A Better Share

How Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load for More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great Sex

By: Morgan Cutlip

Narrated by: Morgan Cutlip

Read by the author.

Transform your marriage and enjoy your spouse again when you share the mental load and end the cycle of stress and resentment.

Relationship expert Dr. Morgan Cutlip helps couples view the mental load--the endless and mostly invisible work of managing a household and family--as a shared enemy to conquer versus a problem they have with each other, offering practical solutions for navigating the most common pain points couples struggle with.

Usually a few years after “I do”—once the reality of family life hits—many couples find themselves at each other's throats because they don't know how to navigate the mental and emotional work of managing a household together. They worry that they'll always be fighting about who should do the dishes or pick up the balloons for the party, but don't know how to begin talking about their frustrations without pointing fingers.

In A Better Share, Dr. Morgan Cutlip offers you practical advice that goes beyond getting your spouse to pick up the slack and focuses on the unique perspectives and experiences of each partner, enabling both of you to feel seen and heard. She helps you leave behind resentment and anxiety and begin to:

• Understand why the mental load primarily falls on women and how it impacts sexual desire
• Share perspectives, expectations, ownership, and accountability
• Use actionable plans for divvying up tasks and teaching the next generation how to share the mental load

Through research and stories based on real couples, A Better Share guides you out of the endless stress and resentment cycle and into a relationship where sharing is caring, having fun together is a priority, and great sex isn't a thing of the past.

Graphics and resources can be found in the audiobook companion PDF download.

Just read it

Such a wonderful book, prompted my husband and I to have productive conversations. We both felt much more understood

I’ve never related to a book so much in my life

I loved this book. The author has a nice voice and is easy to listen to. But more so, this book was exactly what I needed. I related to every single thing she said and have never felt so understood. So grateful for this book!

Dr. Cutlip truly understands the modern relationship dynamic

I’ve never related so quickly or fully to a book. I even went so far as to also buy the Kindle version to screenshot specific quotes for later reference. The book is simultaneously nuanced and familiar to the conversations we are all having with our friends in frustration. The difference between this book and others is Cutlip doesn’t point to one partner alone as not doing enough, but sheds light on how both genders think, process, prioritize, and love differently and how that translates within the mental load and division of home labor. It’s been truly insightful and I think every couple should read it!

A must-read on relationships and the mental load

As a psychologist and a mother, I’ve read my fair share of books on relationships, but A Better Share stands out. Dr. Morgan offers a thoughtful, well-balanced perspective on the complexities of the mental load in partnerships, weaving together both ‘his’ and ‘hers’ viewpoints with nuance and empathy. What sets this book apart is how actionable it is: the tools she provides are realistic, not overwhelming, and rooted in real-life dynamics. I’ve benefited from it both personally and professionally, and it’s now on my list of recommended reads for patients. 10/10.

A Must Read!

This book is a must read for any couple in a long-term heterosexual relationship-normative relationship! Even after 20-years of marriage there are MANY tools I am taking away from this book. Dr. Cutlip is relatable and down to earth, giving suggestions and tools that aren’t dependent on enough time, money or resources. Highly recommend!