Can we perfect perfectionism without succumbing to anxiety? Join us for an enlightening episode as we sit down with Dr. Eddie O'Connor, a renowned expert in sport psychology, to explore how becoming the "perfect perfectionist" and shifting our perspective on failure can lead us closer to peak performance in all aspects of life without the burden of pressure, anxiety and depression.

Dr. O'Connor shares invaluable insights on how embracing failure as a natural part of the learning process can propel us towards our goals. By reframing failure as an opportunity for growth and self-discovery, he guides listeners on a transformative journey towards resilience and success.

Through practical strategies and real-life examples, Dr. O'Connor demonstrates how to cultivate a healthy relationship with striving and failure, enabling us to bounce back stronger and more determined than ever. From athletes striving for victory to individuals pursuing personal and professional aspirations, his wisdom offers a roadmap to navigate setbacks with grace and resilience.

Tune in to discover how to harness the power of failure as a stepping stone towards peak performance, and embark on a journey of self-improvement with confidence and resilience.

Dr. Eddie O’Connor is a professional speaker and both clinical and sport psychologist, specializing in removing barriers to peak performance. He is a Fellow and Certified Mental Performance Consultant through the Association for Applied Sport Psychology, and member of the United States Olympic Committee Sport Psychology Registry. Dr. Eddie has worked with youth, high school, collegiate, national and international, Junior Olympic and professional athletes and coaches, as well as performing artists and musicians.

Dr. Eddie is frequently sought after by media, appearing regularly on FOX News in Grand Rapids, a featured guest on SiriusXM’s Doctor Radio, and quoted in ESPN.com, NBA.com, Los Angeles Times, Runner’s World, NYMag.com, and CNN.com.

He is author and host of “The Psychology of Performance: How to Be Your Best in Life” by The Great Courses, quoted in the New York Times as being the “Netflix of learning” who recruit “the world’s greatest professors” that “are truly special.”

An international presenter with over 350 speaking engagements and media appearances, Dr. Eddie delivers a powerful and entertaining message to his audience.

Resources
https://dreddieoconnor.com/
Success Stories Community at www.dreddieoconnor.com/membership not only can this be great for the nonprofessional person to overcome their internal obstacles to excellence, but I have a few psychologists in the membership who use it to enhance their own lives, professional practice, and share lessons learned with their clients!

Psychological Flexibility Skills for the HRF at https://www.dynamicprinciples.com/hrf-act/ This is a great intro into the psychological flexibility skills we discussed, embedded into the Human Rehabilitation Framework. Even if rehab isn't your thing, the overview of ACT is a very applied introduction and includes clinical exercises and examples to facilitate practice. It is a course for professionals.

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What is childhood alarm? How are some traditional approaches to childhood anxiety developmentally inappropriate? Does CBT work for kids? What can we do instead?

All of this and more in this episode with the holistic family psychologist, Ashleigh Warner.

Ashleigh has spent over a decade working with families in various settings. Ashleigh has a Masters Degree in Educational and Developmental Psychology and is a registered Psychologist with the Australian Health Practitioner Regulation Agency. She has worked in Thailand, Kenya, The Solomon Islands and now resides home in Australia, where she is raising her young family. Ashleigh has also trained in Family Therapy and has extensive experience working with families as a whole system.

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Hey everyone, thank you for listening to This Hour has 50 Minutes. After much deliberation, I have made the decision to end the podcast for a host of personal and professional reasons. There are two more episodes coming out before we end. Be sure to check those out.

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I want to thank everyone for listening and being with me on this journey.

Thank you to all of my incredible guests for sharing your time and wisdom with me and my listeners.

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Many adults seek services for struggles in their lives that may be the result of undiagnosed or overlooked ADHD. Often these challenges become more apparent when significant changes in their lives throw off their coping. In this podcourse, Dr. Jessica Stern joins Dr. Tamara to discuss what brings these adults to therapy, how to differentiate ADHD from overwhelm, type A personality, or parenting burnout, especially for the "shefault parent".

Dr. Jessica Stern is a licensed clinical psychologist, consultant, speaker, and media contributor. a clinical assistant professor at NYU Langone Health. She specializes in adult ADHD, anxiety, depression, trauma, and burnout with a passion in values-aligned productivity and corporate wellness. She’s the host of the psychiatry show on SiriusXM’s Doctor Radio and serves on the advisory committee of Wondermind.

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Natalie Brunswick joins Dr. Tamara Soles to discuss high sensitivity. Natalie shares the definition of high sensitivity and sheds light on the core features and how they relate to fear responses and heightened anxiety. As an OT and a psychotherapist, her insights on the sensory processing piece are incredibly valuable. The hosts also tackle a common clinical challenge- competing sensory needs between a parent and child.

