"Don't You Know Who I Am?": How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility

By: Ramani S. Durvasula PhD

Narrated by: Ramani S. Durvasula PhD

It’s time to take our lives back from a world of narcissism, entitlement, and toxic relationships.

“Don’t you know who I am?” has become the mantra of the famous and infamous, the entitled and the insecure. It’s the tagline of the modern narcissist.

Health and wellness campaigns preach avoidance of unhealthy foods, sedentary lifestyles, tobacco, drugs, and alcohol, but rarely preach avoidance of unhealthy, difficult, or toxic people. Yet the health benefits of removing toxic people from your life may have far greater benefits to both physical and psychological health. We need to learn to be better gatekeepers for our minds, bodies, and souls.

Narcissism, entitlement, and incivility have become the new world order, and we are all in trouble. They are not only normalized but also increasingly incentivized. They are manifestations of pathological insecurity - insecurities that are experienced at both the individual and societal level. The paradox is that we value these patterns. We venerate them through social media, mainstream media, and consumerism, and they are endemic in political, corporate, academic, and media leaders.

There are few lives untouched by narcissists. These relationships infect those who are in them with self-doubt, despair, confusion, anxiety, depression, and the chronic feeling of being “not enough,” all of which make it so difficult to step away and set boundaries. The illusion of hope and the fantasy of redemption can result in years of second chances, and despondency when change never comes.

It’s time for a wake-up call. It’s time to stem the tide of narcissism, entitlement, and antagonism, and take our lives back.

©2019 Ramani S. Durvasula, PhD (P)2019 Post Hill Press

This will jar your life back to reality.

Dr. Ramani had me pausing this and yelling out loud to how much she hit the nail on the head. She has mastered the gears that are in a narcissist. Incredible book. Like seeing the picture pop out in those 3D posters that just look like background noise.

Incredible audio book

I had to make I take in every piece of understanding. This is a great contribution to understanding many messy aspects of the humanity and difficult relationships. So much to comprehend, to recognize, to admit and to reconcile. Such vivid presentation of the back stage…

The Best Book Ever

Loved it! Just what I needed. She is amazing! Very good insight into how to recover.

Comprehensive

Dr. Ramani Durvasula is truly and amazing human and scholar. Her work on narcissism is unparalleled. I have been following her YouTube channel for years and only recently purchased her book. If I had known how excellent and comprehensive her book was, I would have stopped here first and bypassed all YouTubers. As a result I purchased all of her books. She is an excellent writer and researcher and I am incredibly grateful for her information and suggested strategies. I might actually find some peace after dealing with narcissists for 50 years. A million thanks, Dr. Ramani.

It's the best weapon for dealing with narcissists

I love this audio book, I cant get over it.Dr Ramani is the perfect narrator, her voice carries assurance that it will all be fine. This book has brought back my sanity. It has made so strong and opened my eye to the narcissist abuse I was suffering but didn't know how to label it. I recommend this book a thousand times to anyone who's empathetic, being gaslit and invalidated by a narcissistic relative. It's so unfair to be abused by person who your only crime was to love her/him but you know what, life is not fair.