Find Your People

Building Deep Community in a Lonely World

By: Jennie Allen

Narrated by: Jennie Allen

Length: 5 hrs and 45 mins

Publisher's summary

NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • WINNER OF THE ECPA BOOK OF THE YEAR AWARD • The author of Get Out of Your Head offers practical solutions for creating true community, the kind that’s crucial to our mental and spiritual health.

“My dear friend Jennie Allen shows us how to make true emotional connections with the right people so that our authentic relationships can be healthy for all.”—Lysa TerKeurst, author of It’s Not Supposed to Be This Way

In a world that’s both more connected and more isolating than ever before, we’re often tempted to do life alone, whether because we’re so busy or because relationships feel risky and hard. But science confirms that consistent, meaningful connection with others has a powerful impact on our well-being. We are meant to live known and loved. But so many are hiding behind emotional walls that we’re experiencing an epidemic of loneliness.

In Find Your People, bestselling author Jennie Allen draws on fascinating insights from science and history, timeless biblical truth, and vulnerable stories from her own life to help you:

• overcome the barriers to making new friends and learn to initiate with easy-to-follow steps

• find simple ways to press through awkward to get to authentic in conversations

• understand how conflict can strengthen relationships rather than destroy them

• identify the type of friend you are and the types of friends you need

• learn the five practical ingredients you need to have the type of friends you’ve always longed for

You were created to play, engage, adventure, and explore—with others. In Find Your People, you’ll discover exactly how to dive into the deep end and experience the full wonder of community. Because while the ache of loneliness is real, it doesn’t have to be your reality.

©2022 Jennie Allen (P)2022 Random House Audio

Critic reviews

“An important, inspiring work about loneliness and the power of connection . . . Allen offers practical solutions to questions like how to find friends, how to make relationships less superficial, what a true community looks like, and how to navigate being ‘dumped’ by a friend.”—Katie Couric Media

“Easy solutions to create true connections, strengthen relationships and curb loneliness. With scientific insights and biblical references, Allen shares ways to identify the type of friend you need, how to have authentic conversations and more. It’s a sweet map to joy and connection.”—Woman’s World

“We know we need to do life with other people and have a supportive community around us instead of living in isolation, but we often wonder how when we’ve had friendships fail, we’ve been hurt, or we feel too busy to even make the effort. In Find Your People, my dear friend Jennie Allen shows us how to make true emotional connections with the right people so that our authentic relationships can be healthy for all.”—Lysa TerKeurst, #1 New York Times bestselling author and president of Proverbs 31 Ministries

WOW! This book is more than inspiring, it’s actionable.

I received an advance copy of FYP and knew instantly that if I applied these truths, it would change my relationships and build deep connections because God created us for community.

In Part 1, Jennie unpacks what our hearts crave and why finding your people is so critical.

Love this from Chapter 2, “We weren’t just built for community; we were built because of it.” And this quote, “I want us to trade lonely and isolated lives that experience brief burst of connectedness for intimately connected lives that experience only brief intervals of feeling alone.”

If you are someone who has a lot of surface level connections and really wants to dive deeper with a selected few and build your tribe, then this book is for you!

Jennie outlines how to find your people on easy to follow steps.

Jennie Allen has done it again!

Good concepts but untenable for some people

This book has good concepts, but the listener must use Holy Spirit discernment when prayerfully thinking about applying them. Taking just a few ideas in one’s life could be a good start. Each stage of life has ebbs and flows. Those 40 and under will find this more appealing in my opinion (I am in my 60s).

Non-Christian

You do not have to be a Christian to learn and be uplifted by this book. Many thanks to Jennie Allen and her people for this book.

wonderful

I really enjoyed your book, actually went over certainly chapters 2 or 3 times.
Thank you for writing this book

My wish

I wish that everyone I love could read/listen to this book. It has changed my life and paradigm for ever

Spoke to my soul!

I love this book. Jennie has been able to capture, what I believe, to be so much of what I personally needed, and never could express. It’s about intentional friendships and effort.So much is so clear.
Godly, Intimate, and real friendships. That’s what we are building!
That’s what I, and so many of us I feel, long for.

Thank you, Jennie, for your words.

Transforming

My eyes were to open ones to some things I probably knew deep down but would be willing to admit.. This has brought me back with some practice steps for engaging people well again.

just what i needed

it starts off a little slow but stick with it because it's worth it! this book has inspired me to create community. the author's warmth and sincere passion makes listening to this book feel like chatting with an old friend. she challenges you and provides effective strategies so you can truly find your people.

The solution to your loneliness

Jennie is the friend we all need to kick us in gear. You won’t gain friends by sitting at home on your butt.

The biblical connections to God and community were incredibly impactful. She inspired me - an introvert - to do more.

the authors realness

it's a very true story. I think it'll be very relatable for many people who maybe just need guidance with this. I could relate with the author when she said her friend stopped being a friend after almost a decade of being friends it happened 2 years ago but unfortunately it's out of my control it just hurt that I was friends with someone for so long for it to be done in only 2 days