The Science of Self Talk: How to Increase Your Emotional Intelligence and Stop Getting in Your Own Way

Positive Psychology Coaching Series, Book 18

By: Ian Tuhovsky

Narrated by: Randy Streu

Talking to ourselves - and learning to listen

We all speak to ourselves on a daily basis. Whether it’s out loud or an internal (or infernal) commentary, we all practice self-talk, and how we speak to ourselves can have a significant effect on our emotions and subsequent actions.

Some people’s self-talk is mostly about the future while, for others, it’s an internal dialogue about the past. Some self-talk is positive and upbeat, while other self-talk is harsh, critical, or defeatist. Self-talk can focus on other people, but, more often than not, it is about ourselves - and is often negative.

If you listen carefully, you’ll notice that your inner conversation reflects thoughts and emotions. Self-talk isn’t random. It exhibits patterns that repeat themselves. And everyone has their own characteristic self-talk that is uniquely theirs.

In The Science of Self Talk, mindfulness expert Ian Tuhovsky explains how we can rewrite the script when it comes to our internal communication. Through a series of simple exercises for use in daily life, you can understand your own self-talk in order to change the conversation.

This unique book covers:

• Constructive self-talk and dysfunctional self-talk - and knowing the difference
• The impact of negative self-talk
• Learned helplessness
• Positive self-talk - challenge or threat?
• The Pareto Principle which says that, for many events, roughly 80 percent of the effects come from 20 percent of the causes
• Creating the right circumstances for motivation
• Getting to know yourself
• Loving yourself - emotional intelligence
• Turning down the volume on your self-talk

Self-talk is a little like turning on the director’s commentary on a movie. You can simply watch the movie, or you can add in commentary about what’s happening in it - this is, in a nutshell, what most of us do in our daily lives. The Science of Self Talk can help you to rewrite the script of your movie and improve the way that you - and others - see yourself.

©2018 Ian Tuhovsky (P)2018 Ian Tuhovsky

The best book ever. Knowledgeable straight forward and very easy to understand

This book is incredible...I started feeling better just by listening to the content...I keep listening the book several times after the first day even repeated the characters. I would recommend purchasing this book!!! Best ever. Straight forward and simple ideas.

A Great Guide

This is a great guide for those looking to change their inner musings. I've always thought of myself as a fairly positive person but after listening to this book and doing some of the exercises I realized that I could do a lot better. The author does an excellent job trying to cover the main points of being aware of one's self talk and helping to give people a starting point. Of course there's always more that can be said and done to improve but this book gives a great place to start. I enjoyed listening to it and learned a bit more about myself in the process. The narration was well done and helped to keep the listener engaged.

I was given this free review copy audio book at my request and have voluntarily left this review.

excellent book

Incredible book, short and to the point. I was impressed with how powerful a book this was for the time frame. Easily one of my favorite books for 2021.

Straight to the point and practical

went through this one pretty quickly. The author was straight to the point and the information was very practical and easy to apply.

Insightful and Practical

I have had a hard time with positive self talk in the last 12 years. Ian presents practical tools that everyone can use to create more positive self talk. The book was insightful and I feel like I can follow his suggestions.

A Complete Masterpiece

I loved this book, and I will recommend it to everyone. I will listen to more from Ian! It was a quick listen and definitely repeatedable. Thank you for putting this great philosophy into well spoken words.

Just amazing!!!

I just completed the process of tuning in to this. I intend to put the exorcize s to rehearse. Gradually making them an every day propensity. I have been doing a couple before even listenig to this. Our brains are an integral asset. Be cautious what you permit in.

Very Informative

I enjoyed this book. I think as a society we need to improve our self talk and encourage others to improve their own self talk (especially teens and children). I read a lot of self help but this is a topic that is normally mentioned in passing, this book gave a lot of good insight and a lot of ideas that you can try.

I would recommend this book and I plan to revisit it in the future.

I was given this free review copy audiobook at my request and have voluntarily left this review.

Good and quick review of positive self talk principles

I enjoyed this fast paced review of self talk principles. It had some great tips for breaking bad habits and becoming a more positive about yourself. I would’ve thought that self talk included all internal dialogue and would’ve liked to see more tips and strategies to work on all internal dialogue. This book, however, was focused only on thoughts about yourself and self image. If that’s something you struggle with then this is the book for you.

Great book

Tools for awareness of the running dialogue in our heads with suggestions to change the negative self talk to positive self talk.