Episodes

  • Episode 111: Sex Ed and Censorship with Leah

    Episode 111: Sex Ed and Censorship with Leah
    Jul 15 2024
    Rachel covers some odds and ends before jumping into the last interview of the season with Leah Spasova. Leah is a sex and relationship psychologist as well as the founder of the Sexperts Business Community and a new platform called Life Sexplicit. Leah and Rachel discuss sex education and one of the biggest threats to our sex lives: censorship. Episode Notes: Conversation with Leah begins at 00:19:28. -------- Follow Life Sexplicit: Life Sexplicit Website: https://www.lifesexplicit.com/ Life Sexplicit Twitter: https://x.com/lifesexplicit Life Sexplicit Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lifesexplicit_/ Life Sexplicit Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/your.lifesexplicit Life Sexplicit LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/lifesexplicit/ Life Sexplicit Telegram: https://t.me/lifesexplicit Follow Leah elsewhere: Life Sexperts Website: https://www.lifesexperts.com/ Leah on Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/counselling/leah-spasova-oxford-eng/847920 Follow Leah on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/leahspasova/ Follow Leah on Twitter: https://x.com/leahspasova Contact form to work with Leah: https://www.lifesexperts.com/contact-us Sexperts Business Community: https://www.sbc-int.com/ Free e-book, “‘The Big 3 Secrets for a Pleasure filled Intimate Life’’: https://www.lifesexperts.com/product-page/lifesexperts-ebook-the-big-3-secrets-for-a-pleasure-filled-intimate-life Discussed in this interview: The Handmaid’s Tale on Hulu: https://www.hulu.com/series/565d8976-9d26-4e63-866c-40f8a137ce5f MOR patch: https://www.morarimedical.com/ (see also, WD&69 Episode 76) McKinsey & Company, “The Dawn of the Fem Tech Revolution”, February 14, 2022: https://www.mckinsey.com/industries/healthcare/our-insights/the-dawn-of-the-femtech-revolution The Center for Intimacy Justice: https://www.intimacyjustice.org/ Discussed in the intro (Make it make sense): Rachel’s episode on The Sexistentialist podcast: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4ezX3G8kGl408I5fjItyQX Betwixt App website: https://www.betwixt.life/ Betwixt YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Betwixt_App Al Jazeera News: https://www.aljazeera.com/ USA Today, “Set them up for failure': Sex education not required in many states where abortion is or will be banned”, by Alia Wong and N'dea Yancey-Bragg, July 2, 2022: https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/education/2022/07/02/roe-overturn-sex-education-states-with-abortion-ban/7748267001/?gnt-cfr=1&gca-cat=p Bloomberg Law, “Full Fifth Circuit to Review Library LGBTQ+, Sex Ed Books Case”, by Patrick Ambrosio, July 4, 2024: https://news.bloomberglaw.com/ip-law/full-fifth-circuit-to-review-library-lgbtq-sex-ed-books-case Sign the Center of Intimacy Justice Petition: https://www.intimacyjustice.org/petition Washington Post, “Meta rejected scores of women’s health ads. Democrats want answers”, by Cristiano Lima-Strong and David DiMolfetta, July 17, 2023: https://www.washingtonpost.com/politics/2023/07/17/meta-rejected-dozens-womens-health-ads-democrats-want-answers/ _______ Let’s keep talking! Have a question or idea for a topic? Email winedine69pod@gmail.com! Podcast artwork by Yogesh Nankar (Design by Dreamers). Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann.
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    1 hr and 11 mins
  • Episode 110: All About Aphrodisiacs with Amy

    Episode 110: All About Aphrodisiacs with Amy
    Jun 21 2024

    Rachel keeps the intro short with a few brief musings before introducing her guest, Amy Reiley, an expert on aphrodisiacs. Amy and Rachel talk all about what an aphrodisiac is, the history of food and sex, and, of course, foods that contribute to a healthy sex life.


    Episode Notes:

    Conversation with Amy begins at 00:012:06.

