One of the most horrific and insidious consequences of coercive control and dv is the systematic way in which an abuser strips away their victim’s sense of self and identity. One of the most impactful parts of the healing process is rebuilding that connection with the self and redefining your roles and identities.

On this episode, I invited my friend and colleague, Erin Siegel to share how the framework of Human Design has been pivotal as she heals from her abuse and continued post separation abuse and how it could be a tool for your healing as well.

Erin Siegel, Master Aesthetician, Certified High Conflict Divorce and Parenting Coach, and Human Design guide and Creatrix of Fortitude & Flourish, shares how this powerful system has supported her own transformation and how it can support yours, especially while navigating healing trauma and navigating the family courts.

Books Mentioned:
• A Modern Guide to Human Design by Rachel Lieberman
• The Definitive Book of Human Design: The Science of Differentiation by Ra Uru Hu & Lynda Bunnell

Human Design App:
• HDesign App – Why we love it: You can add your children’s charts and gain insights on how to parent and relate more consciously.

Explore your unique blueprint and connect with community through one of our upcoming events:
→ Human Design Social Gathering
→ Divorce Unlocked Community Gatherings

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For many survivors, the deepest wound from coercive control is the loss of your connection to who you truly are. And for many women, especially protective mothers, your role as a mom becomes so entwined with your identity that life changes. Whether it's from abuse, family court challenges, or shifting seasons of parenting. It can all feel cataclysmic.

I’m joined by my friend and colleague, Stephanie Konter- O’Hara, LPC, to have an honest conversation about rebuilding identity after abuse. We explore how societal pressures, “supermom” expectations, and systemic biases in parenting roles impact women’s sense of worth. We also share tips for reconnecting with your authentic self, redefining your roles, and parenting in alignment with your values, even under the watchful eye of family court or in the face of counter-parenting.

We cover:

• Why abuse and coercive control so effectively strip away identity and autonomy
• The difference between “role” and “identity” in parenting for mothers and fathers
• How societal biases and family court systems reinforce perfectionism for moms
• The dangers of tying your worth to “performing” motherhood perfectly
• How to reframe parenting decisions through values rather than outside pressure
• Why connection, not perfection, creates lasting impact on your kids
• Navigating limited or supervised parenting time while keeping connection alive
• The role of community and shared stories in healing from relational trauma

Whether you’re still in the storm of family court or finally in a season where healing feels possible, this episode offers hope, practical tools, and reminders that you are already enough just as you are.

Connect with Stephanie:

• Instagram: @redefining_us_pod
• Website: www.wellmindedcounseling.com/redefining_us_pod

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You worked SO hard to find a therapist for your child and getting consent from your ex was no easy feat. And now your child isn’t talking.

If your child isn’t talking in therapy — or worse, tells you it’s “boring” or “pointless” — you’re not alone. Many parents feel discouraged or even panicked when therapy doesn’t look the way they expected. In this episode, I’ll walk you through the common reasons children (especially those navigating trauma or high-conflict family dynamics) may shut down in therapy — and what you can do to support the process without getting in the way.

We’ll talk about:

• Why silence in therapy isn’t necessarily a bad sign
• What NOT to do when your child seems disengaged
• Simple ways to support trust-building between your child and their therapist
• When (and how) to check in with the therapist
• Why patience and presence are your superpowers as a parent

You’ll leave with practical ideas and a deeper understanding of how healing actually starts for kids — even when they’re not saying much.

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It’s that time of the year when kids go back to school. This is stressful for most families, but if you are coparenting with a narcissist the stress can increase exponentially.

In this episode we are talking about how the start of the school year opens up opportunities for your ex to double down on their smear campaign, their continued expectations of you to be their secretary even though you are no longer together, and other ways they cause chaos at the school. But, there are things that you can do to minimize their attacks and maintain your sanity during a stressful time of year. Listen for some tips.

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If you’ve ever had to interact with Child Protective Services (CPS), you know the process can feel confusing, overwhelming, and, let’s be honest, downright terrifying. Whether you’ve made a report, had one made against you, or are just trying to protect your child in the midst of a high-conflict situation, understanding the system is key.

