About the Hosts:

Janet Evans is an ex-M&C Saatchi advertising creative with a successful history in the industry, having won numerous radio and TV awards. Her expertise and creativity have been recognized in media beyond advertising.

Dr. Amelia Haines is an experienced medical doctor with 30 years of experience, specializing in sexual health, mental health, and relationship counseling. She brings her extensive medical knowledge to a wider audience through her public speaking and written work.

Episode Summary:

In this final episode in Season 1 of “She Wasn’t Born Yesterday,” Janet Evans and Dr. Amelia Haines explore the universally challenging transition known as the 'Empty Nest Syndrome'. This podcast promises to be a sanctuary for women over 40 who are navigating the complexities of life after their children have flown the coop. With a blend of humor, medical insights, and real-life experiences, the hosts delve into the emotional turbulence that often accompanies this significant life stage.

Janet and Amelia offer personal anecdotes and professional advice, discussing how sudden changes, such as children leaving home, can impact parents. They touch on the varying degrees of adjustment disorders, the importance of maintaining a strong relationship with one’s partner throughout parenting, and the need for personal fulfillment beyond child-rearing. With their book “Empty Next” as a backdrop, they provide honest reflections on coping with change, managing relationships post-parenting, and redefining oneself in the face of an empty home.

Key Takeaways:

• Empty nest syndrome, while not an official medical syndrome, is widely recognized as an adjustment disorder with a varying impact on parents when children leave home.
• The syndrome can last for a relatively short duration but has the potential to lead to depression if not addressed.
• Maintaining and nurturing the spousal relationship during child-rearing years is critical for the transition to post-parenting life.
• Engaging in personal interests and community connection is vital for newly emptied nesters to find fulfillment and establish a new sense of identity.
• Cultural perspectives on empty nest syndrome provide a diverse understanding of this global phenomenon.

Notable Quotes:

• Dr. Amelia Haines on the inevitability of children leaving home: “I think I’ve always just been aware that that’s what life does.”
• Janet Evans on the unanticipated nature of her son leaving: “I just sailed along, not really… It never crossed my mind.”
• Janet Evans on maintaining a connection with grown-up children: “I think one thing that I missed the most was the shift from being his somewhat of a confidant.”
• Dr. Amelia Haines on in-law relationships: “It’s hard to get on with, […] You need to be super generous.”

Resources:

• The hosts discuss their collaborative book titled “Empty Next,” available for purchase on Amazon.

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About the Guest:

Collett Smart is a respected psychologist, educator, public speaker, and author with over two decades of experience working in both private and public school settings, as well as in private practice. Known for her expertise in child development, Collette has garnered recognition for her contributions to the field of psychology and education. She has authored the book “They’ll Be Okay: 15 Conversations to Help Your Child Through Troubled Times,” which addresses parenting challenges and provides guidance for raising teenagers. With a passion for discussing mental health, relationships, and the complexities of teenage development, Collette brings a wealth of knowledge and practical advice to parents and educators alike.

Episode Summary:

In this insightful episode of “She Wasn’t Born Yesterday for women who are 40 plus fabulous,” hosts Janet Evans and Dr. Amelia Haines invite psychologist Collett Smart to delve into the intricacies of parenting teens. The conversation begins with a reminder of the whimsical days when children thought their parents were the epitome of cool and ventures into the challenges that come with the shifting dynamic as children grow into teenagers.

The episode offers a candid look into the seismic shifts that occur as children transition into their teenage years, exploring the physical exhaustion of early parenthood versus the emotional toll of guiding adolescents through life’s complex scenarios. Collette Smart shares her personal experiences with her own children and reiterates the importance of conversations around body image, mental health, and the pressures teenagers face in an increasingly digital landscape.

Key Takeaways:

• Recognising that teenagers communicate in different ways, and being open to non-traditional formats, such as texts or notes, can be crucial in maintaining open lines of communication.
• Setting boundaries and normalising body image insecurities are essential conversations parents should have with their teens amidst the bombardment of social media influences.
• Mental health in adolescents is more openly discussed now than ever before, yet parents still need strategies to identify and address potential signs of depression or anxiety.
• Encouraging resilience and connection to safe adults outside of the parental unit can provide teens with additional support systems.
• It’s never too late to start or repair relationships with your children, emphasising that consistent effort and an open heart can lead to positive outcomes.

Notable Quotes:

• Teenagers are always communicating with you, even if it’s not with words. Look for communication in their behaviors.
• Technology is the biggest difference in this generation to our generation, having the smartphone in their pockets all the time.
• You can be paying all the money for tutors, schools in the world. You are flushing it down the toilet if your child is not having good enough sleep.