    Follow Amy Reiley:

    Website: https://www.eatsomethingsexy.com/

    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/NaturalAphrodisiacs/

    Twitter: https://twitter.com/EatSomethngSexy

    Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/forkmespoonme/

    Books:

    • Better Sex Bundle for Men: https://www.eatsomethingsexy.com/better-sex-bundle-for-men/

    • List of cookbooks: https://www.lifeofreiley.com/buy-cookbooks/

    Mentioned in the episode:

    Ten Best Foods for Men: https://www.eatsomethingsexy.com/10-best-foods-for-men/

    Ten Best Foods for Women: https://www.eatsomethingsexy.com/foods-for-womens-sexual-health/

    Spicy Watermelon Recipe: https://www.howsweeteats.com/2019/07/chili-lime-watermelon/

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    Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann.

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    58 mins
  • Episode 109: “How to be an Ethical Slut” with Brooke:

    Episode 109: “How to be an Ethical Slut” with Brooke:
    May 31 2024

    Rachel talks about making moves and different types of therapy before introducing her guest and friend, Brooke McCarthy. Brooke produces and performs the one-woman show, How to be an Ethical Slut, a journey of how “an unethical slut penetrates lies, STDs, triads, and orgies in her musical journey to becoming an ethical slut.” They talk about the show, art vs life, and how performance can be a creative and liberating tool when exploring sex.


    Episode Notes:

    Conversation with Brooke begins at 00:12:26.

    Follow Brooke/How to be an Ethical Slut:

    • CATCh the show on May 31 in Charlotte, NC! Get tickets here: https://www.ticketleap.events/tickets/catch/how-to-be-an-ethical-slut#

    • Website: http://www.howtobeanethicalslut.com/

    • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/howtobeanethicalslut/

    • TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@howtobeanethicalslut \

    • IG for Gaslighting: https://www.instagram.com/gaslightingthemusical/

    Mentioned in this episode:

    The Guardian, “I have OCD. Some cognitive behavioral therapy techniques were totally wrong for me”, by Angela Chen (April 30, 2024): https://www.theguardian.com/wellness/2024/apr/30/cbt-cognitive-behavioral-therapy-ocd?utm_source=pocket-newtab-en-us


    Psychology Today’s Guide to Types of Therapy: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/types-of-therapy


    The Pleasure Garden in Philadelphia, PA

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    Podcast artwork by Yogesh Nankar (Design by Dreamers).

    Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann.

    Promo photo provided by Brooke McCarthy.
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    1 hr and 6 mins
  • Episode 108: Anxious Attachment with Trevor

    Episode 108: Anxious Attachment with Trevor
    May 20 2024

    Rachel follows up on the last episode and talks a bit about learning and attachment styles before introducing her guest, Trevor Justice of “Attract Love and Respect”. Trevor talks with Rachel about anxious attachment and people pleasing tendencies - how to notice anxious attachment in yourself, how to cope with uncertainty, and how to work towards becoming more secure in your relationship(s).


    Episode Notes:


    Conversation with Trevor begins at 00:12:06.


    Follow Trevor:

    Website: : https://attractloveandrespect.com/

    Download the free book (and audiobook): https://get.attractloveandrespect.com/change-who-you-attract

    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/attractloveandrespect/reviews

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attractloveandrespect/

    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXV5pvueThBwNOn2mITIVKw

    TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attractloveandrespect


    Mentioned in this episode:

    Attachment Style Quiz: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/

    Heidi Priebe YouTube video, “How Insecure Attachment Keeps Us Attracted To People Who Are Wrong For Us (& How To Break The Cycle)”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pHrImgzzphY&list=PLhFOC1XMwCl8QxjTTAAM5Lao7qTNbyqWr&index=13

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    Podcast artwork by Yogesh Nankar (Design by Dreamers).

    Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann.

