Polysecure

Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy

By: Jessica Fern, Eve Rickert, Nora Samaran

Narrated by: Jessica Fern, Eve Rickert, Nora Samaran

Attachment theory has entered the mainstream, but most discussions focus on how we can cultivate secure monogamous relationships. What if, like many people, you’re striving for secure, happy attachments with more than one partner?

Polyamorous psychotherapist Jessica Fern breaks new ground by extending attachment theory into the realm of consensual nonmonogamy. Using her nested model of attachment and trauma, she expands our understanding of how emotional experiences can influence our relationships. Then, she sets out six specific strategies to help you move toward secure attachments in your multiple relationships. Polysecure is both a trailblazing theoretical treatise and a practical guide.

This audiobook includes a supplemental pdf.

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©2020 Jessica Fern (P)2020 Thornapple Press

Critic reviews

"Polysecure provides a roadmap for people who want to establish emotionally intimate and securely attached relationships with multiple partners. One of the most important insights is that secure attachment is a product of relationship experiences, rather than relationship structures."—Dr. Elisabeth Sheff, author of The Polyamorists Next Door, Stories from the Polycule, When Someone You Love is Polyamorous, and Children in Polyamorous Families

"Secure attachment is absolutely central to successful polyamorous relationships, and insecure attachment is at the core of the jealousy and other challenges in open relationships of all kinds. This book can help poly people, as well as clinicians, get to the heart of their struggles and pain. It can help them to take concrete steps to become more comfortable with their nonmonogamous relationships and trust their partner’s love and commitment. This is required reading for people in open relationships and should be used as a textbook for every therapist who works with people in polyamorous relationships."—Kathy Labriola, counselor, nurse, and author of The Polyamory Breakup Book

"Gives people a way to understand how they may be recreating old patterns by bringing their own childhood attachment styles into their adult relationships. More importantly, it offers concrete skills for how to use this knowledge to create healthier, more satisfying and secure relationship dynamics."—Max Rivers, author of Loving Conflict: How Conflict Is Really Your Relationship Trying to Go Deeper

Amazing Information

This book has opened my mind to what CNM truly is and not my own fear bassed projections of what it is. I am excited to start this journey with my wife and to see each of us grow into more whole versions of ourselves!

Incredible.

Highly recommend to anyone, monogamous or non-monogamous. This is a must-read for therapists and those looking to foster secure, meaningful relationships.

Learned si many things!!!

Amazing would be good for everyone to read, ENM or not. Such a blessing to have this material.

A segue for myself while navigating my insecure attachment

Although I'm not poly myself. I was recommended this book because of the attachment struggles I've had brought to light and have been struggling with as a fearful/avoidant. This book has sincerely helped in some deep and profound ways on my journey to earned secure attachment. Thank you so much to my love for recommending it and the author for writting it. The book Attached left me wanting and this really filled some glaring gaps for me!

Made me feel more secure and confident in navigating relationships

This was a wonderful book, i learned a lot about security and ethical non monogamy. It gave me some practice questions and practices to asses where i am at with myself and my partners, and i enjoyed the contemplation it inspired. I feel like i am on a secure place in my life and this made me feel even more so, although i can also see the areas i have to grow in my relationship with myself and others. I feel encouraged to practice polyamory in a way that feels good to me and i hope can be of benefit to those around me