Episodes

  • Man or Bear- Why Did It Go Viral? Episode #763

    Man or Bear- Why Did It Go Viral? Episode #763
    May 7 2024
    Cathy and Todd discussed the viral "man or bear" debate, addressing why many women felt compelled to pick "bear" and why some men felt hurt or angry. They discussed the importance of listening and empathy when it comes to other people’s experiences and how being defensive might be our initial reaction, but we can choose compassion and understanding. They also discussed why opting out of something we don’t want to do makes room for the things we do want to do. Todd and Cathy are hosting a live discussion about the “man or bear” debate on Monday, May 20th at 7pm CT through the MenLiving platform – all genders are welcome, see below for link to join.
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    50 mins
  • Mornings with Teenagers- Episode #762

    Mornings with Teenagers- Episode #762
    Apr 30 2024
    Todd and Cathy discuss how to talk to kids in the morning without being too annoying. They also discuss when to use Gen Z slang and when not to, and why not "needing" too much from our kids makes us easier to talk to. They also discuss Taylor’s new album, the movie Swingers, and why pop culture makes for great conversation with our kids.
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    56 mins
  • Teenage Boys and Belonging- Episode #761

    Teenage Boys and Belonging- Episode #761
    Apr 23 2024
    Todd and Cathy discussed the importance of developing talents and the challenges of pursuing one's passions. They also emphasized the need for understanding and empathizing when teenage boys lash out or question their belonging (they share an audioclip from Dr. John Duffy). They shared the difference between empathy and sympathy, and why it’s important to be really clear about what you need and ask for it. They ended the show by discussing the victim, villain, hero triangle and what it really means when you are 'hero-ing' someone.
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    58 mins
  • Weaponized Incompetence- Episode #760

    Weaponized Incompetence- Episode #760
    Apr 16 2024
    Cathy and Todd discuss the distinction between weaponized incompetence and regular incompetence, exploring how gender norms and societal expectations shape these ideas. They engage in real-time reflection on how they navigate these dynamics within their partnership and parenting, and they stress the need for communication and flexibility depending on the situation. This is a good episode to listen to with your partner or friends! Lots of issues to discuss and process.
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    1 hr and 16 mins
  • The Two Secrets to Parenting – Episode #759

    The Two Secrets to Parenting – Episode #759
    Apr 9 2024
    Todd and Cathy discuss two factors that make parenting feel more self-directed and understandable. While it will still be messy, unpredictable, and tiring, at least you will feel more in your integrity while doing it! They also talk about listening skills, anxiety, NCAA basketball, and Beyoncé's new album.
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    1 hr
  • Curiosity Creates Connection- Episode #758

    Curiosity Creates Connection- Episode #758
    Apr 2 2024
    Todd and Cathy discuss about how genuine curiosity helps our kids really hear us and value what we're saying. The same goes for understanding each other in a partnership or empathizing with someone from a different gender perspective. When we're open about not having all the answers, it paves the way for learning and staying connected.
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    50 mins
  • The Do’s & Don’ts of Emotional Conversations- Episode #757

    The Do’s & Don’ts of Emotional Conversations- Episode #757
    Mar 26 2024
    Cathy and Todd discuss the importance of emotional conversations with our kids and why we need to pay attention to how we experience and perceive what our children are telling us. They discuss what kids really need from us when they are emotional and how we can support them without absolving or absorbing their pain. They also discuss Friday Night Videos and commercials from the 80’s.
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    1 hr and 4 mins
  • The Ordinary is the Extraordinary- Episode #756

    The Ordinary is the Extraordinary- Episode #756
    Mar 19 2024
    Todd & Cathy discuss why it’s the ordinary moments that make us feel connected and content, and why what we end up missing are the simple things, not the big things. They also discuss the five things that make someone a Gen Xer, have a follow-up discussion about astrology and its usefulness, and Cathy talks about her new book RESTORING OUR GIRLS, coming in early 2025.
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    1 hr and 2 mins