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In this powerful episode of the Mindfully Gay Podcast, John and Jerry sit outdoors in the warmth of late summer to explore one of the most universal and vulnerable topics in queer life: body image, comparison, and belonging.

A lunch with Kevin and Landon, founders of Salt Lake City's social group Morning Wood, sparks a candid discussion about how community spaces can unintentionally heighten body anxiety--especially in the season of speedos, gym selfies, and constant social media comparison.

Jerry shares his transformative health journey at age 60 and the hidden shame he had to confront even while making progress. John reflects on modeling gigs, racial identity, and the pressure of standing next to "influencer bodies." Together, they reveal how cultural messages, porn, and advertising shape what is considered desirable--and how those narrow standards exclude many queer men.

But the conversation doesn't end with critique. John and Jerry introduce practical tools for radical self-acceptance: mindfulness, tantric yoga practices, self-touch, and the power of gratitude for your own body. They challenge the idea that sex and intimacy should be a "performance" and instead promote authentic subject-to-subject connection--valuing energy, soul, and presence over abs, inches, or flawless skin.

Throughout the episode, they celebrate Morning Wood's intentional representation of diverse ages and body types as a model for inclusive queer community. With honesty, humor, and hope, John and Jerry invite you to see yourself as worthy, desirable, and already whole.

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In this powerful episode of the Mindfully Gay Podcast, John and Jerry sit outdoors in the warmth of late summer to explore one of the most universal and vulnerable topics in queer life: body image, comparison, and belonging.

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What happens when a queer man reclaims his healing journey through plant medicine, energy work, and sacred intention?

In this transformative episode of the Mindfully Gay Podcast, Jerry Buie is joined by special guest Serjio Gutierrez, the visionary behind The Healing Lounge, to explore how queer identity, spirituality, and holistic healing intersect in powerful and personal ways.

From addiction and self-doubt to spiritual awakening and empowered purpose, Serjio shares how intentional cannabis use, Reiki, Akashic Record readings, and sacred ritual have shaped his journey. Together, Jerry and Serjio challenge the stigma around plant medicine and reframe cannabis as a spiritual tool--not just a recreational escape.

They explore:
🌱 How plant medicine like cannabis can aid in trauma healing, shadow work, and spiritual alignment
🌀 The role of queer men as energy workers, spiritual leaders, and community builders
🔮 What it means to live in balance with the divine masculine and feminine
💫 The importance of intention, ceremony, and safe spaces for LGBTQ+ healing
🧘‍♂️ How sacred tools can amplify the gifts queer men carry into the world

This is more than a story of personal transformation--it's a call for queer people to remember their sacred place in community, reclaim their inner wisdom, and engage in healing practices that honor body, mind, and spirit.

🎙️ Tune in to hear Serjio's story, learn about his holistic product lines and offerings, and discover how the queer community is leading a new wave of conscious healing.

You can find Serjio at www.TheHealingLounge.love.

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In this transformative episode of the Mindfully Gay Podcast, Jerry Buie is joined by special guest Serjio Gutierrez, the visionary behind The Healing Lounge, to explore how queer identity, spirituality, and holistic healing intersect in powerful and personal ways.

From addiction and self-doubt to spiritual awakening and empowered purpose, Serjio shares how intentional cannabis use, Reiki, Akashic Record readings, and sacred ritual have shaped his journey. Together, Jerry and Serjio challenge the stigma around plant medicine and reframe cannabis as a spiritual tool--not just a recreational escape.

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"More Than a Boyfriend: Redefining What Gay Relationship Means"

🗓️ Air Date: August 29, 2025

What does it really mean to be in a relationship? In this heartfelt episode of the Mindfully Gay Podcast, hosts John Cottrell and Jerry Buie offer a transformative conversation about love, partnership, and the myths we inherit around what relationships should look like--especially as gay men.

Drawing from decades of personal and professional experience, John and Jerry explore how queer men can rewrite the script on intimacy, connection, and identity. They share personal stories--from 30-year partnerships to chosen family and solo living--and challenge the cultural narratives that suggest you're only worthy if you're coupled.

The episode also explores the Five Love Languages and how understanding them can enhance emotional connection in any relationship--romantic, platonic, or self-directed. Whether you're partnered, single, polyamorous, or redefining what intimacy means to you, this episode invites you to center joy, authenticity, and self-love as the foundation of connection.

✨ Don't miss this powerful conversation that reminds us: You are already whole.

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What does it really mean to be in a relationship? In this heartfelt episode of the Mindfully Gay Podcast, hosts John Cottrell and Jerry Buie offer a transformative conversation about love, partnership, and the myths we inherit around what relationships should look like--especially as gay men.

Drawing from decades of personal and professional experience, John and Jerry explore how queer men can rewrite the script on intimacy, connection, and identity. They share personal stories--from 30-year partnerships to chosen family and solo living--and challenge the cultural narratives that suggest you're only worthy if you're coupled.

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Join hosts John and Jerry for Episode 41 of the Mindfully Gay Podcast, where they boldly challenge the narrative that being gay or queer is something tragic to endure. Inspired by Zora Neale Hurston's iconic 1928 line "I am not tragically colored," they ask: What if we said, "I am not tragically gay"?

This episode is all about reframing our queer stories--turning what society calls a burden into a gift and a source of pride.

👉 John and Jerry discuss how language and self-storytelling shape our reality. They explore how our words can either limit us or liberate us, urging listeners to notice the "spells" they cast on themselves through everyday phrases.

👉 They share the famous "scar study," illustrating how internalized beliefs can distort how we perceive others' reactions--and how this applies to queer experiences, age, body image, and coming out.

👉 You'll hear powerful personal stories about confronting internalized ageism, anxiety, and feelings of being an imposter, and how to transform these with conscious, affirming language.

👉 The hosts talk about neuroplasticity--how we can literally rewire our brains to move from self-limiting narratives to stories of self-acceptance and empowerment.

👉 They invite you to feel what radical self-acceptance is in the body, with visceral metaphors like butter melting into every pore of your being, making this practice real, sensory, and accessible.

👉 They also call for a radical cultural shift within queer communities--from superficial stereotypes and limiting social scripts to spaces that foster genuine connection, emotional safety, sex-positivity, and body-positivity.

Finally, John and Jerry leave listeners with a powerful challenge: Fill in the blank--"I am (add adverb) gay." What word affirms your truth, pride, and magic?

✅ If you're ready to reimagine your queer identity as a source of pride and power, this episode is for you.

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Join hosts John and Jerry for Episode 41 of the Mindfully Gay Podcast, where they boldly challenge the narrative that being gay or queer is something tragic to endure. Inspired by Zora Neale Hurston's iconic 1928 line "I am not tragically colored," they ask: What if we said, "I am not tragically gay"?

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