How to Deal with Your Abandonment Issues

Are you constantly pouring into others without anyone pouring into you? 

In this episode, we talk about abandoned people and how their hurt stops them from connecting with others. 

Being alone is not the worst thing, being alone and suffering in silence is the worst thing. Sometimes when you’re abandoned and left alone for so long, you no longer want to be around people or accept their help.

Hurt and abandoned people are always trying to help others, which makes the situation worse for everyone involved. It becomes a selfish issue that’s not about helping the other person but proving we’re enough to be kept around. 

An abandoned person is always trying to overdeliver by giving what is not being given to them, which only stops others from delivering to them. You are the reason you find yourself suffering alone because your cup will run out eventually. Remember that you’re not obligated to serve anyone unless you serve yourself. Helping yourself is not selfish because you can only fully give when you’re giving yourself.

It is important to care about the other person’s perspective to effectively communicate in a community. Be empathetic when communicating so as not to damage others and yourself in the process. Stop reacting off of your hurt, learn about yourself, and how to communicate so you don’t hurt others. Find a balance between giving others and yourself so you don’t fall back into your hurt.