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    59 mins
  • Episode 107: Coda Season

    Episode 107: Coda Season
    May 8 2024

    Your host, Rachel, is the storyteller this week…she finally shares what has been going on in her C-PTSD journey, the past, healing, and changes for the podcast going forward.


    CW: sexual assault, abusive relationships, C-PTSD, PMDD


    Episode Notes:

    "InkBlot with Manan" Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/4HpnU3vJ6qM6tlAQVv3rSQ

    EMDR: https://www.apa.org/ptsd-guideline/treatments/eye-movement-reprocessing

    CODA (Apple TV): https://tv.apple.com/us/movie/coda/umc.cmc.3eh9r5iz32ggdm4ccvw5igiir

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    42 mins
  • Episode 106: Anatomy and Pleasure of the Vagina with Cindy

    Episode 106: Anatomy and Pleasure of the Vagina with Cindy
    Apr 19 2024
    Rachel chats about Taylor Swift and Joe Alwyn, and provides caution to fans leading up to the release of Taylor’s new album. Let’s not jump to conclusions and make assumptions, ok? Then, she is joined by Cindy Scharkey, a licensed nurse and sex educator! They talk all about the vagina: anatomy, the G-spot, female ejaculation vs. squirting, methods for enhancing female pleasure during penetration, and more! Episode Notes: “You can cultivate a pleasurable sex life through ALL the seasons of your life” -Cindy Conversation with Cindy begins at 00:13:58. Follow Cindy: Website: https://www.cindyscharkey.com/ “Permission for Pleasure” podcast: https://www.cindyscharkey.com/podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cindyscharkey/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cindyscharkey Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/scharkeycindy/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/cindyscharkey/ Email: cindy@cindyscharkey.com Article Discussed in Intro: BuzzFeed News, “Taylor Swift Fell In Love With Joe Alwyn Because He Didn’t Care About Her Superstardom, So He Shouldn't Be Punished For It 7 Years Later”, by Stephanie Soteriou (February 8, 2024): https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/stephaniesoteriou/taylor-swift-joe-alwyn-shouldnt-be-punished Discussed in this Episode: OMG, YES: https://start.omgyes.com/join OMG, YES Study Mentioned: The Journal of Sex Research, “"OMG, Yes!": Feasibility, Acceptability, and Preliminary Efficacy of an Online Intervention for Female Sexual Pleasure” by Hensel, et al. (2022): https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/34176390/ 4 penetrative techniques to enhance female pleasure: Pairing Shallowing Rocking Angeling The Coital Alignment Technique: MasterClass, “Coital Alignment Technique: 4 Tips for the CAT Sex Position” by MasterClass (2022): https://www.masterclass.com/articles/coital-alignment-technique Kegels: WebMD, “Kegels - Should I Do Them?” By WebMD Editorial Contributors (2022): https://www.webmd.com/women/kegels-should-i-do-them Pelvic Floor Therapy: Jefferson Health, “Unlocking the 5 Benefits of Pelvic Floor Physical Therapy” , by Anna Batt (2023): https://www.jeffersonhealth.org/your-health/living-well/unlocking-the-5-benefits-of-pelvic-floor-physical-therapy Female Ejaculation vs Squirting: Journal of Clinical Anatomy, “Female ejaculation and squirting as similar but completely different phenomena: A narrative review of current research” by Pastor and Chmel (2022): https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/35388532/ G Spot: AASECT, “What You Need to Know About…The G-Spot” by Steph Auteri (2014): https://www.aasect.org/what-you-need-know-about-g-spot-0 How your body/pleasure changes through the menstrual cycle: Clue, “Sex, Sensation, and the Menstrual Cycle” by Anna Druet (2017): https://helloclue.com/articles/sex/sex-sensation-menstrual-cycle Hello Playground: https://helloplayground.com/ -------- Let’s keep talking! Have a question or idea for a topic? Email winedine69pod@gmail.com! Podcast artwork by Yogesh Nankar (Design by Dreamers).Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann.
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    1 hr and 7 mins
  • Episode 105: Combating Feminine Myths with Keshia

    Episode 105: Combating Feminine Myths with Keshia
    Apr 9 2024

    Earthquakes, eclipses, epiphanies, oh my! Rachel talks about recent shakeups and shares some Gone Girl wisdom about the proverbial “cool girl” before jumping into her conversation with Keshia about combating feminine myths, setting boundaries, and dating authentically to find your perfect partnership.


