website, and socials (I think y'all know how rare that is for me! I guess I'm turning over a new leaf!). You can order the book now if you'd like to read along.

Thank you for listening and being part of this community! Let's get social. Follow me on Facebook, on Twitter @reframing_me, on Instagram @reframingme and on TikTok @reframingme
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