What You Need to Know about Narcissistic Abuse: 2-in-1 Book Bundle Featuring Start Here and Out of the Fog

Understanding Narcissists, Sociopaths, or Other Types of Toxic People in Your Life

By: Dana Morningstar

Narrated by: Dana Morningstar

In this box set, you get the best-selling book Out of the Fog, and you get Start Here included as a bonus.

The audiobook Out of the Fog will help you get out of the of confusion and into the clarity that you are looking for.

FOG is an acronym that stands for "Fear, Obligation, and Guilt". These three emotions are often at the core of manipulation and are often how narcissists, sociopaths, and other types of emotional manipulators go about controlling their targets.

However, this type of destructive manipulation isn't just limited to narcissists and sociopaths.

There is no shortage of people with well-intended bad advice out there who unintentionally fall into the FOG as well, and push targets of abuse into keeping the relationship going.

The FOG is one of the main reasons that people stay "stuck" in emotionally abusive relationships for so long, why they continue to get involved with abusive people, why they feel that they are the problem, and why they tend to feel that the abuse is somehow their fault.

When a person is being manipulated they have a hard time figuring out who has the problem, what is normal, what is problematic, and if their wants, needs, and feelings are valid. The disastrous effects of being lost in the FOG are confusion, crazymaking, people-pleasing, and erosion of boundaries.

What makes this well-intended bad advice so damaging is that, on the surface, it seems like good advice - especially if it's coming from people who seem to have our best interests in mind, such as friends, family, church members, support group members, or a therapist.

Some examples of this well-intended bad advice that comes from other people is:

"Who are you to judge?" "No one is perfect". "You need to forgive them". "She's your mother, you need to have a relationship with her...she's not getting any younger you know". "Commitment is forever".

What can be so crazymaking for targets is that they are often getting two very different messages. On one hand, they are told that they need to work towards a solution, and on the other, they are told that need to leave a partner who lies, cheats, steals, hits, yells, or belittles them.

This audiobook compares and contrasts of these concepts so that targets of any type of manipulation and abuse can make a more empowered decision.

Some of the concepts covered are:

• Who are you to judge vs. being discerning
• No one is perfect vs. tolerating abuse
• You need to forgive them vs. keeping yourself safe
• A parent vs. a predator
• Commitment vs. Codependency
• Self-love vs. selfishness
• A person acting the part vs. a person actually changing
• Gut instincts vs. hypervigilance
• A friend vs. someone being friendly
• Caring vs. caretaking
• Being in love with them vs. being in love with who they pretended to be
• Workable behavior vs. deal breakers
• Acceptance vs. allowance
• Going through so much together vs. being put through so much by them
• Sincerity vs. intensity
• Healthy bonding vs. trauma bonding
• Insincere remorse vs. sincere remorse
• Reacting vs. responding
• And many more.

Plus, as a bonus, you’ll also get Start Here: A Crash Course Guide to Understanding, Navigating, and Healing From Narcissistic Abuse to help you understand all of the concepts, terminology, and FAQs surrounding narcissistic abuse. In this bonus offer, you’ll discover terms such as "Flying Monkeys", "triangulation", "projection", "covert narcissist", "parentification", and dozens more.

©2019 Dana Morningstar (P)2019 Dana Morningstar

Eye opening

This is a great resource! Lots of definitions and clarity around abusive behavior, regardless of the label. There’s also lots of practical advice for moving forward.

Helpful!

Helpful and eye opening! Much needed information!… I found many “a-haa” moments while listening!

Books are similar but information is helpful

I enjoyed these books, there was humor as well as lots of validating scenarios which normalize your abuse. Which allows you to realize you’re not alone, and these manipulators play by the same rule book.

Excellent Guide to Understanding Narcissism

I really enjoyed listening to this book. It was extremely informative and eye opening.

If you are dealing with a narc, this is the book for you

This book helped me put into perspective just what I was dealing with. From the definitions to the real stories, I was nodding the entire time. I’ve healed so much since pressing the play button and I hope more people find this book!