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In this episode of The Divorce Chapter, I look at finding "happily ever after" after divorce, particularly focusing on the potential for new relationships and maybe even saying ‘I do’ again.

Inspired by my goddaughter's wedding today, I reflect on the value of love and commitment, even after the heartbreak of a failed marriage. My marriage broke down because my ex-husband didn’t value marriage as I did, not because marriage itself is screwed as a concept.

In this episode, I share some personal anecdotes, practical advice, and uplifting insights to help you think about navigating the world of new relationships post-divorce.

Here’s a sneak peek of what we cover:

- The importance of taking time to heal

- Rediscovering and loving yourself first

- Setting boundaries and knowing your worth

- The necessity of vulnerability in building new relationships

- Practical steps to move forward with an open heart

“Every relationship is unique, and just because one marriage didn’t work out doesn’t mean the concept of marriage is flawed.”

I honestly believe that our past doesn’t define our future, and there’s always hope for a beautiful new chapter in our lives. Whether you're resolutely single like me or if you do want to venture into marriage 2.0, this episode has something for everyone.

I hope you enjoy it 🌸

(and if you do love it then please please please could you rate and review the episode too 💕)

Sending you SO much love

Sarah x

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P.S. For more on moving on a creating our new chapter, we have chosen August’s book over in the Divorce Book Club;

It’s Not You: How to Identify and Heal from Narcissistic People by Dr Ramani Durvasula. Dr Ramani is an expert in narcissistic abuse (including non-intimate relationships like a parent or your boss!)

http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1785045024/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21

I’d love to see you over there 📚

We start 1 August

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In this episode, we take a look at hyper-independence, a common but often overlooked issue that many of us face after going through a divorce.

It maybe starts as a new found independence and autonomy after breaking free from a co-dependent toxic relationship…. But soon ends up going to the other extreme where we refuse to ask for help, and become SO self-reliant…. To the point it can just get too overwhelming.

If you’ve ever found yourself feeling like you need to handle EVERYTHING on your own, this episode is for you.

What to Expect in This Episode:

• Understanding Hyper-Independence: What is hyper-independence and how does it differ from healthy self-reliance?
• I share my own journey from codependency to hyper-independence and some of the lessons I’ve learned along the way in getting back to healthy independence.
• Learn actionable strategies to strike a balance of healthy independence.

Divorce can be a challenging journey, but you really don’t have to navigate it alone.

This episode is packed with insights and advice to help you find your path to healthy independence and emotional well-being.

I hope you enjoy it 🌸

(and if you do love it then please please please could you rate and review the episode too 💕)

Sending you SO much love

Sarah x

🌸

P.S. For more on moving on a creating our new chapter, we have chosen August’s book over in the Divorce Book Club;

It’s Not You: How to Identify and Heal from Narcissistic People by Dr Ramani Durvasula. Dr Ramani is an expert in narcissistic abuse (including non-intimate relationships like a parent or your boss!)

http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1785045024/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21

I’d love to see you over there 📚

We start 1 August

Link to join below ⬇️

THE DIVORCE BOOK CLUB

https://patreon.com/thedivorcebookclub

FREE Guide to the 10 MUST read divorce books after divorce

https://thedivorcebookclub.com/free-resources/

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In this week’s episode of The Divorce Chapter podcast, I had a fantastic conversation with Elisa Lindstrom, a decluttering expert and founder of "Dear Loves Just Breathe."

In our discussion, Elisa shares her personal journey, where she began her own decluttering journey amidst a challenging divorce.

Elisa's insights into the emotional and practical aspects of decluttering are invaluable, especially for those navigating a difficult divorce.

Key Highlights:

- The emotional challenges of decluttering during a divorce.

- Practical tips on what to declutter (and what not to).

- Handling emotionally charged items like wedding photos and gifts.

- Creating a peaceful and intentional home environment post-divorce.

- Information on Elisa’s decluttering programs.

Elisa emphasizes the importance of intentionally creating a home that feels safe and full of love, which is essential during and after a divorce. Her advice is not just about organising your space but also about finding peace and reconnecting with yourself.

Don’t forget to check out her website too for more information on her decluttering programmes.

www.dearlovesjustbreathe.com

The book Elisa mentions in the episode too is:

http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/0809225379/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21

I hope you enjoy the episode - and if you do, please share it with someone who might benefit from it ❤️

Loads of Love

Sarah x

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In this empowering episode, we go deep into the concepts of self-care, self-love, and self-worth, and explore how they are crucial in overcoming codependency, especially in the aftermath of divorce.

We cover:

💗The Fabergé Egg Analogy: Learn how to recognise and protect your unique value.

💗Understanding Key Concepts: Differentiate between self-care, self-love, and self-worth, and understand their importance in your healing journey.

💗Breaking Free from Codependency: Discover practical steps to reclaim your self and set healthy boundaries.

This episode is all about helping you to see your value, practice self-care, and embrace self-love as you navigate life post-divorce.

And most of all, help you find that fuck YES energy to turn the divorce plot twist into happy ever after 💪

Thank you for listening to the episode…. If you enjoy it, I’d love it if you’d leave a review and/or share the show with someone you think it would help 🥰

I want everyone to find themselves again (especially given each of us are 1 in 400 trillion 🤷🏽‍♀️)

Loads of Love

Sarah x

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P.S. We started a new book in the Divorce Book Club this week but you’re never too late to join.

How to Do You by Jacqueline Hurst….

http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B098GSZ11T/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21

If you fancy joining us, check it out here ⬇️

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In this episode of the Divorce Chapter podcast, I dive deep into the often overlooked and insidious issue of financial abuse.

I share my own experience of being financially controlled and manipulated by my ex-husband and discuss how financial abuse can happen to anyone, regardless of age, gender, or economic status.