    Episode Notes:


    “It is so ingrained in us to be dependent on others. It is so ingrained in us to seek validation and to feel like the only way we can survive is to make others happy. And yes - in some cases that is a great recipe for survival. But it’s not a great recipe for thriving.” - Keshia Rice


    Conversation with Keshia begins at 00:11:48.


    Follow Keshia:

    Website: http://www.keshiarice.com/

    Confidently Cherished Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/4sXncAFEYXGWLvRmd8spOD

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/keshiarice/

    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheKeshiaRice/

    TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@keshiarice

    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/keshiarice


    Mentioned in the episode:

    No Mud, No Lotus: The Art of Transforming Suffering, by Thich Nhat Hanh (2014): https://www.amazon.com/No-Mud-Lotus-Transforming-Suffering/dp/1937006859

    The Atlantic, “The Real-World Consequences of the Manic Pixie Dream Girl Cliché”, by ⁠Hugo Schwyzer⁠ (2013): ⁠https://www.theatlantic.com/sexes/archive/2013/07/the-real-world-consequences-of-the-manic-pixie-dream-girl-clich-233/277645/⁠ Salon, “How the Scathing "Gone Girl" Rant About Being the "Cool Girl" Defined the Decade”, by Mary Elizabeth Williams (2019): ⁠https://www.salon.com/2019/12/26/how-the-scathing-gone-girl-rant-about-being-the-cool-girl-defined-the-decade/⁠

    Brene Brown, “Marriage is Never 50/50” clip: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yfL4RTuC9Bk

    The full “Unlocking Us With Brene Brown” podcast episode: https://brenebrown.com/podcast/brene-on-comparative-suffering-the-50-50-myth-and-settling-the-ball/

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    1 hr and 14 mins
  • Episode 104: Investigating Erotica with Ruan Willow

    Episode 104: Investigating Erotica with Ruan Willow
    Mar 22 2024

    Rachel ponders how we, as humans, change over the course of a life. She talks about changing attachment styles, the love languages, then chats a bit about the viral “Who the Fuck Did I Marry” tik tok saga. She then welcomes erotica writer Ruan Willow and the two discuss the differences between porn and erotica, how to write erotica, audio erotica, and more!


    Episode Notes:

    Conversation with Ruan begins at 00:15:24.


    Follow Ruan Willow:

    Website: https://ruanwillowauthor.com/

    Oh F*ck Yeah Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/1rmfiA8FVPG766ouQ9P3QG

    I Dare You Released March 9: https://www.amazon.com/Dare-You-Saturday-Challenge-Play-ebook/dp/B0CST8K18R

    Books on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/stores/Ruan-Willow/author/B08ZYW6B3K

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ruanwillow/?hl=en

    Medium: https://medium.com/@ruanwillow

    Goodreads: https://medium.com/@ruanwillow

    Substack: https://ruanwillow.substack.com/

    FrolicMe: https://www.frolicmep[dot]com/erotic-authors/ruan-willow/


    Discussed in this episode:

    Taylor Tomlinson love languages: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1gmK_ei4NlU

    Reesa Teesa on Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@reesamteesa?lang=en

    Full “Who the Fuck Did I Marry?” story: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EC1dKx6maZ4

    Gilbert Godfrey reads 50 Shades of Grey: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XkLqAlIETkA

    Shayla Black: https://www.shaylablack.com/

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    Podcast artwork by Yogesh Nankar (Design by Dreamers).

    Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann.

    Promo image used with permission by Ruan Willow.
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    1 hr and 10 mins