Stop People Pleasing

And Find Your Power

By: Hailey Magee

Narrated by: Hailey Magee

A viral life coach offers a practical, empathetic, and inspiring guide to breaking people-pleasing patterns that can harm our careers, relationships, physical, and psychic health.

For most of Hailey Magee’s life, people-pleasing came so naturally to her that she didn’t even have a word for it. When somebody wanted something from her—even a stranger—she gave it, no matter how uncomfortable, exhausted, or resentful she felt inside. People-pleasing, she learned, was a coping mechanism that had kept her physically and emotionally safe in the past, but wreaked havoc on her life in the present—and she was committed to breaking the pattern once and for all.

The solution that social media and self-help shelves gave her was to “Advocate for yourself! Speak up! Set boundaries!” But after years of ignoring her feelings and needs, Magee needed more than boundaries; she needed to reconnect with the “self” who was supposed to be doing the advocating. You can’t express yourself if you’re cut off from your feelings. You can’t fight for your needs if you don’t know what they are. And you can’t set boundaries with others until you believe you’re worthy of more than the bare minimum. Radically reconnecting with herself gave Magee the confidence and self-respect she needed to stand up for herself in her relationships. As she experienced a freedom she never thought possible, she became a certified life coach with the mission of helping others do the same.

Stop People Pleasing explains how anyone can break the pattern by learning their own feelings, needs, values, and desires; ending cycles of enmeshment and codependency; overcoming guilt; developing physical and sexual agency; and more. It is a refreshingly nuanced guide, exploring fundamental questions like:

-How can I tell when my genuine kindness veers into people-pleasing?

-How can I set boundaries while maintaining my empathy and generosity?

-When is it appropriate to compromise on my needs, and when is it not?

Combining social science, psychology, and hands-on coaching exercises, Stop People Pleasing teaches you how to connect with your own feelings, needs, and dreams; courageously advocate for yourself in your relationships with friends, family, and colleagues; soothe yourself through the growing pains of healing; and dive headfirst into pleasure and play. With fresh insight, heartfelt empathy, and a keen personal understanding of the pitfalls of people-pleasing, Magee helps you say what you need and get what you deserve.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2024 Hailey Paige Magee (P)2024 Simon & Schuster Audio

Just what I needed

I have been a people pleaser my whole life and through years of therapy, I have decided that it’s time for a change. This book has really given me the tools to be successful and how to choose myself first moving forward. I appreciate the scenarios that she gives as it makes it feel more relatable.

Good start a new and better you.

Great info for changing your relationship behavior, patterns, and habits that hinder you in your relationships.

I’m feeling seen and empowered

This is a wonderful book. I’ve been listening to it all morning and the narration is wonderfully paced with the subject matter being relatable to anyone. The subject nailed my childhood experiences and has helped me know what points to bring up during therapy. Check it out if you can.

spoke to my actual real life issues

I listened to this everyday on my way to work and it helped me set the tone for my day and helped me deal with setting my boundaries at work so I can get through my day

Insightful and Incredibly Relatable

Listening to examples of other people and their experiences as people-pleasers is eye-opening to other people-pleasers. Helps us realize that we’re not the only ones who think this way. The recommended methods for change feel accessible and not overwhelming. I’m not done with the book, but I already know that I’ll re-listen to it because of how impactful the information is.

Stop pleasing

This is a great book easy to read and easily understand and great narrator I highly recommend a book, both the audio and the printed version

Best book on this topic

This book improved my life. The entire book was useful. Wish I had this earlier in my life.

Regain your inner peace and foster healthy relationships with yourself and others.

Hailey is very insightful and provides easy to follow, actionable steps in her debut book. Having her as a coach as well, I can attest that she definitely ‘practices what she preaches’ and it she is delightfully effective as a coach and author. Changing our patterns can be scary and intimidating, but the rewards of more peace and harmony are incredible.

Great stories and tips

Really liked this book, it was filled with multiple examples and exercises for the reader to try to increase generalization of skills into their own environment. It was a nice easy read that drew upon multiple theoretical orientations and psychological principles that made many points more salient. I would recommend this to anyone stuck in that people pleasing cycle as it does help the person get out of that cycle by offering a variety of suggestions.

Very informative!

I felt like she really understood me! I have learned so much and will be forever grateful!