Fight Right

How Successful Couples Turn Conflict Into Connection

By: Julie Schwartz Gottman PhD, John Gottman PhD

Narrated by: Roy Worley, Kiiri Sandy

NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • LEARN THE 5 SECRETS OF SUCCESSFUL COUPLES

Conflict is the top reason couples seek help—but it's also an opportunity for greater intimacy, deeper connection, and lasting love according to this essential guide from the world’s leading relationship scientists and authors of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work and Eight Dates.

“An indispensable resource that couples will use over and over again.”—Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

How we fight predicts the future of our relationships. Most of us blunder into conflict without knowing what we are really fighting about and then quickly become overwhelmed by physiological responses we can’t control and emotions we don’t anticipate. The truth is the happiest and most successful couples fight—all the time. Conflict is human, and necessary.

Through decades of research, Drs. John and Julie Gottman, founders of the world-famous Love Lab, have identified the five common mistakes we make when we are at odds. In Fight Right, we learn the five secrets that help us to get back on track and harness conflict to build stronger, healthier relationships. With kindness, clarity, and a deep understanding of the struggles couples are going through, the Gottmans show us that we each have a unique conflict culture, borne of how we were raised and how we experienced past relationships, and they take us through all the possible combinations, from Avoiders, to Validators, to Volatiles, and how they can best work together.

Fight Right is an essential resource that will help couples escape the win-or-lose mentality in favor of a collaborative approach: calming down, staying connected, and really understanding, so that our fights can bring us closer.

Re-learning that you’re on the same team

This book was super helpful in showing how even thru every fighting style and what feels like gridlocked fights, there can be a way to reconnect not just with some vague hope but with real scientifically test methods that the authors walk you thru.

Best book about couples ever written!

MUST READ!!! loved every part of it! for couples but also any other relationship. highly recommend it.

Helpful

I enjoyed the book so much that I decided to order the book to have in person.

Everyone needs this book

I will likely get the hard copy but enjoyed listening to this and the stories. It’s good to know that even the leading couple on conflict had their own conflicts! I’m excited to utilize the steps outlined for repairs.

worth it

such an insightful book. would highly recommend to anyone trying improve themselves or trying to improve their communication skills in general