In this final sixth of a six part mini-sode series “How to Love Better”, Doug and Dr Talia discuss how to apologize so well, you will not need to continue apologizing. In order to resolve conflicts in relationships, we encourage you to use 'I feel' statements and take responsibility for your behavior and its impact on others. Easier said than done. Sincere apologies are those that acknowledge the other person's experience and commit to making changes. To be heard is to be healed, and apologies without behavior change are just manipulation. BAM.

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In this fifth of a six part mini-sode series “How to Love Better”, Doug and Dr Talia discuss how to disappointment-proof yourself and accept the truth that your needs are not as obvious as you think they are. And your partner is not psychic, as much as you wish they were. And even though you might be better than your average bear at anticipating and fulfilling the needs of others, there are a host of reasons why your partner might not be beating you to the punch in meeting your needs. When you say “ I shouldn’t have to tell them” or “they should already know “, you are in fact setting yourself up for a world of resentment, frustration and disappointment. Doug and Dr. Talia are encouraging you to own your needs and lovingly make them clear, even if you have to repeat them. We are rooting for you!

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In this fourth of a six part mini-sode series “How to Love Better”, Doug and Dr Talia offer their favorite and most used couples’ therapy nuggets of wisdom. This week we talk about “giving the benefit of the doubt” even if it’s hard. Yes Yes, the best predictor of future behavior might be past behavior, but giving the benefit of the doubt allows your relationship and your partner to grow. Don’t pigeon hole them and jump to dark conclusions, you will perpetuate a reactive relationship dynamic in which neither of you see each other accurately and with love. We hope you enjoy this mini-sode!

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In this third of a six part mini-sode series “How to Love Better”, Doug and Dr Talia offer their favorite and most used couples’ therapy nuggets of wisdom. This week we talk about where each of us lies on the continuum of authenticity vs harmony in our love relationships. We tend to give our partner what we most desire. Those valuing “authenticity” (sometimes at the cost of harmony) feel most connected to their partner through honesty, sharing their thoughts, feelings, observations, and are more free to share constructive feedback and state their needs with their partners, hoping for a reciprocation in effort. On the other hand, those valuing “harmony” (also often at the cost of authenticity) value a general feeling of calm, ease, positivity, joy, and hope for a reciprocal “going with the flow for the greater good” in their interactions with their partner. Both ways of being in the world are often in reaction to family of origin patterns that we are either seeking to recreate, healthy or not, because the interactions feel like home to us, or to regulate our fried nervous systems, or hopefully to create a connection that feels healthier and stronger than the one we grew up in. Which is superior? A balance is what we seek, but what we do know is that you can have authenticity without harmony (not an enjoyable relationship perhaps), but you cannot have true harmony without authenticity. Enjoy!

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In this second of a six part mini-sode series “How to Love Better”, Doug and Dr Talia offer their favorite and most used couples’ therapy nuggets of wisdom. This week we urge you to stay in the discomfort of having a loving but tough conversation with your partner. “Don’t Drop the Rope” speaks to the idea that when our nervous system is short-circuiting in a trauma response; fight, flight or freeze, let’s try to stick with it if we can, or at least acknowledge their bid for partnership along with our need to calm down, and reassure our partner we will circle back to resolve it as soon as we are regulated.

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In this first of a six part mini-sode series “How to Love Better”, Doug and Dr Talia offer their favorite and most used couples’ therapy nuggets of wisdom. This week we focus on “If you don’t do your your work, everyone around you will have to”. The idea is that the benefit of doing your work, owning your past, your trauma, your triggers, your unmet needs, is so great. You will be changing dysfunctional and toxic relationship patterns, you will be empowered to communicate your thoughts, feelings, needs and boundaries, you will stop feeling victimized by others’ bad behavior and you will find more fulfillment and joy in your relationship life. On the flip-side, we argue the cost of not doing your work is too damaging. You will be perpetuating unhealthy patterns and continue to think others are the problem. You might even blame them for disregulating you rather than feel responsible for your own reaction, communication, and triggers. To “own” your triggers is to be freed from the unconscious toxic relationship patterns that are no longer serving you. We encourage you to level up in your precious relationship skills.

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Dr Talia & Doug welcome you to Part 2 of our two-part series recorded LIVE at the Rogue Buddha! Have you ever wondered why any woman in your life has had unexplainable mood swings, insomnia, irritability, rage, physical discomfort, irrational reactivity, anxiety, and/or depression? Well friends, buckle your seatbelts & grab a glass. If you, dear listener, are not a woman, you are about to understand the unbelievably powerful effects hormonal imbalances have on women, and if you are a woman, you’re welcome. You are about to feel validated and learn so much about what is happening to you.

Our amazing couple, Gabriela & Chris Ball share with us their painful journey through IVF, Post-Partum Depression/ Psychosis and Menopause. And as Gaby said, we need male allies! Chris’s perspective is invaluable as a husband struggling with his own adjustments to parenthood, grieving his father and mentor, a new job that had him traveling more often than not and their communication withered away to “How’s it going?” “Fine”. We can all relate to this too well.

In this week's episode, our couple shares how they reconnected after years of sadness, loneliness and solo journeys through their own busy lives and bumpy mental health. Gaby finally shared with Chris what she had been struggling with for four years. And stay tuned for our BONUS guest the last 25 minutes. Meet Functional Integrative Hormone Specialist Jenikka Tomashek, NP.

You will come out of this episode feeling warm & hopeful, with a suitcase full of strategies for improved partnership around the hormonal struggles, as well as increased insight into the medical angle of what’s happening, lifestyles suggestions and potential treatment options.

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Dr Talia & Doug welcome you to Part 1 of our two-part series recorded LIVE at the Rogue Buddha! Have you ever wondered why any woman in your life has had unexplainable mood swings, insomnia, irritability, rage, physical discomfort, irrational reactivity, anxiety, and/or depression? Well friends, buckle your seatbelts & grab a glass. If you, dear listener, are not a woman, you are about to understand the unbelievably powerful effects hormonal imbalances have on women, and if you are a woman, you’re welcome. You are about to feel validated and learn so much about what is happening to you.Our amazing couple, Gabriela & Chris Ball share with us their painful journey through IVF, Post-Partum Depression/ Psychosis and Menopause. And as Gaby said, we need male allies! Chris’s perspective is invaluable as a husband struggling with his own adjustments to parenthood, grieving his father and mentor, a new job that had him traveling more often than not and their communication withered away to “How’s it going?” “Fine”. We can all relate to this too well.Part two next week includes our couple sharing how they reconnected as Gaby shared with Chris what she had been struggling with for four years, as well as a segment with our bonus guest, Functional Integrative Hormone Specialist Jennika Tomashek, NP. You will come out of this episode feeling warm & hopeful, with a suitcase full of strategies for improved partnership around the hormonal struggles, as well as increased insight into the medical angle of what’s happening, lifestyles suggestions and potential treatment options.SEND THIS EPISODE TO YOUR HUSBANDS, WIVES, PARTNERS, SISTERS, FRIENDS, MOMS, FRIENDS’ MOMS & MOM’S FRIENDS... anyone you think would benefit from this conversation! Like, subscribe and follow for more!