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Have you ever felt so alone you could cry? Me neither. But Mike sure has. He did this episode all by himself. And man, did he nail it. He talks about the stories that define us and the stories that others use to define us. He shares the story of Emma Carey, a skydiver who survived a 14,000-foot fall, and how she struggles with being defined by that one event. Take home is you don't have to be defined by moments. Listen in. Define yourself.

Takeaways

• The stories we choose to define ourselves and the stories others use to define us can have a significant impact on our identity.
• We have the power to change the narratives that define us and actively work towards creating a more positive and fulfilling story.
• Happiness is not a fixed state, but a mission statement that requires active effort and a willingness to redefine it for ourselves.
• It's important to not let external factors or past experiences solely define our happiness and to work towards finding happiness in the present moment.
• Taking control of our own narratives and actively working towards happiness can lead to a more fulfilling and empowered life.

Sound Bites

• "The stories we choose to define ourselves and the stories others use to define us can have a significant impact on our identity."
• "Happiness is not a feeling for her. It is a mission statement."
• "You can make all the changes you want, but it's a long shot that'll make the story go away."

Chapters

00:00
Introduction and Solo Session

02:54
Emma Carey's Story

09:03
Defining Ourselves and Others

15:25
Assigned Stories and Personal Change

25:05
Working Towards Happiness

31:22
Taking Control of Our Narratives

34:28
Conclusion

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Spacemen! Heed my warning! Not really. Today, we debunk some common ideas about divorce. Matt's gone, but Mike and Rob get into it about problems one researcher stated are signs of impending divorce. Don't worry, they're not really. But don't just take our word for it, listen in. As a special bonus, you can go watch Rob's final show with his really cool punk-ska band from 20 years ago.

Keywords

infidelity, causes of divorce, communication, intimacy, divorce, intimacy, financial disagreements, excessive drinking, drug use, jealousy, irritating habits, communication, responsibility

Takeaways

• Cheating and infidelity are often symptoms of deeper issues in a relationship rather than the primary cause of divorce.
• The percentage of marriages affected by infidelity is estimated to be between 20% and 45%, but the likelihood of divorce due to infidelity varies.
• It is important to address the underlying issues that lead to infidelity, such as lack of communication and intimacy.
• Deal breakers in a marriage, such as infidelity and violence, are often more complex and nuanced than they appear.
• Open and honest communication, along with a strong emotional connection, are key factors in maintaining a healthy and fulfilling relationship. Infidelity, lack of intimacy, and financial disagreements are common issues in relationships, but they can be worked through with effort and communication.
• Excessive drinking or drug use can be extremely damaging to a relationship and may be difficult to recover from.
• Jealousy and irritating habits can cause conflicts in a relationship, but it's important to consider one's own role and reactions in these situations.
• Divorce is a personal choice, and there are no guarantees in relationships. It's important to weigh the pros and cons and make a decision that aligns with one's values and goals.
• Seeking therapy or counseling can be helpful in navigating relationship challenges and finding solutions.
• Taking responsibility for one's own actions and choices is crucial in maintaining a healthy and fulfilling relationship.

Sound Bites

• "Cheating and infidelity are often symptoms of deeper issues in a relationship."
• "The likelihood of divorce due to infidelity varies."
• "You can bounce back from infidelity... It takes a lot of work."
• "Money is a big deal because it represents safety and security."
• "You're never going back to how things were before... Your relationship will be different going forward."

Chapters

00:00
Podcast Plans and Soda Consumption

09:14
Exploring Signs of Divorce

12:20
Skepticism Towards Divorce Predictors

14:59
Introduction

23:18
Financial Issues in a Relationship

31:56
Substance Abuse and its Impact on Marriage

37:40
Moodiness and its Effect on Relationships

42:43
Dealing with Irritating Habits in a Marriage

46:41
Jealousy and Building Trust in a Relationship

49:57
Conclusion

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Spacemen, we've let you down. I mean, not really, but sort of. We weren't there for you last week when you needed us most. But we, like many people, have limits and have to take vacations from time to time. We're back though, and everything will once again be aligned in the spaceiverse.

As you will hear, Rob was absent on this episode. But it's a good one anyway. Today, we talk about how we can learn to love. Matt and Mike talk about the book 'The Art of Loving' by Eric Fromm and the four main components of love: care, responsibility, respect, and knowledge. More specifically, they talk about respect, care, self-growth, and vulnerability. I mean, did you really think we'd have an episode in which we didn't talk about vulnerability? So, get ready to learn...to love...and to laugh. Put that on your wall. You're welcome.

Keywords
love, relationships, care, responsibility, respect, knowledge, effort, understanding, self-growth, vulnerability, relationships, tolerance, sacrifice, well-being, love, acceptance, personal growth

Takeaways

• Love requires active concern for the well-being and growth of the person we love.
• Responsibility in love means being willing to respond and take action in service of the other person's well-being.
• Respect involves fully seeing and understanding the other person, allowing them space to develop on their own terms.
• Knowledge in love means deeply understanding the other person's inner workings and being able to interpret their actions and emotions.
• Love is both an art and a science, requiring effort and understanding.
• The component of love that is often missing or misunderstood is subjective and can vary depending on the individual and the relationship. Respect and tolerance for vulnerability are crucial in relationships.
• Men often sacrifice their own well-being for the sake of others.
• Self-care and personal growth are important for maintaining a healthy relationship.
• Love involves accepting and seeing each other for who they truly are.

Titles

• The Art of Loving: Exploring the Components of Love
• Missing and Misunderstood: Reflecting on the Components of Love Accepting and Seeing Each Other for Who We Truly Are
• The Challenges of Sacrificing One's Well-Being for Others

Sound Bites

• "Care, responsibility, respect, and knowledge"
• "To really love somebody it takes these different things"
• "Love as both an art and a science"
• "There's just not enough toleration of the vulnerability that goes along with allowing yourself to be fully seen so that your partner can respect you."
• "My job is to be kind of at your service, right. And there's no room for me to be tired or spent or need space and just communicate that to you in a way that indicates that it's fine for me to feel that way and we'll still be okay."
• "Knowing yourself well enough to let yourself be seen and choosing to see your partner for who they are."

Chapters

00:00
The Joy of Homemade Creations

00:25
Planning for Future Episodes

07:26
The Four Components of Love: Care, Responsibility, Respect, and Knowledge

13:06
The Challenges Men Face in Understanding and Practicing Love

18:22
The Importance of Self-Care in Love and Relationships

24:31
Seeing and Accepting Your Partner for Who They Truly Are

29:28
The Potential for Deep Connection and Fulfillment in Love

37:41
Closing Thoughts and Reflection

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