In this episode, we explore the sobering and eye-opening correlation of many former foster youth who end up incarcerated. Social policy experts have deemed this all too common reality as the "foster to prison pipeline." Our guest, Bernie Lattner, has an extremely unique and helpful vantage into this phenomonen as a long time foster dad, mentor, and prison chaplain for a federal prison in Rochester, MN. Bernie is a single foster and adoptive dad and shares some really important insights through the lenses of fostering and being a prison chaplain.

Bernie, Travis, and Courtney engage in a conversation that explores some of the factors that connect the dots between foster care and criminal problems later. Bernie shares insights from prisoners on the things they now realize would have helped them when they were youth looking to find belonging and connection.

Bernie shares his story of growing up with a single father and becoming a foster father to three boys by 2006. He describe the struggles and joys of fostering, especially, kids that have reactive attachment disorder and other behavioral problems. Bernie also mentions his present case of working with a 17-year-old boy who, with Bernie’s intervention and assistance, was able to complete high school. Bernie shares an incredible story of a heart warming moment they share at his graduation.

Helpful information for single fathers and men who are thinking about becoming foster parents can be heard as well in this episode. Join us and listen to Bernie’s incredible story and get the understanding of fostering, adoption and mentoring from the person who has devoted his life to the well-being of the children and families.

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2. Youth Today

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Tina gives her testimony of being in the foster care system then being adopted. She is able to discuss what she had to go through during her time in foster care and her experience of recovering from the effects of being in foster care after being adopted. Tina elaborates on the issues of reciprocal adoption of siblings and the role she played as a mother figure in her brother’s life. She also talks about what led her to return to foster care as an adult and speak for those children who are waiting to be adopted. To the prospective and current foster parents, Tina offers them some tips to go by among them being to always avoid burning out. The last part of the conversation is a success story of three brothers brought together and adopted as a set. Seventy-five percent of siblings in foster care are separated, which severely affects children’s well-being and creates trauma. The main cause for the separation is the inability of foster homes to accommodate all the siblings. However, one should take into account additional and avoidable harms inflicted by splitting siblings. Children who remain with their siblings are better off in their transition and benefit from better academic, behavioral, and health status. However, there are occasions when it is better for the siblings to be separated and this is where communication in the form of visits, phone calls and writing letters is important. Foster parents should also be in a position to request for chances of the separated siblings to be connected.

In 2019, Pam and her husband Gary were about to be empty nesters when she saw a story on Facebook about a sibling group of seven whose parents were killed in a car crash. They were desperately needing a family who could keep them all together. It was then that she and Gary made the life changing decision to become new parents again after raising five of their own. Later, their adoption story went viral with an Instagram video that got shared by Kristin Bell and Michael Buble, among many others, propelling her following to more than 100,000 virtually overnight.

Their story was featured in People Magazine and Pam has been a guest on Kate Hudson's podcast and Jada Smith's talk show. With her new found platform, Pam is strong advocate in the foster care space and guides others on all things related to foster parenting and adoption. Pam's heart is to give kids in foster care the best home they can get and stresses the role of love in the process of healing. She talks about her experience of being a foster and adoptive mother and shares about the need to learn and seek help continuously. She also shares about the encouragement she found in her church and her close-knit relatives and friends and neighbors. Pam also talks about how she continues to engage the public on the issue of foster care and adoption through social media, specifically, Instagram. She stresses the fact that every person is capable of making an impact on the life of a kid in foster care and calls for people to really consider becoming foster and adoptive parents or finding ways of supporting those who are.

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Nanette Kirsch, as the executive director of marketing and communications for America's Kids Belong (AKB), details her experience in tech marketing that contributed to spearheading AKB's marketing strategy. She delves into the idea of foster-friendly communities— underscoring that community support is vital to foster families. The discussion doesn't end there; it also sheds light on the Foster Friendly app. This innovative app bridges foster families with supportive entities: businesses, churches, and nonprofits offering discounts and backing. The end goal? To cultivate a sense of belonging plus bolstering support for foster families and ultimately enhancing experiences — even outcomes — for kids in foster care. Nanette discloses how individuals can emulate such models in their towns— thereby making a difference.

The latest episode of the Foster Friendly Podcast is spent with Barry Farmer. He is not only an adoptive father but a strong voice for foster care and adoption advocacy. Barry walks us through his personal narrative — a tale of being raised under kinship care and later becoming a foster parent at quite a young age. Barry and hosts, Travis and Courtney, all represent transracial adoptive families and talk about their unique experiences and observations in this space, sharing a few laughs along the way. The difficulties and delights that come with transracial adoption are among the key points Barry delves into, underscoring the value of having a cultural grasp, which plays significantly into such adoptions. His discussion also touches on his advocacy initiatives as well as the support system he extends to fellow foster and adoptive families, thus painting a complete picture of his involvement within this space.

Barry sheds light on his journey as both a foster and adoptive parent: an exploration into some of the challenges and joys involved in raising older children from foster care— an often misconceived endeavor riddled with preconceived notions which, according to him, only serve to create unnecessary barriers between parents and these children who direly need love and affection. Farmer speaks about the importance of advocacy and speaking out for children in foster care who tend to be forgotten. He shares details about his radio show, the Barry Farmer Morning Show, as well as his involvement in community work that aims to provide support for foster care and adoption. Barry's inspiring story, positive life outlook, and light hearted observations will put a smile on your face as you listen.

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Hosts Brian Mavis, Travis Vangsnes, and Courtney Williams present the Foster Friendly podcast in its debut episode. The show seeks to widen the Foster Friendly effort, which includes The Foster Friendly App, designed to support foster families. The goal of the podcast is to give foster and adoptive parents information and assistance. This show also seeks to amplify support for foster families, bridging gaps between businesses, faith groups, and public services to create communities where children and families thrive.

Each host introduces themselves and shares their individual stories of adoption and foster care. Courtney Williams begins by summarizing her 17-year journey, which started with problems related to infertility. She and her spouse have fostered about 60 kids over the years and eventually adopted six children. A touching story describes how their kids wrote a letter indicating their want to open their home and life to new foster children, encouraging them to keep fostering.

Travis Vangsnes tells his story, which began while he was employed as a mental health caseworker in St. Louis, Missouri. Prior to adopting two boys, they worked as house parents in a large group home in SC for kids in foster care of all ages. They were then briefly licensed foster parents. Travis also tells a funny anecdote of how, in the middle of a midlife crisis, he made the rash decision to purchase a Greyhound bus for an RV conversion, which he eventually sold.

Brian Mavis (co-founder of America's Kids Belong) talks about how his wife Julie motivated them to become involved in foster care. Julie felt called to serve children without families, and they started their adventure by looking into foster care after realizing how much the US needed foster homes. A caseworker's challenge to Brian to find more families than there were children in need of homes was a turning point in the story; it resulted in the establishment of America's Kids Belong.

The hosts highlight their commitment as an organization to helping foster and adoptive families throughout the episode, discussing both the difficulties and the blessings of their experiences. They lay out the objectives of the podcast, which include uplifting narratives, educating listeners on the needs of kids in the foster care system, and offering resources and support to foster/ adoptive parents and businesses and faith communities supporting them.

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