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Today, we're thrilled to sit down with Alfred Kainga, the 2023 Breakout Comedian of the Year, who has been making waves in the comedy scene from Zimbabwe to Dallas. I had the privilege of catching Alfred's show here in Calgary and was blown away by his wit and genuine presence. I laughed so hard I knew I had to reach out and meet the man who had the entire theater laughing from the moment he walked out on stage until the final curtain.

Alfred shares his journey from growing up as a boy in Zimbabwe to immigrating to Dallas, Texas, where his comedy career took off. He humbly recounts being discovered by comedian and actor Kevin Hart, a pivotal moment that launched him into the spotlight. "You dream big, you act big, you will get big" he says.

In our conversation, Alfred opens up about his first time on stage, the cultural shifts he experienced, and the humorous perspectives he brings to his jokes about the gaps many immigrants find themselves in. He emphasizes the importance of laughter in life, stating, "At the end of the day, let's just laugh about it." Alfred also reflects on his journey from Zimbabwe, emphasizing, "Don't ever let anyone tell you you can't do it."

Join us for an engaging episode filled with laughter, wisdom, and a deeper understanding of the power of comedy from Alfred Kainga, a comedian who's making his mark in the world.

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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.

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Today we are thrilled to welcome Neha, the founder of Ninja Nari, a platform dedicated to celebrating South-Asian roots and empowering women. This conversation came at a pivotal time for me, as Neha and I explore the complexities of navigating multiple identities and the responsibilities of discussing race. We also discuss the work upon us as POC to learn how to speak up in these situations and manage what is not ours to hold.

Neha opens up about:

The challenges and joys of cultural fusion
Learning the language behind toxic masculinity
Mental health in the South-Asian community
Balancing mom life with her mission
Navigating racialized experiences and speaking up.

Sometimes, we think we have to know everything about a topic to discuss it meaningfully. However, the important thing is that we remain curious and open to learning about where issues like toxic masculinity come from.

Join us for an inspiring and deeply personal conversation filled with Neha's wisdom and uplifting quotes like, "To grow we have to uplift each other," "Say no to self-doubt," "If you’re making round rotis, let me know, that’s a superpower," and "If she grows, then I grow." This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to understand the power of storytelling and community support.

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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.

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In this special episode, I feel incredibly lucky to have the opportunity to sit down with my very first male role model, the person who has influenced my understanding of male relationships at every stage of my life—from girlhood, through young womanhood, to womanhood. I am honored to welcome to the podcast, my Papa Varinder Singh Randhawa a South Asian immigrant.

Together, we reminisce about his early days in Canada, sharing nostalgic NHL memories and the cultural shocks he experienced upon arrival. We tap into his thoughts on important issues such as abuse and the powerful impact of Jeeti Pooni's book, The Silent Stoning. This book highlights the harrowing experiences of a South Asian woman facing sexual abuse by a family member, and its high-profile criminal court case. It serves as a powerful reminder of the struggles many girls and women face, often in silence, within their own families and communities. My father shares his reflections on the book and the importance of recognizing and addressing such issues.

Papa emphasizes the need to teach our young men how to treat the women in their lives, stressing the importance of change that begins at home. He reflects on the progress he's seen across generations, particularly in the growing awareness and education around mental health.

Throughout our conversation, Papa's words resonate deeply:

"Sometimes, to get a better life, you’ll do anything."
"Sometimes you have to give up something to get something."
"We have to teach our sons how to treat women."
"Before I talk to anybody else, I want to make a change."
"It only takes one person."
"Communicate and seek help."
"There is nothing wrong with asking for help."

Join us as we explore these themes and more, in an intimate and heartfelt conversation with my Papa, reflecting on the past, present, and future of our family and community.

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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.

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In this episode, we welcome back Doreen, who previously joined us in Episode 17. During her first appearance, Doreen shared her experiences as a first-generation Canadian navigating body image, diet culture, and finding self-love in her 40s. Today, we’re thrilled to have her back to talk about what has been on our minds lately.

Episode Highlights

Life in Your 40s:

Doreen reflects on turning 40 and how her views on body image and self-love have evolved.
"When you keep coming up against your own body being your enemy, it just takes the wind out of your sails."
We discuss the impact of hormones, managing guilt and shame from childhood, and finding joy.
Struggles for Women to Support Each Other:
Challenges women face in supporting each other, influenced by societal and historical factors.
"People are uncomfortable with other people’s discomfort."
We explore fostering stronger community bonds and mutual support among women, especially those from marginalized groups.

White Academia:

Doreen's journey of applying to graduate programs as a BIPOC individual.
Systemic barriers like being told she is not diverse enough.
Doreen shares why it is important for her to continue trying to get into her graduate program: "I'm going to do it because you don’t think I can." For her, it’s more than framing a degree on a wall; it’s about using her voice for immigrant families who are accessing the mental health system.
Strategies for breaking down systemic oppression.