Highlights

What is High Sensitivity?
What are the core features?
How do anxiety and our fear response relate to high anxiety
Mirror neurons and high sensitivity
High sensitivity and sensory processing
How to navigate competing sensory needs between a parent and child

Resources
Quiz "Are you a highly sensitive parent"?
Natalie's newsletter
Elaine Aron's website

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Allyson Dinneen joins me to discuss embracing vulnerability, and boundaries and making space for even our most uncomfortable emotions. Allyson shares how to transform childhood patterns of fixing people’s problems and making people happy to instead accompany people with compassion on their emotional journey.

Allyson Dinneen is a marriage and family therapist and mental health counselor who started the Notes From Your Therapist Instagram project, which currently has almost 400K followers. Allyson’s notes and insights on emotions, relationships, and life have been featured in Huffington Post, Shape, Cosmopolitan, and more. She lives in the Berkshires, Massachusetts and works in private practice.

Highlights:
The purpose of emotions as signals
Making space for uncomfortable feelings
It is OK if people are upset with you because you set a boundary
Transforming from a fixer of people’s emotions to one who can hold space
Grief and its impact as a therapist
The American Co-dependency of Parenting

Resources
Allison's book Notes from Your Therapist is available here

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Allyson's Instagram Account @NotesFromYourTherapist
https://www.allysondinneen.com/

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Today I’m joined by Dr. Ashley Miller as we talk emotion-focused parenting and her book What to Say to Kids when Nothing Seems to Work.

Dr. Ashley Miller is a child and adolescent psychiatrist and family therapist at BC Children’s Hospital with 15 years experience and is also the mother of a teen and a tween. She runs groups for youth with depression and for parents of youth with mental health challenges. Dr. Miller is also the co-author of the book What to Say to Kids When Nothing Seems to Work: A Practical Guide for Parents and Caregivers.

Highlights
- How families are coping with COVID-19
- Mental health professionals managing COVID
- What led to the creation of her book and what sets it apart from other parenting books
- Emotion Focused Family Therapy
- The Do-over and the value of therapeutic apologies
- The role of reassurance in anxiety and sadness
- Parental involvement in children’s mental health treatment

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What to Say to Kids When Nothing Seems to Work: A Practical Guide for Parents and Caregivers. By Adele Lafrance PhD and Ashley Miller MD
https://www.routledge.com/What-to-Say-to-Kids-When-Nothing-Seems-to-Work-A-Practical/Lafrance-Miller/p/book/9781138344631

Emotion-Focused Family Therapy https://www.emotionfocusedfamilytherapy.org/

Dr. Bruce Perry’s Talk with Oprah about COVID-19
https://www.neurosequential.com/covid-19-resources

We Need To Talk About Another Pandemic Mental Health Crisis: Therapist Burnout By Dr. Jessi Gold
https://www.forbes.com/sites/jessicagold/2021/01/19/we-need-to-talk-about-another-pandemic-mental-health-crisis-therapist-burnout/?sh=579669114d18

How to Talk so Kids will Listen and Listen so Kids will Talk
https://www.amazon.ca/How-Talk-Kids-Will-Listen/dp/1451663889

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How do we help kids with intense anger when their parents say they "refuse" to try the strategies they have been taught? Guest Jessica Sinarski shares her trauma-informed strategies to teach children about their brain and help them understand and regulate their emotions. Whether it is helping them strengthen that "staircase" between their upstairs brain and their downstairs brain or helping them get familiar with their "acting before thinking" and "thinking before acting" teams, Jessica has clear and effective strategies that clinicians and parents can implement easily.

Jessica Sinarski is a licensed professional counselor of mental health, author, speaker, and instigator of hope. She offers deeply trauma-informed support and education for home, school, and community audiences. Weaving user-friendly brain science into everything she does, Jessica ignites both passion and know-how in audiences. Her extensive post-graduate training and 15+ years as a clinician and educator led her to create the resource and training platform BraveBrains. She partners with school districts and child welfare agencies around the world to unlock resilience in children and adults alike. She’s the author of several books including the upcoming RILEY THE BRAVE’S BIG FEELINGS ACTIVITY BOOK- a trauma-informed guide for counsellors, educators and parents.

Highlights
Why kids struggle with "using their strategies"
How to teach kids about the upstairs brain and downstairs brain
Strengthening the staircase
Co-regulation and the staircase
Scaffolding toward naming emotions
Why animal representation may be the most effective tool
Writing a letter from the tiger brain

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https://bravebrains.com/
https://jessicasinarski.com/

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