• Children crave boundaries. They don’t need a 40-year-old BFF; they need you to be their parent.
• Our young people often clam up with us because they think we’re either going to freak out or it’s going to be a lecture.

Resources:

• Collette Smart’s book: “They’ll Be Okay: 15 Conversations to Help Your Child Through Troubled Times”
• Collette Smart’s podcast Raising Teens with Collett Smart

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About the Guest:

Dr. Naras Lapsys is a longevity expert, recognized for his profound knowledge and contributions to the field. With a keen interest that dates back over a decade, Dr. Lapsys has been at the forefront of the conversation surrounding longevity medicine and healthy aging. His professional career includes extensive research and a deep understanding of the aging process that has contributed to his expertise. He is a key figure in the field, contributing to the foundation of longevity medicine and being part of the society that champions this emerging medical specialty.

Episode Summary:

In this engaging episode of “She Wasn’t Born Yesterday,” hosts Janet Evans and Dr. Amelia Haines engage in an illuminating conversation with Dr. Naras Lapsys, an expert in the field of longevity medicine. The discussion delves into the intricacies of aging and the pursuit of extending both health span and life span. Beginning with personal anecdotes and smoothly transitioning into a scientific exploration, the dialogue is fuelled by curiosity and a quest for practical insights for those over 40.

Dr. Lapsys shares his profound insights into the difference between health span and life span, underlining the importance of quality of life in one’s later years. The episode is rich with discussions on caloric intake, exercise, and the impact of longevity medicine as an evolving field. Emphasizing the role of consistent lifestyle choices beginning at an early age, Dr. Lapsys offers actionable advice backed by scientific research. The episode is not only educational but serves as a motivational tool, encouraging listeners to actively participate in shaping their aging journey as well as the distinctions between longevity, aging gracefully, and healthy living.

Key Takeaways:

• Caloric Intake and Body Composition: Overconsumption of calories is a significant contributor to aging; maintaining an optimal caloric balance and body composition is crucial for health span extension.
• Exercise as a Priority: Daily physical activity, irrespective of weather conditions, is paramount in promoting longevity and improving quality of life as we age.
• The Impact of Longevity Medicine: This emerging specialty in medicine focuses on enhancing health span by targeting the aging process early on and throughout life.
• Blue Zones: These are regions where people live exceptionally long, healthy lives, providing a template for lifestyle habits that promote longevity.
• Lifestyle Choices and Aging: Early and consistent healthy lifestyle choices, including diet and exercise, play a pivotal role in determining the quality of aging.

Notable Quotes:

1. You could go to your next reunion and be with your classmates from high school graduation… and see that some of them are looking like they’re aging a bit better or worse than others.
2. How many calories are we consuming? One good way is you just look at yourselves. We can look at ourselves in the mirror.
3. Healthy longevity medicine is optimizing health span by targeting the aging process across the lifespan.
4. It’s a decision that we make – Dr. Lapsys on actively participating in one’s healthy aging process.

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About the Guest:

Ben McEachen is the mornings presenter at Sydney's Hope 103.2 and is actively involved in a community support program known as Divorce Care, which he runs with his wife, Amy. With his life experience of separation and divorce, Ben brings a wealth of personal insight to the course, which is designed to help individuals navigate the emotional terrain of divorce. The initiative aims to offer guidance, support, and a space for healing and reflection for those going through one of life’s most challenging transitions.

Episode Summary:

In this earnest episode of “She Wasn’t Born Yesterday,” hosts Amelia and Janet delve into the complex and often misunderstood journey of life after divorce. The conversation features Ben McEachen, whose personal encounter with divorce inspired him to facilitate a program called Divorce Care, aimed at guiding people through the emotional labyrinth that follows the dissolution of a marriage.

Throughout the discussion, Ben touches on the profound impact of separation and divorce, not just on the individuals directly involved, but on their social circles, children, and community at large. The conversation weaves through the various phases participants experience, from the shock and grief immediate to the separation to the potentially empowering steps towards forgiveness, new beginnings, and self-reflection. This ep promises valuable insights into navigating divorce with compassion and the potential for personal growth.

Key Takeaways:

• Divorce can have traumatic effects, ranking as the second most stressful life event after the death of a spouse.
• Divorce Care is a biblically-based support course providing a platform for those dealing with the ramifications of divorce.
• The process of divorce touches upon various aspects of life, including the emotional impact, financial implications, and the dynamics of parenting post-separation.
• Forgiveness is a pivotal theme in the recovery process, acknowledging one’s own role in the dissolution as well as releasing bitterness towards the ex-spouse.
• The discussion emphasizes the importance of community support, especially within the church, during the often lonely journey of divorce.

