In this episode, we'll be talking about how hard is to change. We always want to change something in our lives, to get to a new place. But from the point of view of where we currently are, any change seems impossible.

Sometimes it's just easier to think about quitting and just give up. We are at the top of a mountain looking away to the distance, to an even higher mountain where we want to go. In front of us we find the reality of an enormous abyss, which seems to grow ever larger the more we look into it.

However, change itself is only one part of a larger process. We may become obsessed with the abyss ahead of us and we forget that change is part of something bigger and more comprehensive, the true transformation. And in fact, how often we don't know where we want to go… We don't have a clear destination.

We neglect the fact that we can do things in stages, and go one step at the time. In practical terms, consider the following:

• Ask yourself if the change really needs to be made. Also, ask yourself if you really want this change. Wanting something will bring control back to you.
• Think about whether there is a path, and if that path can have several intermediate stages. Remember, Rome wasn't made in a day.
• Assess the impact of the change not only on you, but also on the people around you. There's nothing more frustrating than achieving your end goal, reaching the higher mountain and forgetting to consider the impact this will have in your other goals and in the meaningful people around you.

Remember, there are changes that are really worth making. These are changes that, once made, you will forget the past in the past, so you can move to the future and evolve as a person.

THE ONE TAKE AWAY FROM THIS EPISODE

• look at changes as isolated events, but see them as part of as broad transitions with several stages over longer periods of time.

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