Resetting through the unravel takes strength to show up differently when you are already struggling.

Where do you turn for that strength?

That space changed drastically for me through the unraveling. As a Doctor, I knew the solution wasn't medication for me. As a coach, I knew the results and limitations that mindset changes would create. When I finally surrendered to my answers in faith, that path became really clear.

I had to look at my thoughts about God to get there.

Correcting my thoughts changed everything in my strength to rebuild.

That was the strength I needed for the reset... and the peace that came with it I did not see coming.

With that, I'm ready to get started helping you RESET.

I'm pausing the Didn't See That Coming podcast to launch season 2 of my original podcast, The Healthy Me Reset.

If you've got strength to start your reset, head over there and let's get started!

When life hits hard, who can you trust?

Do you find yourself looking to experts for advice? Or nose-deep in a book or devotionaL?

Do you seek your Mom's opinion or your spouses?

Who you turn to for strength will ultimately be your strength foundation. It's important to choose wisely.

And remember, that all humans are flawed. Even the ones you look up to. They have good intentions and still might bail on you, get it wrong, and lead to less trust in yourself.

The ultimate trust lies in your relationship with God.

References:

Restless by Jennie Allen

He Speaks to Me by Priscilla Shirer

Proverbs 7:4 "Say to wisdom, 'you are my sister', and call insight your intimate friend."

What gives you hope or relief in your unraveling?

If it's built on the stories that got you here, you will miss out on the true strength you need for the reset... and make this unraveling last a lot longer!

If you hold hope that you can out action this, that you can gain enough accolades or achievements to gain hope, or that other people will fix it for you, that hope will eventually crumble. Humans are flawed - and that includes you and other people.

The highest level hope comes from somewhere different... your relationship with God. And that hope is greater than the hope you will find in any of those old stories!

References:

"Be still and know that I am God"

Lamentations 3:19 "It's a good thing to hope for help from God."

Do you feel numb?

Or choose unhealthy things to numb out and then beat yourself up for wasting your life?

I have a kinship to Jelly Roll on this one.. and you will, too. As he says it best, "I'm searching for new ways I can get gone."

You won't eliminate "numb" by numbing out - you will just create extra layers of numbing to unravel.

I've experienced a lot of numb in the unraveling - and only one other time in my life. I'm sharing why today.

Numbness was protecting myself from the emotions I was too afraid to feel.

Where you turn for strength in this unraveling will ultimately create your strength for the future.

In this episode, I'm sharing 3 potential places to turn to get out of the numbness: medicine, coaching/counseling, and faith. And walking you through the strength you can gain in each.

Please share this episode with someone in your life who is struggling with numbness, they need to hear it!

Ready to change this? Join me in The Fasting Flock!

References:

Jelly Roll "Son of a Sinner"

Encanto "Surface Pressure"

Lauren Daigle "You Say"

Lauren Daigle "Rescue"

What are you really hungry for in this unraveled life?

For me, it was food for a really long time. Food stepped in to fix the physical hunger but nothing more. Because I was using food to distract myself from the real hunger: for acceptance, connection, family, love. 

When I recognized that food didn't fix that hunger, I overcame my weight battle. But life kept showing me the unraveling layers of hunger underneath it. The hunger to be seen, be picked, to matter led to this unraveling. 

In this episode, I'm sharing what I needed to fill me to gain strength for the reset. I couldn't do it alone... and you don't have to either. 

References:

Creating the Lighter You Podcast Episode

Restless by Jennie Allen

Proverbs 3:5-6 "Trust in the Loprd with all your heart and do not rely on your own understanding. In all your ways, know Him, and he will make your path straight."

Jeremiah 15: "Your words were food and I ate them. My hunger is endless..."

Songs:

Goodness of God by Jenn Johnson

The Battle Belongs by Phil Wickham

Surrounded by Michael W Smith

In honor of Valentine's Day, I'm looking at love unraveled!

How does love show up in your life? Do you find yourself adding rules around how people love you? And how you accept it?

We all need love as humans. We judge how others show, and don't show, it to us. And our relationships are built up or destroyed based on those judgements. 

Are you ready to feel ALL the love in your life? You can create that starting today. 

It starts with 2 simple choices. I'm covering them on the podcast today!

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References: 

3 Truths and A Lie podcast episode

2 Samuel 7:18 "Then King David went in and sat before the Lord, and said, 'Who am I, O Lord God, and what is my house, that you have brought me thus far? And yet this was a small thing in your eyes, O Lord God; you have spoken also of your servant's house for a great while to come."

What are you using to cope with life?

In the unravelling, those coping skills will start as a place of survival, something to turn to get by. But you will find they progress to creating another problem to be dealt with. And you'll end up looking to find coping skills to deal with the coping skill unless you get to the heart of the issue. 

It takes a foundational reset. 

That foundational reset will change your whole life, not just minimize the coping skill. 

It starts by giving God a little space to straighten your path. 

References:

Psalm 46:4 "The Lord of armies is with us. The God of Jacob is our stronghold."

The River by Garth Brooks

Feel like the universal doormat in your life? Do you blend into the background? Wait to fit in before you say anything or stand out? 

Does that lead to you being the chameleon? The person everyone walks on? 

Being the doormat is a character issue and one that I'm all too familiar with.

Wonder how to overcome that? I'm sharing on this episode of the podcast.

Because when the doormat unravels, you've got a mess all over the foundation. 

It's time to reset that doormat foundation based off your core values, your character, and create your legacy. 

Episode References:

Life is Messy by Matthew Kelly

Unraveling Your To-Do List podcast episode

Ezekiel 34: Check out this chapter on Israel that God brought me to the week the war in Israel broke out. It will blow your mind!