Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving Gospel-Centered Marriage

By: Beth McCord, Jeff McCord

Narrated by: Amanda Sanfilippo, Jakob Lewis

Becoming Us is a wake-up call for couples who feel stagnant, revealing what happens when two people in a committed relationship risk seeing each other from a fresh perspective.

Couples often enter into marriage with a potentially harmful assumption: they assume they “know” themselves and their spouse. The reality is that whether a couple’s been married a few months or many decades, conflict and misunderstandings happen. Beth and Jeff McCord provide a glimpse into how the Enneagram, used from a biblical perspective, brings astonishing clarity to couples so they can break free from self-condemnation, fear and shame, by knowing and experiencing the unconditional love, forgiveness, and freedom they have in Christ. Beth and Jeff guide couples through discovering their Enneagram type and core motivations, as well as those of their spouse, gaining insight into how their family of origin shapes the way they relate to their spouse, and understanding what “assumicide” is and how to put a stop to it. Couples are made for an intimate and thriving marriage relationship. For those baffled by the person sleeping beside them and looking for an instruction manual, Becoming Us serves as a roadmap for couples to transform into the best versions of themselves-together.

©2019 Beth and Jeff McCord (P)2019 Beth and Jeff McCord

Good book but didn’t care for the Audible version

I have been learning about the Enneagram and love Beth McCord!! I listen to a lot audible books, but did not care for this one due to the Narrators. Their voices sound robotic, so I found myself zoning out a lot. I prefer audible books where the Author is the narrator. Other than that I would recommend... just not the audible version.

decent relational book for enneagram lovers

Lots of Christian cliche used without explanation of the same. A person not exposed the same teaching will not understand.

Great Insight!

Grateful for this tool. Total game changer!! Thanks for making the Enneagram simple to understand.

One of the best books on the Enneagram!

Becoming Us by the McCords is one of the best books on the enneagram I've now read! They balance their story and an explanation of the enneagram well. My favorite things about this book is that it is unashamedly centered around the gospel message and the enneagram is used as a tool to better understand one's self and others through the lens of the gospel message. I would recommend this book to those who are well versed in the enneagram and the newcomer looking to learn more.

Eye opening, encouraging

I truly love how Beth and Jeff use the enneagram as a tool to recognize when you are or are not aligned with the gospel. It isn’t saying “You’re this type. That’s who you are and how you react”. It’s saying, hey. This is a way to become aware of your why and recognize if you are in a stage of stress or growth. And then use that to point you directly to Jesus, who is the only one with the power to help us become more like Him. So so good. Thank you. This type nine feels like there is some level of internal clarity coming into focus now, and it’s so refreshing. It gives me hope for me as an individual, and for building a strong, joyful, and healthy relationship with my husband. God bless you both.