You’ll hear about the various forms it can take, from controlling access to money and sabotaging employment to accumulating debt in someone else’s name.

I delve into the warning signs to watch for, the profound impact it can have on victims, and the steps you can take to protect yourself or someone you know.

Whether you’re currently experiencing financial abuse, suspect it might be happening, or simply want to be informed, this episode is packed with valuable insights and resources.

Women's Aid: Offers support services and a directory of local domestic abuse services.

https://www.womensaid.org.uk/

Refuge: Provides emergency housing, support, and advocacy for women and children escaping domestic violence.

https://refuge.org.uk/

National Domestic Abuse Helpline: A 24-hour helpline offering confidential support and advice.

https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/contact-us/

Turn2us is a national charity offering information and practical support to people facing financial insecurity.

https://www.turn2us.org.uk/

Tune in to understand how financial abuse works, how to recognise it, and most importantly, how to protect yourself and seek help.

This episode is a must-listen for anyone wanting to learn more about this critical issue and how to safeguard against it.

PLEASE reach out if you need support 🌸

Sending you SO much love

Sarah x

🌸

P.S. For more on moving on a creating our new chapter, we have chosen July’s book over in the Divorce Book Club; it’s How to Do You by Jacqueline Hurst; you can check it out here -

http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B098GSZ11T/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21

I’d love to see you over there 📚

We start 1 July.

Link to join below ⬇️

THE DIVORCE BOOK CLUB

https://patreon.com/thedivorcebookclub

FREE Guide to the 10 MUST read divorce books after divorce

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On this week’s episode we have the amazing Legally Nik as our wonderful first ever guest on the Divorce Chapter pod.

Nik is a trained family lawyer specialising in child protection and she also is a co-parenting, counter- parenting mentor. Bridging the gap between the law and real life, Nik provides not only legal guidance to your personal matters, but equips you with strategies and coping mechanisms to get through what can only be described as, one of the most painful points of your life. Nik is a mum herself and is just an utterly fabulous human doing fantastic work and I utterly LOVED recording this episode with her.

There are so many takeaways in the episode:

• Explaining co-parenting, counter-parenting and parallel parenting.
• Managing the parenting relationship with a difficult ex.
• Different family dynamics.
• Dealing with litigation abuse.
• Putting children first.
• The importance of compartmentalising our pain.

And so much more.

I hope you enjoy listening to the episode as much as I enjoyed recording it.

(And if you do, I’d love it if you could rate and review the episode 🫶)

You can find Nik here -

www.legallynik.co.uk

instagram.com/legallynik/

Enjoy 🩷

Sending you SO much love

Sarah x

🌸

P.S. We have chosen July’s book over in the Divorce Book Club; it’s How to Do You by Jacqueline Hurst; you can check it out here -

http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B098GSZ11T/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21

I’d love to see you over there 📚Link to join below ⬇️

THE DIVORCE BOOK CLUB

https://patreon.com/thedivorcebookclub

FREE Guide to the 10 MUST read divorce books after divorce

https://thedivorcebookclub.com/free-resources/

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This week’s episode looks at the controversy and scandal of infidelity through the lens of the Ashley Madison documentary now streaming on Netflix (*spoiler alert for those who haven’t yet watched it*) (There is also a trigger warning for suicide)

As someone who has navigated the painful path of betrayal and divorce, I watched this documentary with both caution and curiosity.

In the episode I delve into the murky waters of the dating site designed specifically for married individuals seeking affairs; from the alarming marketing strategies to the fallout of the infamous 2015 hack.

I discuss stories of individuals shown in the documentary who were affected by the hack, including the superficial portrayal of forgiveness and reconciliation (not to mention some religious hypocrisy).

I also talk about the heart-breaking consequences faced by the real victims—the betrayed spouses, which in my view was the part the documentary failed to meaningfully cover.

There was a lot of focus in the documentary on the impact of the hack as opposed to the impact of the betrayal, and I cover this and more in this episode…

...as well as the discovery of a potential link with my own ex-husband.

Do let me know what you thought of the documentary (and the episode)

Until next time, sending you loads of love

Sarah x

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In this episode of The Divorce Chapter podcast, we talk through an overview of the hugely impactful book "Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life" by Tracy Schorn, aka Chump Lady.

You can find the book here:
http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/0762458968/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21

This book was highlighted in the Divorce Book Club in May and is an utterly invaluable resource for those dealing with infidelity.

What You'll Learn:

📚 Key Terms & Concepts: Understand the language of betrayal with terms like "chumps" and "cheaters" that help frame your experience more objectively.

📚 It's Not Your Fault: Discover why being cheated on is never your fault and how to reclaim your self-worth.

📚 Cheater Tactics: Learn about the manipulative behaviors cheaters use and how to see through their deceit.

📚 Avoid Common Rookie Mistakes: Get super practical advice on avoiding common pitfalls when dealing with infidelity.

📚 Reclaim Your Life: Tips and strategies for moving forward and rebuilding your life authentically.

Tracy Schorn's no-nonsense approach and empowering messages are exactly what we need to hear as we navigate this challenging chapter of our lives. This episode is packed with insights from the book that will help you transform your heartbreak into strength and set you on the path to your new happy-ever-after.

If you found the episode useful, please do come over and join us in The Divorce Book Club.

This month, we're reading "The Art of Being Alone" by Renuka Gavrani. It's never too late to join, and you'll have access to all our past book discussions and resources.

You can find the book here:

http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0C5L2384H/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21

Until next time, sending you loads of love

Sarah x

🌸

THE DIVORCE BOOK CLUB

https://patreon.com/thedivorcebookclub

FREE Guide to the 10 MUST read divorce books after divorce

https://thedivorcebookclub.com/free-resources/

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