Connecting with owning our own sexual pleasure through solo sex. We had a chat with Jordan D'Nelle, pleasure positive intimacy coach, physician associate, founder of the Vaginas, Vulvas and Vibrators podcast.

In this episode we talked about:

• The difference between self pleasure, solo practice, and masturbation.

• Importance of masturbation and the claiming of your own pleasure.

• Why do we maturbate, self explored benefits, and the balance of healthy and unhealthy practices.

• Masturbation for avoidance.

• Queerness, societal perceptions, and expectations on sexuality.

• Women, sex drive, desire, shame, and mix-matched libido.

• "Sexpectations" and externalizing expectations for fulfillment of needs.

• Why we have partnered sex.

• Mutual maturbation.

• Getting what you need and the orgasm gap in heterosexual relationships.

• Expanding what sex looks like and having sex for achieving pleasure.

• Defining and creating language for what sex is to you.

• Honoring what your body wants, not forcing for pleasure, and practicing self consent in solo play.

• What does it feel like when the body is inviting you in verses resisting.

• Slowness, breath, and taking your time with sex.

• Guiding into the body through breath and round breathing for awakening and expanding sexual and sensual energy.

• Hot take on sex and solo sex as a medical professional outside the office

• Stresses and different aspects of health impact, and seeing sexual health as an indicator of overall health.

About Jordan:

Jordan D’Nelle inspires women to find power in their sexuality and create a pleasure filled life in and out of the bedroom. She is a Pleasure Positive Intimacy Coach, Physician Associate, Sexual Health Educator, speaker and the Founder of the Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators Podcast. An award nominated and top 100 Podcast. Her goal is to have taboo conversations about sexuality, sexual intimacy, women’s health and relationships that specifically affect women. She wants to help normalize women’s sexual health and create a safe space for women to feel validated. She has been featured in Cosmopolitan magazine, Women’s Health Magazine, and many other podcasts. In her 13 years of experience, she has helped many woman overcome shame and have better intimacy with themselves and their partners.

Find + connect with Jordan online at:

jordandnelle.com

instagram.com/jordandnelle

Free Guide to Foreplay: Foreplay.jordandnelle.com

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In this episode we talk about:

• Relating creates possibility
• Exploration reciprocity across different relationship dynamics
• What does reciprocity feel like?
• Green flags in relationships and reciprocal connections
• Intentionality in connection
• Giving permission and leading by example
• Honesty, directness, and the courage to tell the truth
• Practicing active listening and creating space for really understanding what is being said
• Connection from a place of acting beyond the bare minimum, creating space for desire, pleasure and authenticity in feeling
• Allowing and creating space for self connection, individuality, and separateness
• Giving and receiving abundantly
• Permission to practice connecting and showing up

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What's it like to take up space beyond the stigmas of herpes? We had a chat with Courtney Brame (he/him) from the non profit organization, Something Positive for Positive People, a support resource for people navigating herpes stigma.

In this episode we talked about:

• HSV and managing outbreaks through yoga + yoga therapy

• Choosing to take up space and managing stereotypes and expectations as a straight, Black Man in the wellness community

• The responsibility of holding cultural reverence, carrying this responsibility as a person of color, and being intentional in the environments we exist within

• Boundaries, consent, and self ownership

• Holding space for women in exploring communication, sex, relationships, and herpes diagnosis

• Stepping into leadership and creating community with Black men exploring with curiosity, vulnerability, and emotional intelligence

• Understanding and practicing the art of vulnerability

• Dating, connection, and being a good conversationalist vs. communicator

• How to make men feel heard, held, and softening safely into what it means to be a man/masculine in the evolution of society

• Physical, mental + emotional safety in dating and connection

About Courtney:

As founder of Something Positive for Positive People, Courtney combines his expertise as a 500-hour registered yoga teacher with his passion for destigmatizing herpes. Through SPFPP, he offers restorative yoga and meditation in support groups, enhancing holistic well-being for those living with herpes. As the host of the SPFPP podcast, Courtney shares inspiring stories of individuals navigating herpes stigma. He extends his advocacy to sexual health education and STD prevention, promoting stigma-free communication among healthcare providers and organizations. Driven to create a world where herpes discussions are empowering and stigma-free, Courtney's work at SPFPP is reshaping sexual health dialogue, offering a blend of wellness practices and empathetic advocacy to build a more understanding community.

Find + connect with Courtney online at:

Website: www.spfpp.org

Instagram: instagram.com/CourtneyBrame_

Safe Sex Expo (September 2024): https://www.spfpp.org/offerings/p/safe-sex-expo

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