The Way Out

How to Overcome Toxic Polarization

By: Peter T. Coleman

Narrated by: Matthew Josdal

The partisan divide in the United States has widened to a chasm. Legislators vote along party lines and rarely cross the aisle. Political polarization is personal, too - and it is making us miserable. Surveys show that Americans have become more fearful and hateful of supporters of the opposing political party and imagine that they hold much more extreme views than they actually do. How can we loosen the grip of this toxic polarization and start working on our most pressing problems?

The Way Out offers an escape from this morass. Social psychologist Peter T. Coleman explores how conflict resolution and complexity science provide guidance for dealing with seemingly intractable political differences. Deploying the concept of attractors in dynamical systems, he explains why we are stuck in this rut as well as the unexpected ways that deeply rooted oppositions can and do change. Coleman meticulously details principles and practices for navigating and healing the difficult divides in our homes, workplaces, and communities, blending compelling personal accounts from his years of working on entrenched conflicts with lessons from leading-edge research. The Way Out is a vital and timely guide to breaking free from the cycle of mutual contempt in order to better our lives, relationships, and country.

©2021 Peter T. Coleman (P)2021 Tantor

Fairly interesting, oversold physics relationship

I agree with another reviewer who called the author out on implying that physics had anything to do with conflict resolution. These comparisons are only metaphors and the author should have made that clear. I've long thought that physical processes were a useful way of thinking about societal issues, but I think the author gets somewhat too technical. Again, another review made a good insight that one shouldn't use a more complex phenomenon to explain a simpler one.

Where the author uses the idea of an attractor, I've often used the metaphor of 'stability', which is often demonstrated by a marble in a bowl. Whenever you disturb the marble from the center, it rolls right back to where it started. Put the marble on the lip of the bowl, and it won't stay there. It will either roll down to the center, or roll off the edge to another point of stability. The countertop, for instance. In the physical world, it's gravity that moves the marble to the stable point; in society, there are a whole host of forces, which is why the bowl is a metaphor only.

Excellent Message - Tedious Presentation

Would love to see this done with more examples to engage readers. It is more like a textbook than a “good read”; still, the message is so important that I’d highly recommend it…at least until an update version with more charismatic style comes along. Read it and start talking and writing today!

interesting information but a difficult listen

I don't know if it's the prose, the delivery, or (most likely) the combination of the two, but I had a very very difficult time listening to this book.

The writing is overly academic and the delivery is both dry and pretentious in a way that makes my attention look anywhere else for more appealing engagement.

There are two kinds of books about our societal ills-- those that offer mechanistic insight and those that describe the many symptoms. This book tries to be the former but it's made mostly of the latter. This was especially apparent because the book I listened to before it, "High Conflict", was such a good example of mechanistic insight.

I also, as "classical liberal" / political moderate found the book to have enough of a left bias to make me roll my eyes the same way I do at Fox News headlines. When dissecting political polarization, I think it's better to have an author that can do a better job of avoiding such biased thinking.

If you are looking for a fairly academic examination of the problems around political polarization in terms of the ways problems manifest, you might find this book helpful. If you want good insight into where the problems come from and how you can personally help mend things, try "High Conflict" instead.

incredible book, terrible narrator

I'm kind of a compassionate communication and meaningful conflict junkie. I heard about this book on Hidden Brain while on a road trip and immediately got it to listen to on my long drive from NC to CO. the information is beautiful, well researched and elegantly presented. the narrator though.. oh man, it's really hard to take him seriously or listen to him speaking, especially after listening to the author speak on conflict on a podcast with such a compassionate and receptive voice and manner. I think the narrator does a disservice to this incredible work. The narrator makes something so interesting feel tedious.

Well done

Excellent summation of how polarization happens and how we might be able to find our way out - large scale and counterintuitive focus is helpful for complex prob like polarization