The Covert Passive-Aggressive Narcissist

Recognizing the Traits and Finding Healing After Hidden Emotional and Psychological Abuse

By: Debbie Mirza

Narrated by: Debbie Mirza

The Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist: Finding Healing After Hidden Emotional and Psychological Abuse is the most comprehensive and helpful audiobook on the topic of covert narcissism. This type of narcissism is one of the most damaging forms because the abuse is so hidden and so insidious. You can be in a relationship that can last for decades and not realize you are being psychologically and emotionally controlled, manipulated, and abused.

These people are well-liked; they are often the pillars of the community. Parents, spouses, bosses, and friends who are covert narcissists come across as the nicest people. They can be spiritual leaders, they are moms who bring over casseroles to needy people, they are the bosses who everyone loves and feels so lucky to work for.

These relationships are incredibly confusing and damaging. They leave you questioning your own sanity and reality. Even though they are treating you terribly, you wonder if you are the problem, if you are the one to blame. You are filled with constant self-doubt when it comes to these people in your life. When you are around them, you feel confused and muddled inside. You have a hard time seeing clearly.

These relationships can bring you to a state of deep depression and complete depletion of energy. You may wonder if you will ever see clearly and heal from these destructive and debilitating relationships.

This audiobook will give you hope that you can heal and feel alive again, or maybe for the first time. You will learn what the traits of a covert narcissist are, as well as how they control and manipulate. Your eyes will open, and your experience will be validated. You will also learn ways to heal and actually enjoy life again.

Debbie Mirza uses decades of her own experience with covert narcissists as well as her years of practice as a life coach who specializes in helping people recover and heal from these types of relationships.

©2017 Debra Mirza (P)2018 Debra Mirza

Excellent for victims of abusive narcissists

This is an excellent read. Debbie doesn't draw off of her opinion and experience only. She actually interviewed a great deal of people who were actual victims and in marriages with narcs. I spent 53 years - 48 married - to a Covert Narcissist. I'm also a Master Life Coach to help others in my position find healing and a way forward. This book is a harsh reality of the horror life with them is like but in the end, always offer a very inspiring way forward. I would recommend it to everyone looking for answers and how to move on into a new peaceful life.

Very well done

My only hope was that there would be more on what you need to do when leaving is not an option. No one would ever understand after 44 yrs 😥. And he now has dementia so there is no physical way to do this. I will search further for Seniors and covert narcissism and how to exist/live with it!

THANK YOU!!

This is the first time I have ever written a book review.
I can only sum it up this way...
Thank you with all my heart for this book. I have a feeling my life is about to change now that I have the truth!!

Best book ever

Omg finally the missing link. Thank you for writing this book. You freed me from the mental and psychological torture of the covert passive aggressive narc.

Beware of Darkness

Suffering turned to lovingness. Medicine for the heart. True love will always win. Be the Love. Thanks Debbie for sharing your heart.

Wow- just what I needed

I have questioned myself for years. Do I expect too much? Do people really give love as easily and as much as I do? Do I think “I” am so great and maybe “I” am narcissistic? Do I over exaggerate? Am I crazy? And yes I did divorce - but… a big but… I tried again and have been experiencing the same patterns in both him with me and my feelings from the past all over again. Why do I feel so sorry for him all the time? Why can’t I be so important to him as he was to me years ago? Why do I not want sex when I found my sexuality when I was not with him after the divorce and loved what I learned? Why does he always step things up when I draw boundaries and then back to the same old patterns of no affection, no remorse for his affair, no making it up to me as he promised over and over…? Words never match the actions. Consistency… well the only consistent thing are the patterns he repeats.
Debbie- your introduction does what it says… my gut has been right, is always right, and this book answered so many of my questions that I have asked myself. Also blaming myself. Thank you for writing this. If I ever get the chance to speak with you I’d LOVE to share my story that happened twice over with the same person. Feeling freer and sanity and smiling. Blessings to you and to all who were vulnerable and shared their stories!

This book is so important! It helped heal me.

This book allowed me to realize that I am NOT CRAZY. It validated ny experience and helped me heal from this sneaky underhanded abuse.

Excellent

I have never felt so validated!

I intuitively knew something was going on and no one believed me but Debbie Mirza described this person and even more traits from my mother that I didn't know were Narcissistic!

Wow wow

Everything about this book is outstanding. Confirming so much that I already knew was there. I decided when I started this book to step into all that I am and when examples were given and belittling stories were told WOW. I really am not as forgetful as I think. I really am full of so much light. I really am not as depressed as I thought. My body was trying to handle YEARS of dealing with a Narcissists, both covert and overt. Unfortunately since childhood from a step parent to a spouse. I let that love be THE NORM. WELL NO MORE. I will show my girls what safe love is! I have been in therapy for a year next month and setting/journaling my Non-negotiables from now on and sticking to it. I cannot have a cap on my growth, love, or shine. Nor do I want to do that for anyone else! This book was overall LIFE CHANGING. I am so inspired. I feel so beautiful. I FEEL. May you reading this review questioning whether or not to listen or read it, please just start it! I finished in a few days! You won’t regret it! Soo much love and light friends!

Most amazing and healing book I’ve ever read.

This book literally replaced my therapy for the day. It was everything I needed to hear I feel free.