My life has changed for the better due to entering my thirties and understanding my brain more (autism). I'v begun the process of building authentic self-esteem and discuss this in depth. Namely:

• The tenets of improved self esteem
• Tools to reframe self care if you’re struggling to take your needs seriously
• Putting respeck on your name: not diminishing your talents
• When is self deprecation appropriate
• Disassociation as a coping mechanism
• Learning what boundaries are and tuning to my needs
• Parentification, Codependence and Emotional incest
• Sexual advocacy
• How autism has shifted my personal style
• Getting better at self advocacy
• Trusting my intuition
• Rejecting the idea of ‘coming out’
• The guilt of prioritising my needs

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On this episode I discuss:

• autistic burnout vs. Depression
• Affirmations feel like lies
• the emotional cost of managing everyday life
• The cost of hidden disabilities
• Moral imperatives
• The selfishness of Nihilism
• Thought distortions
• The applications of optimism, hope, pessimism and nihilism

References:

Rebecca Solnit interview - https://open.spotify.com/episode/45Qgrl4kcHVap19qqVc2G6?si=7989f4dd4f044276

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Having to work to live sucks, least of all when how your brain is built doesn't support consistent productivity. In this episode I discuss how difficult I find entrepreneurship and employment, and how much I resent having to betray myself at work just to maintain basic human rights (food, shelter). I get into:

• Entrepreneurship and how it triggers our fear of being perceived
• Capitalism and the illusion of choice
• Workplaces wanting your time and not your productivity
• The unfairness and impossibility of monetizing a passion
• Fundamental incongruities of autism and conventional offices

References:

Convenience Store Woman by Sayaka Murata

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This episode is a detailed review of the themes in Helen Hoang's "The Kiss Quotient". It's an ICONIC book which inspired a lot of thought. I discuss autistic self-esteem, sexual exploration and platonic intimacy. More specifically:

00:00 Overview of the book 'The Kiss Quotient' with spoilers

00:15 Exploring Sexual Content in Literature vs. Pornography

04:22 Discussing the Emotional Journey of Reading 'The Kiss Quotient'

08:12 Stella's Story: Autistic Representation and Love

15:24 Reflecting on Personal Growth and Autistic Experiences

23:29 Navigating Social Interactions and Misunderstandings

25:04 Sensory Overload and Emotional Challenges during sex

26:41 Exploring Intimacy and Consent as an autistic woman

30:27 The Journey of self-understanding and Acceptance

45:36 Reflections on Work, Life, and Autistic Representation

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This episode is my case against casual sex! Sex is glorious and awesome and I hope we all have more of it. However we can't ignore the challenges inherent to autism that make us very bad candidates for casual sex. In this episode I unpack autistic sensitivities and accommodations that would make “casual” sex, anything but that. I discuss:

• The double burden of having to unmask and contend with socialisation that has made women fawn and struggle to self advocate
• Meltdowns, breakdowns and going nonverbal during stressful intimacy
• What does safe vs. unsafe sex look like for autistic women
• The importance of building self trust
• Double speak, manipulation vs. Directness
• Autistics and a trusting nature/naivity

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References

The Kiss Quotient by Helen Hoang

Pick Up Artists Examined: https://youtu.be/Tpuw_aPP-n4?si=zPnLDXnh9GDO-uHQ

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TRIGGER WARNING: S*icide

I've been having a hard time making meaning out of life - what with societal collapse, genocides hustle culture - and wanted to share some conclusions I made about why it is better to stay alive than to opt out. I hope this episode makes you feel seen and a little less alone.

Themes discussed:

Arguments in favour of staying alive

Finding joy while the world is burning

Finding ones place in the world

Autism and justice sensitivity

Magic and nature

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I went to a queer brunch and had the most fascinating experience. This episode discusses my reflections on:

Social Anxiety, Solipsism and Self-Awareness

The fundamental loneliness of being an adult

The Harsh Realities of Adulthood

The Complexities of Dating and Social Expectations

Group Vulnerability and Shared Experiences

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Amanda Seales is being unfairly dog-pilled on. When people are cut down because they're honest and direct, what does this say about society at large? If it's unsafe for a successful, effective, beautiful allistic woman to be unflinching in her anti-establishment critiques, what hope is there for the average black autistic woman? This episode dissects bullying dynamics, the price of honesty, Hollywood, blackness and the isolation that comes from being a truth-teller.

00:35 The Unfair Treatment of Amanda Seales and Its Implications on black autistic women

03:00 The Intersection of Autism, Likability, and Professional Success

05:44 Black Hollywood, oppression, bullies thrive in silence

10:38 Hollywood archetypes and bullying

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