Mental Health and Therapy:

The importance of mental health in our 40s, including therapy and finding a racialized therapist.
"It is hard to shake off decades of internalized messages."
Receiving therapy from a professional who shares relatable experiences provides culturally sensitive and supportive care, helping clients navigate and address the unique challenges of racism and cultural identity.
The impact of systemic oppression on friendships.

Relationships and Fertility:

Following up on Doreen's previous struggles with fertility and its impact on mental and physical health.
"This is not my fault."
"I've been afraid to speak up most of my life," but now embracing her voice and encouraging others to "get over that hump and just talk about it."

Join us as we dive into this inspiring story of resilience and growth faced by women in their 40's, particularly those from marginalized communities. Empowering and enlightening, this episode, offers valuable perspectives and a call to continue learning and supporting one another.

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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.

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In this episode I sit down with the hilarious and insightful Grand Komanda, a Nigerian comedian making waves in Calgary. Grand shares his journey into comedy, highlighting the highs and lows of performing on stage. He discusses the role of comedians as social commentators and the endless possibilities in delivering a single joke in countless ways.

Together, we explore important themes such as mental health within the Nigerian community and community integration, reflecting on how even the tough moments keep us grounded. Grand emphasizes the significance of seeking help when needed, the power of collaboration in our city, and how sometimes laughing about our hardships can help us cope. We also touch on often unspoken issues within the community, including fertility and mental health.

Tune in to hear how, as a young person, Grand discovered his gift for writing by crafting love letters for his friends to help them land dates. I am grateful for the time Grand shared with us, highlighting relatable and significant issues. Join us for a thought-provoking and entertaining conversation as we explore the multifaceted world of comedy, fatherhood, and being better human beings.

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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.

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This episode features Sunny Chopra, host of the 'South Asian Healing Podcast.' Sunny dives into the challenges faced by South Asian men regarding mental health and well-being. We explore the impact of cultural expectations and intergenerational trauma, while offering tips for fostering open communication and healthy boundaries.

The conversation today includes:

The unique struggles of South Asian boys and men when it comes to mental health
How to address the impact of fathers and intergenerational trauma
Common communication challenges within South Asian households
Setting boundaries with parents and in-laws
Sunny's personal journey of healing from childhood bullying and his parents' divorce
How to reclaim happiness and joy without resorting to unhealthy coping mechanisms
The importance of growth, resilience, and understanding within the South Asian community

Join us for an insightful conversation about mental health, healing, and finding joy in life!

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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.

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In this compelling episode, we welcome Harjeet Kaur, who confronted a rare and aggressive cancer with extraordinary courage and determination. Diagnosed with stage IV Subcutaneous Panniculitis T-cell Lymphoma at 32, Harjeet battled through immense challenges, including isolation during the COVID-19 pandemic and the stigma of cancer in her South Asian community.

Harjeet's journey isn't just about survival; it's about using her experience to bridge gaps in understanding and support. She founded Chai & Hope: South Asian Cancer Community to provide a platform for those affected by cancer. Her story emphasizes the importance of community, support, and hope.

Join us to hear Harjeet's inspiring words and learn why no one should face cancer alone. This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking strength, understanding, and the power of resilience in the face of adversity. Discover how collective support and shared stories can transform lives and communities.

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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.

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In this special dedication to mothers, we are excited to have Hira, a first generation immigrant imparting her valuable perspectives. This installment celebrates the resilience and perseverance of mothers who have immigrated, drawing inspiration from Hira’s personal journey and her gratitude for her own mother’s silent sacrifices—a common thread among many immigrant mothers. We look into the complex challenges these mothers face, examining their roles both in the workforce and at home, and addressing the often-neglected issue of their mental health.
The discussion also covers the unnecessary guilt that immigrant children often feel, the importance of taking care of oneself, and the need to recognize true strength as opposed to the harmful practice of praising self-sacrifice too much.
This talk honors the important experiences of immigrant mothers, highlighting the need for mental health support that respects different cultures and stresses the importance of making happiness and health a priority.
Through conversation we shed light on the emotional burdens of these sacrifices, the impediments to accessing mental health support due to cultural constraints, and the enduring lessons of resilience handed down across generations.
As we bring this conversation to a close, we extend a special invitation to families listening together—children, mothers, and fathers alike. This dialogue transcends generations, offering a moment for shared reflection on the resilience and legacy of immigrant mothers. It’s an opportunity for children to hear firsthand the stories of strength and sacrifice that have shaped their lives, and for fathers to join in acknowledging and honoring the often silent yet profound contributions of their partners. Together, let’s embrace the lessons of our past to nurture a future rich in understanding, compassion, and collective well-being.

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In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.