Ten Lessons To Transform Your Marriage

America's Love Lab Experts Share Their Strategies for Strengthening Your Relationship

By: John Gottman PhD

Narrated by: Susan Denaker

In Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage, marital psychologists John and Julie Gottman provide vital tools—scientifically based and empirically verified—that you can use to regain affection and romance lost through years of ineffective communication.

In 1994, Dr. John Gottman and his colleagues at the University of Washington made a startling announcement: Through scientific observation and mathematical analysis, they could predict—with more than 90 percent accuracy—whether a marriage would succeed or fail. The only thing they did not yet know was how to turn a failing marriage into a successful one, so Gottman teamed up with his clinical psychologist wife, Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, to develop intervention methods. Now the Gottmans, together with the Love Lab research facility, have put these ideas into practice.

What emerged from the Gottmans’ collaboration and decades of research is a body of advice that’s based on two surprisingly simple truths: Happily married couples behave like good friends, and they handle their conflicts in gentle, positive ways. The authors offer an intimate look at ten couples who have learned to work through potentially destructive problems—extramarital affairs, workaholism, parenthood adjustments, serious illnesses, lack of intimacy—and examine what they’ve done to improve communication and get their marriages back on track.

Hundreds of thousands have seen their relationships improve thanks to the Gottmans’ work. Whether you want to make a strong relationship more fulfilling or rescue one that’s headed for disaster, Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage is essential reading.©2006 John M. Gottman, Julie Schwartz Gottman, and Joan DeClaire; (P)2006 Books on Tape

Great Book

This book provided me with a lot of insight on ways i could communicate better. I found myself relating to several of the couples and their issues and found the doctors recommended ways to handle situations very useful.

Easy to listen to and simple to apply.

First seek to understand, then to be understood. There is a way to improve your relationships and this book gives you the words and techniques. it also manages your expectations very well. Reccommended!

So much truth in this!

I am listening tonight and plan to get the book tomorrow. I would like to go through the exercises written in the book. My parents did not show us how to resolve any conflict. They avoided it as much as possible. I am afraid that I did not teach my children either.
My oldest daughter just got married three weeks ago. I would like for her to listen to the book. My other daughter is ending her engagement.
This book would be very helpful for both of them. I am finding it very interesting!
Thank you.

Worth the Read/Listen

If you could sum up Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage in three words, what would they be?

If your Married and or thinking of marriage then you need to experience and embrace the concepts with one caveate (if your a man don't lose your basic nature of being a guy). Couples need to maintain and improve this interaction that was part and parcel of the courtship process. Men especially need to remember this process so that they can help their spouse stay open and build a relationship that is even larger than what brought the two lovers together. Plan, design and pursue each other to the beneift of those around them and the children watching every move they make. The premise and real world examples are to be taken seriously and imbibed deeply to ensure that both parties are understood and more fully realized. Listen and Read this book as well as the prequel to give your relationship every chance of flourishing for a liftetime. Women will identify with this more readily than men but the lesson is not to be denied or overlooked or trivialized. Pay attention to what your experiencing.

What did you like best about this story?

the excerpted real world dialogue.

What about Susan Denaker’s performance did you like?

it's just OK.

What did you learn from Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage that you would use in your daily life?

To understand more about how Women want there long-term dialogue to be [especially if they are into the NOW and that they should get any and all that they feel that they should want] don't deny the revealing of this important skill to fully realized what your marriage can be.

Any additional comments?

Learn this skill and add it to your quiver of skills to menuever through this life, but remain yourself at your core.

Excellent

I love these authors! Great and transformative info!!
I took many notes and will be applying this information to my marriage and parenting as well!