The biggest mistake people make with self-love is explained this episode. We talk about how a scarcity mindset is emblematic of low self-worth and why we must be PROACTIVE when it comes to self-love.

You will learn how to...

• Identify scarcity thinking in your daily life
• Understand the societal roots of scarcity mentality
• Practice proactive self-care to avoid burnout

Remember: Take care of yourself in small ways before you burn out in a big way.

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Links to Mary's self-love book and journal:

• The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.

• 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode... Ep. 150 with Dr. Anita Johnston: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/marys-cup-of-tea-the-self-love-podcast-for-women/id1495128359?i=1000597710471

You are extraordinary– here’s why.

Mary talks about…

• the dual meaning behind the world “extraordinary”
• why we should stop trying to be extraordinary
• how to be a more interesting person

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Sign up for Mary’s newsletter for more self-love musings: https://maryscupoftea.myflodesk.com/emails

And make sure to get Mary's books two on self-love:

• The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
• 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mary’s hot take on why “being happy” is not that great of a goal. Chasing happiness can leave you feeling empty because happiness is a fleeting state.

You will learn about... - why searching for happiness is NOT good for body-image - how hedonic adaptation gets in the way of our happiness, no matter how much we achieve or accomplish in life - what to focus on instead of “being happy”

Remember: Happiness is fleeting. Meaning is fulfilling. Ditch the happiness treadmill and start creating more meaning in your everyday life.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary's books two on self-love:

- The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.

- 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Mentioned In This Episode... Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: https://amzn.to/3gdszZN The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson: https://amzn.to/3uH7fzO

This is a wide-ranging conversation with my friend Jessi Jean, a binge eating and mindset coach.

You will hear about... - how to navigate health concerns without diet culture - what to do if you want kids, but feel anxious about pregnancy/ birth - how motherhood can change you for the better - tips for creating a vision board and setting intentions - the key to creating lasting behavior change and achieving your goals - advice for feeling lost, paving your own way, and getting unstuck

Remember: don’t get caught in the trap of constantly contemplating. No one has life completely figured out, but doing the best you can with what you have is better than waiting for the answers to appear out of nowhere.

Follow Jessi on Instagram: @jessijeannn Learn more about Jessi's Food Freedom Online Program here: https://jessijean.com/foodfreedomonlineprogram

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Mentioned In This Episode... Pure by Anne Geddes (coffee table book with mothers and newborns): https://amzn.to/4eM1hW5 4 Thousand Weeks by Oliver Burkeman: https://amzn.to/3Wa1TxA The War of Art by Steven Pressfield: https://amzn.to/3xA8FmO

People-pleasing is engrained into so many of us. In attempts to be nice, we neglect our own needs, trading authenticity for approval.

You will learn how to...

• be honest with other people
• how people-pleasing relates to self-trust
• tips for aligning with your authentic self before making decisions

Remember: don't trade short-term approval for long-term authenticity.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media!

And make sure to get Mary's books two on self-love:

• The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.

• 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode... Getting Real by Susan Campbell: https://amzn.to/4cqguuo Radical Honesty by Brad Blanton, PhD: https://amzn.to/3W4EDRk

Negative self-talk is a form of lying to yourself. Let’s explore the power of honesty as a gateway to self-love.

You will learn how to...

• embody a mindset of radical honesty
• conquer fears by being truthful
• stop absorbing other people’s opinions as facts

Remember: You must be real with how you feel so that you can heal.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media!

And make sure to get Mary's books two on self-love:

• The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.

• 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Our culture is OBSESSED with female bodies and their appearance making us all “beauty sick.” From constricting clothes to anti-aging skincare products, beauty culture eats up our precious time, money, and energy. This is an eye-opening and deeply-relatable discussion with Dr. Renee Engeln about “beauty sickness,” the disease that plagues so many women (to no fault of their own).

You will learn about... - what the research shows about beauty culture and objectification of women - the performative aspects of femininity - the psychological effects of aging in a beauty-obsessed society - how we can fight off beauty sickness both individually and collectively

Renee Engeln, Ph.D., a professor of psychology at Northwestern University, is the author of Beauty Sick: How the Cultural Obsession with Appearance Hurts Girls and Women. Her lab (The Body and Media Lab, a.k.a. “BAM”) conducts research exploring issues surrounding women’s body images, with a particular emphasis on cultural practices that create or enforce the frequently contentious relationship women have with their bodies. The research, which has appeared in numerous academic journals, focuses on Objectification Theory, Fat Talk, and Idealized Media Images. She is regularly interviewed by the New York Times, the Chicago Tribune, BBC, the Huffington Post, and other national media. Her TEDx talk has over 800,000 views on YouTube.

Remember: Though we won’t heal from beauty sickness overnight, we have the power to minimize how much we participate in it.

Get Dr. Renee’s book, Beauty Sick: https://amzn.to/4c67da9 Learn more about Dr. Renee’s Body and Media Lab: http://bodyandmedia.com Watch Dr. Renee’s TEDx Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=63XsokRPV_Y

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @beauty_sick

Mentioned In This Episode... Ep. 18, Mary’s first interview with Dr. Renee: https://open.spotify.com/episode/155JFBTBxSGCCA2UMK12qk?si=gWFYNVAjQxu2S2J8j69Z-w

What would you pursue regardless of the result? Let’s reflect on how being results-oriented removes the joy of the process. Though sometimes results do come, maybe we’d be happier if we were more immersed in the process itself.

You will learn how to...

• Trust your unique process and let go of the need for immediate results
• Embrace activities that bring joy without a focus on outcome
• Shift your mindset to find peace in the present moment

Remember: "Trust your process, release the result."

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Learn more about upcoming retreats: https://maryscupoftea.com/retreats

Get Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://amzn.to/3yJKYII