This episode is for those who have felt, at any point, like they are "too much."

To dim the beautiful bright light in your being to be palatable and digestible for others is an indiscretion to your soul.

We must resist the urge to give into cynicism and nihilism and embrace that life CAN be beautiful, love IS that good, and that we ARE meant to live in joy and trust that flow will guide us.

During this episode, we go on a journey of understanding where cynicism and projection comes from, why we prioritize people pleasing over our own personal power, and what happens when we decide to live rooted in ourselves and connected to our joy.

Life is too short to not believe that it can also be sweet.

We talk:

0:00 - 5:09 - The Psychology of Cynicism + Projection

5:15 - 9:08 - The Negative Impacts of Dimming Your Light

9:08 - 13:01 - Why Animals + Children are Magnets for Attention & Joy

13:01 - 16:00 - The "OF COURSE THEY ARE!" Mindset

16:00 - 19:58 - Letting Yourself Be Seen: Remaining Open to Love vs Toxic Positivity

19:58 - Reprogramming your Mind & Affirmations for Inner/Outer Harmony

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38 - Unlocking Our Hearts Potential & Clearing Energetic Blocks

"You do not have to be good.

You do not have to walk on your knees for a hundred miles through the desert repenting.

You only have to let the soft animal of your body - love what it loves.

Tell me about despair, yours, and I will tell you mine.

Meanwhile the world goes on.

Meanwhile the sun and the clear pebbles of the rain are moving across the landscapes, over the prairies and the deep trees, the mountains and the rivers.

Meanwhile the wild geese, high in the clean blue air, are heading home again.

Whoever you are, no matter how lonely, the world offers itself to your imagination, calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting -

over and over announcing your place in the family of things."

'Wild Geese', by Mary Oliver

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CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - Cleaning Out the Closet + Creating Space

(06:59) - The Self is a Construct & Identity is a Prison

(9:05) - The Art & The Power of Letting Go

(14:30) - You Can't Heal What You Don't Feel

(23:05) - Techniques for Embracing the Wisdom + Natural Intelligence of Our Body

(27:42) - Surrendering to Flow + Allowing Blessings In

(32:56) - The Unseen

(40:05) - Reigniting Child-Like Wonder + Embracing New Life

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Resources mentioned in this episode:

Sarah Blandin Activating Freedom Meditation

Healing is Not My Purpose

Readings from:

“The Creative Act” by Rick Rubin

"Dream Work" Poem Book by Mary Oliver

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Growing & Outgrowing: You’re Not Wrong, You’re Just in the Wrong Place

At some point in our lives, we may find ourselves bending and folding ourselves into shapes that are not our own in an exhausting effort to fit in, conform, and get our return on the illusion we bought that told us we'd be happy if we just "did what we were supposed to do."

And too often, when this formula doesn't work for us - we exile ourselves and internalize the confusion of being confused.

We may wonder why we haven’t gotten it right, why we feel so misunderstood.

What we fail to acknowledge is -- that while we try to contort ourselves into a glass half empty - our unique desires, impulses, and dreams are waiting for us to fill our glass full.

Have you ever considered that maybe your life is asking of you something so unique, so particular, and so idiosyncratic to your own individual idiosyncrasies - that only you can hear the call and only you can take the action?

This episode discusses the art of authentic living & the process of embracing our individuality - along with the challenges that come with outgrowing people, places, and things that may have once felt like home.

There are many choices we can make in this world, but the one I can almost promise you will never regret making is choosing yourself.

To choose yourself, you must learn yourself, know yourself, trust yourself - and honor the individual expression that calls in a voice only you can hear.

I believe you have what it takes to do so.

It is your calling, after all.

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CHAPTERS:

0:00-10:25 - You’re not wrong, you’re just in the wrong place

+ A reading from "Women who Run with the Wolves," Passage: The Ugly Duckling

10:25 - FOMO isn’t Real - The Price of False Illusions of Happiness

15:58 - Outgrowing what You Once Loved, Learning About + Honoring Your Individual Differences

19:10 - Wanting MORE for your Life + Feeling Deserving Of It

20:47 - Paralyzed by Indecision? Sylvia Plath’s Fig Tree of Choice

26:27 - Your Power & MAGIC is You - You’re Not Meant for Everyone

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Episode 28 - Are you Truly Living, or Just Surviving?

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