The ADHD Effect on Marriage

Understand and Rebuild Your Relationship in Six Steps

By: Melissa Orlov

Narrated by: Laura Jennings

An invaluable resource for couples in which one of the partners suffers from attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), this authoritative book guides troubled marriages toward an understanding of and appreciation for the struggles and triumphs of a relationship affected by it and to look at the disorder in a more positive and less disruptive way. Going beyond traditional marriage counseling, this discussion offers advice from the author's personal experience and years of research and identifies patterns of behavior that can hurt marriages - such as nagging, intimacy problems, sudden anger, and memory issues - through the use of vignettes and descriptions of actual couples and their ADHD struggles and solutions. This resource encourages both spouses to become active partners in improving their relationship and healing the fissures that ADHD can cause.

©2010 Melissa Orlov (P)2017 Tantor

Nail and hammer meet

This book is actually the life I'm living now. I am the non-adhd spouse. It's been something I've been looking for a long time. 1/2 way through. So far it's had some good suggestions I knew I needed to follow but needed to hear it from an authority.

Amazing

Just like my life it doesn’t fix anything but at least understand that is something that I didn’t ask for

Book is SO helpful!

The book is extremely helpful for those who are seeking more information on how ADHD affects relationships. It is spot on. The one thing I did NOT care for is the narrator's Jody Foster-esque voice. It gritted on my nerves at first, but I got used to it.

Very enjoyable audiobook

I found this book to be very helpful and had some very interesting concepts. While I couldn’t relate to many of the stereotypical ADHD traits there was still enough useful information in the book to make it worthwhile.

Very Insightful and Easy to Read

This book helped me feel seen. It put words to the patterns that we have been living in our relationship, providing me the language to begin the hard conversations and giving us manageable actions to take. It was also very easy to read and understand the concepts proposed.

Also, contrary to other reviews I thought author was very thoughtful with interchanging the genders between the perspectives. Seems widely applicable to all being impacted by ADHD.

It also gave me hope!

Great resource to improve marriage!

I’m a non-ADHD spouse looking to learn more about my husbands ADHD and how it influences our marriage. This book gives practical recommendations for BOTH spouses. It was very well balanced and suggested healthy ways to involve professional help, seek treatment for BOTH spouses, and made a clear boundary where ADHD stops and abuse begins. She is very clear on what is unacceptable, even for someone with ADHD. I finally feel like we aren’t crazy, we aren’t suffering alone, and the work that’s put in to treating symptoms and their effects with benefit BOTH of us greatly. Very worth the read!

Fantastic resource

Filled cover to cover with PRACTICAL strategies and ways to grow as a couple when you or your partner have ADHD. Helps to both understand your partner AND yourself!

Mixed emotions.

This book has a lot of good info for couples struggling with ADHD in their marriage. It is worth listening to. Be aware, however, if you are the partner with adhd, go into it knowing this is very heavy on the non-adhd perspective. If you are listening to it together, the non adhd partner should remember that, for someone with rejection dysphoria and resentment that builds up because of it, your partner might need to take breaks and listen to this book in chunks. I have adhd and it is very hard to listen to her drive home the same point over and over with the shared stories. I know validation is important for my husband, so I am glad he can feel that people relate to him and understand how he has felt. Just remember to use this book for the tips it has and be sensitive toward one another’s feelings while listening to this. I can’t imagine this is an easy book for anyone that has ADHD to listen to.

Necessary!!

I have ADHD and I am married to a Non-ADHD. This book helps IMMENSELY. It gives specific tips that both side WILL need almost on a daily basis if not, daily. If you're in a marriage already and are struggling, you need this book, it will save your marriage. If you just got married or are going to get married and either of you have ADHD, I Highly recommend this book to know what exactly you're getting yourself into and better prepare yourself with the tools that you WILL need.

I've already read it once, listened twice

wow, very strong book. ADHD is not a burdon to have, just takes a little more work than others #tagsgiving #sweepstakes #Heartfelt #Inspiring #Magical #Mindbending