Notable Quotes:

• “If you imagine ripping [a united marriage] apart, it’s totally understandable that people would be traumatized.”
• “The ripple effects [of divorce] are just, I think, more wide-reaching than what most people would realize.”
• “Even if you are 99.9% in the right…what is it that you brought to this relationship?”

• “Forgiveness is like the key that unlocks the door that can free you from…prison.”
• “It still seems like…churches don’t quite know what to do with separation and divorce.”

Resources:

Divorce Care was highlighted as the primary resource for individuals seeking support through their divorce. To find a local Divorce Care group, individuals can search online and find information regarding sign-ups and meetings.

Sign up here for the specific Divorce Care program which Ben and Amy hosts in Sydney's Inner West.

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About the Guest:

Dr. Marshall Ballantine-Jones is a seasoned researcher in the field of pornography’s effects, specializing in its epidemiological impacts on adolescents and young adults. With a PhD from Sydney University (Discipline of Child and Adolescent Health), he has conducted an extensive study under the supervision of renowned experts like Dr. Patricia Weerakoon. Dr. Ballantine-Jones is also the CEO of Digihelp, an organization that creates a school based program addressing sexualised media (pornography) in the online world and consults with schools to mitigate the negative impacts of this sexualization.

Episode Summary:

In this episode of "She Wasn't Born Yesterday," hosts Janet Evans and Dr. Amelia Haines engage in a conversation with an expert on the convergence of porn, mental health, and relationships, Dr. Marshall Ballantine-Jones. With rising concerns about the pervasive influence of pornography, this episode delves into the complex realities and the psychological underpinnings behind porn consumption.

Dr. Ballantine-Jones brings his extensive research to the table as he explains the neurological changes induced by frequent porn use and how this shapes behavior and decision-making. The candid conversation navigates through the challenges brought forth by porn addiction, the societal implications, and the unique dynamics as it pertains to women viewers and the hypersexualized portrayal of women in media.

Key insights are shared about parental engagement, educational strategies, and the brain's ability to reform from addictive patterns. The pod emphasizes the importance of confronting this sensitive topic, the role of communication in overcoming addiction, and the societal shifts that might encourage a healthier approach to human sexuality.

Key Takeaways:

• Pornography consumption can lead to the development of new neural pathways that prioritize porn use over other dopamine-producing activities, potentially leading to addictive behaviors.
• The impact of pornography varies between males and females, with women tending to engage with content that appeals to a narrative structure, like romance and intimacy.
• Engaging conversations with adolescents and young adults about the dangers of pornography and hypersexualized media can significantly influence their perceptions and behaviors.
• Personal struggles with pornography addiction require open discussions, therapeutic support, and engaging in new, fulfilling activities to form healthier neural pathways.
• The broader societal narrative around sexuality and empowerment can cloud the judgment about pornography's harmful effects, making informed, critical conversations all the more vital.

Notable Quotes:

• When you do high dopamine producing activities in repetition, our brain will fast track new neural pathways…
• Women who statistically find themselves regularly engaging with a form of pornography…tend to have a complex backstory…
• People are sexual beings and people like sexual pleasure. If someone's offering that for free, on tap…what's going to stop you?
• The only way that we're going to get genuine, community-wide, systemic pushback on pornography is if the hearts and minds of people are convinced that this is not good.
• I'd encourage you to do these things. I'd encourage you to talk to someone trusted about it…spend some time with a therapist…invest in new hobbies and passions…

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About the Guest:

Renae Leith Manos is an entrepreneur, journalist, luxury travel commentator, and coach. She is the founder of Renae's World, a leading authority in the global luxury hotel, restaurant, and spa review sector. With a background in journalism and a passion for luxury hotels and restaurants, Ranae has established herself as a prominent influencer in the travel industry. She has a wealth of experience in reviewing hotels and restaurants and has built strong relationships with industry professionals around the world.

Episode Summary:

In this episode, Janet and Amelia interview Renae Leith Manos, a 40+ influencer and founder of Renae's World. They deep dive into the reality of being an influencer and the hard work that goes into creating content and building a following. Renae shares her journey from being a journalist to launching her own brand focused on luxury travel. She discusses the challenges and rewards of being an influencer, the importance of authenticity, and the evolving trends in the luxury hotel industry. Renae also talks about her consulting business and her passion for mentoring young women in the digital media space.

