Rewriting the Rules (Second Edition)

An Anti-Self Help Guide to Love, Sex, and Relationships

By: Meg-John Barker

Narrated by: Gabrielle Baker

We live in a time of uncertainty about relationships. We search for The One but find ourselves staying single because nobody measures up. We long for a happily-ever-after but break-up after break-up leave us bruised and confused.

Rewriting the Rules is a friendly guide through the complicated—and often contradictory—advice that's given about sex and gender, monogamy and conflict, break-up and commitment. It asks questions about the rules of love, such as which to choose from all the rules on offer? Do we stick to the old rules we learnt growing up, or do we try something new and risk being out on our own? And what about the times when the rules we love by seem to make things worse?

This new edition, updated throughout, considers how the rules are being 'rewritten' in various ways—for example in monogamish and polyamorous relationships, different ways of understanding sex and gender, and new ideas for managing commitment and break-up where economics, communities, or child-care make complete separation impossible. This book considers how the rules are being 'rewritten' in various ways, giving you the power to find an approach that best fits your situation.

Contains mature themes.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2018 Meg-John Barker (P)2025 Tantor Media

Depth of understanding

Full of valable information and practical advice on looking more deeply at the rules society sets around relationships and how to change them. The audio version definitely helped as the book got quite dense at times - though I see this as a good thing because everything the author writes about is worth hearing.