In this episode, I’m speaking with Christine Garcia, LPC, a seasoned therapist and fierce advocate for families, to demystify what actually happens when CPS gets involved. Together, we discuss how the system works (and how it doesn’t), what survivors of domestic violence need to know, and how to best communicate and document when CPS is part of your reality.

We don’t shy away from the hard stuff, like how the system can retraumatize survivors or misunderstand coercive control, but we also offer practical tips for how to protect yourself and your child through the process.

Connect with Christine:

https://cwccolorado.com/

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In this episode, I go on a bit of a rant—and for good reason.

When people in positions of power make sweeping decisions without input from the people most affected, the results are often not just ineffective… they’re harmful.

I share a recent example from my own therapy practice, where state-level Medicaid changes made by HCPF (Colorado’s Department of Health Care Policy & Financing) have had huge ripple effects—harming my team’s ability to provide care and hurting the very clients those changes were supposed to help.

And unfortunately, this isn’t a one-off issue. It’s a pattern we see all the time in the family court system.

Survivors of domestic violence are rarely invited to the table when reforms are discussed or policies are implemented. Professionals make assumptions, apply blanket solutions, and often ignore the lived experiences of the people navigating these systems every single day.

In this episode, I explore:

• Why top-down decisions without feedback loops cause damage
• How survivors are continuously silenced and sidelined in court processes
• The emotional toll of fighting systems that claim to help—but don’t listen
• Why true change must include the voices of those impacted

Whether you’ve felt powerless in court, frustrated by the mental health system, or just plain angry at the disconnect between what’s needed and what’s delivered—this one’s for you.

Tune in and share your own story. We need more survivor voices in these conversations.

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Money isn't just about numbers—it's about our stories, our sense of worth, and the messages we've absorbed over time.

In this powerful episode, I'm speaking with a financial therapist (and friend) Khara, Croswaite Brindle, LPC, CFT to explore how our beliefs about money are deeply shaped by our past—especially for survivors of abuse. We talk about how messages from childhood, cultural conditioning, and the experience of financial abuse or control from an ex-partner can distort the way we view ourselves and our financial decisions.

If you've ever felt shame, fear, or confusion around money, or if you've found yourself stuck in scarcity or self-sabotage, tune into this one.

Khara also shares practical tools and mindset shifts you can start using today to challenge negative money beliefs and begin healing your relationship with finances. You’ll learn that financial wellness isn't just about saving or budgeting—it's about reclaiming your autonomy and rewriting the story that money tells about you.

Connect with Khara:

• https://www.linkedin.com/in/kharacroswaite/
• https://croswaitecounselingpllc.com/financial-therapy
• https://www.instagram.com/kharacroswaite/

References:

• Financial therapist (online directory): https://financialtherapyassociation.org/find-a-financial-therapist/
• Financial Therapy Books List: https://www.riverbendfinancialtherapy.com/resources
• Money Minus Shame Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/money-minus-shame/id1789593271
• Money Healing Club (online community): https://www.moneyhealingclub.com/
• Book (and workbook of financial therapy exercises) Your Enneagram and Money: https://a.co/d/bQGu3oo

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If you’ve ever felt like you’re not enough, no matter how hard you try, this episode is for you. In this episode, we explore how trauma and post-separation abuse can wire your brain for shame, self-doubt, and a deep sense of inadequacy.

You’ll learn how those “not good enough” beliefs aren’t your truth - instead you’ll see that they are neural pathways shaped by chronic invalidation, coercion, and fear. And most importantly, you’ll hear ways to begin disrupting that narrative and cultivating a sense of worthiness from within.

In this episode I talk about:

• Why survivors of abuse often carry deep-seated beliefs of inadequacy
• How trauma and repeated invalidation shape your brain’s sense of self
• Small, doable acts of self-trust that begin to rewire that belief
• How to root into your values and start showing up for yourself
• The power of recognizing this belief as part of the trauma, not your identity

You don’t have to be perfect, healed, or strong all the time to be enough. You already are.

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