Irrelationship

How We Use Dysfunctional Relationships to Hide from Intimacy

By: Mark B. Borg Jr., Grant H Brenner, Daniel Berry

Narrated by: Aaron Welch

An important and transformative guide that addresses the protective, yet dysfunctional dynamic where couples avoid genuine connection with an unsatisfying pattern of false intimacy. Drawing on their extensive clinical experience, the authors look at "song and dance" behavioral routines repeatedly performed by couples in irrelationships and delve into the most difficult emotions and actions to help listeners achieve personal breakthroughs.

Written for anyone who wants to understand unhealthy patterns and how to change them, Irrelationships will help listeners develop interpersonal skills, creating a new opportunity to heal and restore loving relationships.

Mark B. Borg, Jr., PhD, is a community psychologist and psychoanalyst, and a supervisor of psychotherapy at the William Alanson White Institute.

Grant H. Brenner, MD, is a board-certified psychiatrist in private practice, specializing in treating mood and anxiety disorders and the complex problems that may arise in adulthood from childhood trauma and loss.

Daniel Berry, RN, MHA, has practiced as a Registered Nurse in New York City since 1987 and has worked for almost two decades in community-based programs.

©2015 Mark B. Borg, Jr., Grant Hilary Brenner, and John Berry (P)2016 Mark B. Borg, Jr., Grant Hilary Brenner, and John Berry

insightful about the workings of relationship

This book helps us to understand the complexities of our relationships and how we play games that we're not even really aware of sometimes. By helping us identify the unhealthy ways we've been relating, it opens up new frontiers for healthy relationships.

Great book -poorly edited audio/voice recording

Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

I would recommend the content of the book, which is great! But I would not recommend the audiobook as there were many errors in the recording and it was poorly done. Too bad, because it's a great book.

How could the performance have been better?

A final edit.

A must read

The recording seems to be not the final draft. Once you hear the narrator flub a words and say, "Ah, I need to take that again." There are also weird audio discrepancies with the word, oxytocin. Other than that though, the performance is solid. Weird.

Anyways, fantastic book, very helpful. I'm a licensed therapist and psychoanalyst in training and I have learned a lot reading this.

Did not like.

The book was way too wordy and hard to understand. Also, I did not appreciate the acceptance of same-sex relationships.