I’ve been waiting for the right moment to record this special episode. We were recording the 183rd episode of Divorce Devil Podcast yesterday and I surprised Rachel with the request to do an episode on DPTSP, and she quickly jumped on the chance without hesitation. I just wanted a few things that men over 40 could probably improve with going through a divorce from a woman’s perspective. And, where did she go first?? I should have known d*ck pics! But, surprisingly, the podcast gets much better from there. Listen intently to Rachel’s points and see if you can improve on any of them. Thanks for listening…

Topics of:

Don’t go back for sex

No unsolicited d*ck pics

Be fair

Concentrate on your household

Jack in the Box Dad

Rule and boundaries

No emotions in a text

Do go out for blood

Don’t use the kids as pawns

Pocket p*ssy

Don’t send mixed signals

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Where do I start without giving away the contents from the title? Welcome, Chantal to the podcast. Her book, RAISE YOUR LOVE SIGNAL, deals with some of the challenges men over 40 man and/or will encounter during or after their divorce. Her teachings are just for a new significant other - but it works with friends, coworkers, and you kiddos. Everyone needs and should give and receive love. Discussions of being sensitive, dating allows you practice your skills, dating for a result, be available, mindfulness, managing the curveballs with tools, invest time, practice self-love, and it is hard for men to ask for help are all surfaced in this episode. Chantal has a definite superpower: raising your love signal with this show. Thanks Chantal!

More Topics:

Develop your communication

Take ownership

Admit when you f*ck up

Hold each other accountable

Build fireworks over time

Stupid superficial things

Can I sustain this long-term?

Seduction mode then get lazy

Chasing love

Dealbreakers

Stepping stones to the right one

Creating a safe space

Listen to the red flags

The art of modern dating

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Chantal’s TikTok

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Where do I start? What does a divorced or divorcing gay man over 40 have in common with a divorced or divorcing straight man? After interviewing Karl Dunn - quite a bit. Karl comes to us to discuss the plight of gay men's divorce - with quite a bit of similarities and few differences. His ability to form a special bond with some of his new-found friends at work is unique. Both sets of men basically have some of the same issues and complexities that encompass divorce.

This episode includes discussions of living in an artist collective, self-love, the elusive pot of gold, and Marian’s Law. We have to get Karl back for part two, for I think we only scratched the surface. Thanks, Karl.

Topics of;

• Regret

• Forgive yourself

• Master your aloneness

• Divorce law is written for men, women and children

• There is no protocol

• Divorce reform as a mental health issue

• Carvana Tower commercial

• The marriage didn’t make him. His divorce did

• Beating yourself

• Repeating the same patterns

• The elephant in the room

• Communication vs Respect

• Anger is not required

• I am enough being alone

• Expecting and rehearsing things that happen in your life

• Rainbow divorce

ALL THINGS KARL

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Welcome Jonathan Steele to the show. Being a divorce attorney, he has seen the whole gambit of the same old and the new old in his career. Discussions of narcissism and gaslighting, divorce law misconceptions, parenting time, not leaving the home, being organized, and not bad-mouthing your ex. But, what intrigued me the most was his cybersecurity element of divorce. It was so fascinating. This is not just your ordinary lawyer vs. divorce recovery podcast.

Also Topics on:

The power imbalance in the couple

Lawyers cost more than a therapist

Fight for parenting time

Frequent flyer

Welcoming good lawyers

Mediation

Concentrate on being the best father you can be

Two happy homes are better than one unhappy one

Get petty with pets

Parenting time with pets

Full disclosure

Children may want to blame themselves for the divorce

Parenting comes with experience

Never stay for the kids

Beermann Law Office Website

Steele Fortress - Cybersecurity

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Not too often do we have an actual wellness advocate on the show. I do enjoy my professionals, but Jonathan lends a new direction and flow to the mic. Through his life’s journey, he has compiled an experience quotient that relates to anyone who is going through a trying time. From discussing body image, voids in mental health, being a small circle guy, old guy hockey, addiction, balancing work and life, and every day is a gift - Jonathan hits all the major cylinders of the engine of getting through some sh*t! I appreciate him taking the time to drop some of his life’s knowledge on us. Thanks, Jonathan.

Topics of:

Thinking about others

Be indifferent to those who present negativity in your life

Karma is a real thing

Avoiding feeling your feelings

The importance of therapy

Snack of the Month Club

Self-care

Friends vs. acquaintances

Keep moving forward

Share the benefit of fitness with others

Lead with grace

Fostering connections

Jonathan Niziol Website

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Welcome Eran Magen to the show. He is a father and a psychologist. His superpowers are helping parents with better relationships with their kids while having a business helping divorcing dads with co-parenting and self-parenting. Being divorced, Eran knows firsthand how men can react negatively to having to co-parent. Topics of suicide prevention, accepting the legal reality and moving on, mutual mudslinging is stressful for kids, soul searching, and boundaries. Eran imparted some interesting knowledge to me and my men over forty, and we really appreciated it. We hope to have him on again.

Discussions of:

Jack in the Box Dad

Parental Alienation

Treating the kids as a business?

Mickey Mouse shorts

Pick your battles

ChatGBT is your friend

Finally realizing you are living the dream

B.I.F.F.

Getting over the shame and self-doubt

Shield them from the negativity

Framing the conversation for the benefit of the child

2,000 pieces of chocolate

Collaborative Parenting

Set boundaries early enough

Kids are smart

Be firm and clear without being harsh

Having the kids with no distractions

DIVORCING DADS WEBSITE

PARENTING FOR HUMANS WEBSITE

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Bill Simpson has been a professional coach for over 20 years and has seen his share of clients struggling through or after divorce. His superpower is helping men be the best versions of themselves. His insights come from having mostly women clients. They gave him insight into what they were looking for from a man in a relationship. Discussing men’s lack of empathy and vulnerability, being a better listener, taking a pause before responding, a love mission, taking time to be kinder to ourselves, and a divorce sometimes being worse than a death - my podcast with Bill creates and opens more conversations and thoughts down the road. I must get him back on the show to get deeper with a few topics. Enjoy.

Topics touched on:

Being ok with yourself

It takes two (Not Rob Base)

Not repeating the same patterns

Be open to change

Letting go is hard

The hat-trick of divorces

Reality is in the eye of the receiver

Men suck at communication

Affirmations are cool, but don’t forget to acknowledge and accept the pain

Focus on the kids

No bashing the ex in front of the kids

EVERYTHING BILL SIMPSON

MEN ON THE PATH TO LOVE PODCAST

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Welcome Mac Pierre-Louis to the show. He is an attorney who specializes in mediation for the states of Texas and Florida. His superpower is bringing two sides that were so far apart in the beginning eventually together to compromise through mediation. His messages included walking a fine line without being a therapist, patterns of human nature, and taking a pause at the beginning of the conflict of your divorce. The podcast was much more interesting than I thought it would be. Mac was an excellent guest. Made it very fluid and understandable. Simple conversation with simple concepts. Thanks, Mac!

Discussions of:

Self-help

Don’t lead with demands

Interested-based mediation

Give both parties respect

It takes two to tango

Retirement planning

Want to build trust

You kicked my cat!

A person ultimately wants validation

Narcissism

Karma

Reptilian brain

Prefrontal cortex

Co-parenting

Breaking the cycle of intergenerational patterns

Modeling healthy coping mechanisms

Don’t corner the opposite party

Provide rationales for your position

Financial challenges

Mac's Podcast - LMI Podcast

Mac Pierre-Louis Website

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