Key Takeaways:

• Being an influencer is not just about taking pretty pictures and posting them online. It requires hard work, discipline, and a deep understanding of the industry.
• Authenticity is key in building a loyal following. People are looking for real experiences and genuine connections, not just polished and airbrushed content.
• The future of luxury hotels is changing, with a focus on wellness, sustainability, and personalized experiences. Hotels need to adapt to these trends to meet the evolving needs of their guests.
• Building a large following on social media takes time and effort. Engaging with your audience, sharing personal stories, and providing valuable content are essential for attracting and retaining followers.
• Influencers have the power to make a positive impact on the travel industry by supporting and promoting hotels and brands that align with their values and provide exceptional experiences.

Notable Quotes:

• "I think influencing is certainly one of those areas where there's a lot of smoke and mirrors in life."
• "You have to be bright, courageous, and resilient to succeed as an influencer."
• "None of this is real. What you see on Instagram or social media is not reality."

Resources:

• Ranae's World - Website
• Ranae's Instagram - Instagram

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About the Guest:

Victoria is a senior executive at a multinational company. Her career encompasses roles in people management, talent management, and operations. Known for her strategy formulation and execution, she stands out as a multifaceted professional. However, Victoria’s story is not just about her professional achievements; it’s also about her personal journey overcoming domestic abuse, rebuilding her life, and finding love again post-divorce. She uses her managerial position to make change and support women going through similar crises.

Episode Summary:

In this revealing episode of “She Wasn’t Born Yesterday,” hosts Dr. Amelia Haines and Janet Evans speak with Victoria, who opens up about her experiences of finding love after a traumatic past involving domestic violence. Victoria’s candid discussion offers insights into the complexities of starting anew, providing support for women 40+ who are navigating similar challenges.

Victoria’s journey encapsulates the harrowing experience of domestic abuse while highlighting the resilience needed to escape and reconstruct a life of safety and happiness. The episode delves into her approach to dating and the process of rebuilding trust in new relationships. With a poignant and hopeful narrative, Victoria’s story underscores the possibility of rediscovering love and the importance of self-care.

Key Takeaways:

• Domestic violence survivors can rebuild their lives and find love again with time and healing.
• Supportive work environments play a crucial role in providing solace and stability during times of personal turmoil.
• Creating a safe and strategic plan is paramount when leaving an abusive relationship.
• Entering the dating scene with a sense of fun and adventure is beneficial, rather than searching for someone to “fix” past trauma.
• Open communication about past experiences in new relationships can lay a foundation for trust and understanding.

Notable Quotes:

• “Being alive is way better than being dead … every day is a great day to be alive.”
• “It didn’t impact how I saw other men.”
• “I felt ready again to actually think about those things and, yeah, start dating again.”
• “If he walks away after knowing this, then it wasn’t meant to be anyway.”

Resources:

The resources mentioned in the podcast include Lifeline, a crisis support service (Phone 13 11 14 here in Australia).

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About the Guest:

Mark Tedeschi is a former New South Wales Senior Crown Prosecutor with over 20 years of experience. He has prosecuted high-profile cases, including the backpacker serial killer Ivan Milat, and has written several true crime books. Mark is also an accomplished photographer, with a keen interest in capturing the beauty of the world around us.

Episode Summary:

Janet and Dr. Amelia of the “She Wasn’t Born Yesterday” podcast sit down and chat with Mark Tedeschi, a renowned former Senior Crown Prosecutor. They delve into the fascination with true crime, the intricacies of prosecuting a case, and the challenges faced by prosecutors. Mark shares insights from his experience and emphasizes the importance of maintaining objectivity and professionalism in the courtroom. The conversation also touches on the 'no body, no parole' law and the complexities of relationships with criminals.

Key Takeaways:

• Women are often more interested in true crime due to their focus on relationships and societal positions.
• Prosecutors have the responsibility to present the case to the best of their ability, regardless of personal beliefs about the defendant’s guilt.
• The no body, no parole law can be counterproductive and may not lead to the discovery of missing bodies.
• Maintaining contact with the outside world is critical for prisoners, and some may insist on maintaining their innocence to preserve those connections.
• Families of both victims and perpetrators can be deeply affected by a crime, often struggling to accept the actions of their loved ones.

Notable Quotes:

• “The whole system of jail discipline and order relies upon people who behave well in jail getting parole.” - Mark Tedeschi
• “Often, people are victims of their circumstances, but that doesn’t excuse what they’ve done.” - Mark Tedeschi
• “It’s very easy to have a relationship with someone who you visit once a week or once a fortnight.” - Mark Tedeschi
• “She got herself into a terrible situation quite openly. She must have known that at some stage it would all come crashing down.” - Mark Tedeschi

Resources:

• Mark Tedeschi’s website

Be sure to listen to the full episode for an in-depth view into the issue of true crime. Stay tuned for more enlightening content from “She Wasn’t Born Yesterday.”

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