How to Not Die Alone

The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love

By: Logan Ury

Narrated by: Logan Ury

Length: 8 hrs and 1 min

Publisher's summary

A “must-read” (The Washington Post) funny and practical guide to help you find, build, and keep the relationship of your dreams.

Have you ever looked around and wondered, “Why has everyone found love except me?” You’re not the only one. Great relationships don’t just appear in our lives - they’re the culmination of a series of decisions, including whom to date, how to end it with the wrong person, and when to commit to the right one. But our brains often get in the way. We make poor decisions, which thwart us on our quest to find lasting love.

Drawing from years of research, behavioral scientist turned dating coach Logan Ury reveals the hidden forces that cause those mistakes. But awareness on its own doesn’t lead to results. You have to actually change your behavior. Ury shows you how.

This “simple-to-use guide” (Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone) focuses on a different decision in each chapter, incorporating insights from behavioral science, original research, and real-life stories. You’ll learn:

• What’s holding you back in dating (and how to break the pattern)
• What really matters in a long-term partner (and what really doesn’t)
• How to overcome the perils of online dating (and make the apps work for you)
• How to meet more people in real life (while doing activities you love)
• How to make dates fun again (so they stop feeling like job interviews)
• Why “the spark” is a myth (but you’ll find love anyway)

This “data-driven” (Time), step-by-step guide to relationships, complete with hands-on exercises, is designed to transform your life. How to Not Die Alone will help you find, build, and keep the relationship of your dreams.

Please note: This is an historical recording. The audio quality represents the technology of the time when it was produced.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2021 Logan Ury. All rights reserved. (P)2021 Simon & Schuster, Inc. All rights reserved.

A must read for daters!

Logan Ury nails the cause of my singleness, ME! I am so grateful for this realistic view of how to approach dating with a compassionate and proactive way to find love. It worked! Now I have attracted quality men and am taking my time to get to know them and evolve my own bad habits. Thank you Logan and F$&@K the Spark!

Life changing.

Logan provides simple yet profound insights into our thought patterns, behavioral pitfalls, blind spots, and the unnecessary/unhelpful things we tend to prioritize. Applicable for people who are single, dating, in a relationship, married, or coming out of a relationship—there is something in here for you. Fairly inclusive of different identities, as a cis queer woman I didn’t feel excluded. If you only read one relationship book give yourself the gift of it being this one.

I re-learned how to date!

This book (especially the first 2/3’s) helped me understand why I was always falling for the beautiful ‘prom date’ and why those didn’t result in long-term meaningful relationships. This book helped me identify what I was actually looking for and used science/data to back it up. Thank you Logan! I no longer think I’m going to die alone :)

overall nice,

might give it a second listen. more whole heartedly then. The author has a nice set of pfds to help keep you on track with your goals.

Although cheesy sounding

This book took me by surprise. At first glance it’s just a self help dating book and yes that exists. BUT. The ending chapters are honestly so crucial. Relationships are not magically created. They take real work. And there is some great ideas for approaching this growth in this book. This is a book I did not think I needed to listen to. But man it’s good

Amazing book

Great writing and a lot of useful tips on personal blockers in finding a relationship.

excerpt from the book

Women get a70% date increase when in profile pics they are standing alone, looking away, and showing teeth.
Men get a 70% boost in dating when in profile pics they are standing alone smiling w. No teeth and looking straight into the camera.
Black and white pics are a total plus for both

Great practical advice that can help to curb unrealistic expectations

I like the practicality of the book and that it touched on a lot of topics that are dealt with in past relationships. I will be taking some of the advice here in the future

Some good tips, irritating at times

The narration and stories were great. some evidence-based service, but also a lot of opinions, including irritating off-topic leftist commentary that felt forced and unnecessary to me. I think this book would be even more off-putting to some people more right of center, who I guess are not her target audience.

Live intentionally!!

So many realistic examples of what holds us back from co-creating the relationships we want - even the subconscious obstacles. Amazing read (listen).