Becoming the Narcissist's Nightmare

How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself

By: Shahida Arabi

Narrated by: Julie McKay

Length: 19 hrs and 53 mins

Publisher's summary

Although clinical research has been conducted on narcissism as a disorder, less is known about its effects on victims who are in toxic relationships with partners with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Individuals with this disorder engage in chronic devaluation and manipulation of their partners, a psychological and emotional phenomenon known as "narcissistic abuse". Unfortunately, the full extent of what narcissistic abuse entails is not taught in any psychology class or diagnostic manual. Since pathological narcissists are unlikely to seek treatment for their disorder, it is difficult to pinpoint what exactly makes a narcissistic abuser tick and the manipulative tactics they use, which are likely to differ from those of other types of abusers as they are more covert and underhanded. What is even more baffling is the addiction we form with our narcissistic abusers, created by biochemical bonds and trauma bonds that are also unlike any other relationship we experience.

Using the latest scientific research as well as thousands of survivor accounts, this book will explore how the emotional manipulation tactics of narcissistic and antisocial partners affect those around them, particularly with regards to its cumulative socioemotional and psychological effects on the victim. It will also address questions such as: What successful techniques, tools, and healing modalities (both traditional and alternative) are available to survivors who have been ridiculed, manipulated, verbally abused, and subject to psychological warfare? What can survivors do to better engage in self-love and self-care? How can they forge the path to healthier relationships, especially if they've been a victim of narcissistic abuse by multiple people or raised by a narcissist? Most importantly, how can they use their experiences of narcissistic abuse to empower themselves towards personal development? What can their interactions with a narcissistic abuser teach them about themselves, their relationship patterns, and the wounds that still need to be healed in order to move forward into the happy relationships and victorious lives they do deserve?

Cover art by Penoaks Publishing at www.penoaks.com.

©2016 Shahida Arabi (P)2016 Audible, Inc.

Finally

For me this book went where some left off.. what to actually do.. or maybe a better description..what youre thinking you should do.. is correct. Get out, get away. And if you cant now, plan to. Thats where I am, the final planning stages. My parents both narcs and I pretty much married my mothers version of narcissistic behaviors.. my life has been filled with much chaos, zero love and no peace. I am truly alone as I have no other family and my husbands family deemed him the scapegoat Im guessing many years ago. The people I should be able to count on and love me, dont exist. Im ready to go no contact and shut the door on my life in hell. Encouraging words were just what I needed from this, she was right in most therapists dont have a clue in dealing with this sickness and I did experience this ( marital counseling) and it indeed did make things
worse. Never mind what we discussed about him, the fact that i was completely transparent was the worst thing I could have done. I wish i learned sooner, but now I know.

needs a pdf with links

much is quoted materials from elsewhere.
also much is links to outside decreference materials, these should be in an accompanying downloadable text.

it works be useful if the writer allowed to reader to first become completely familiar with the toxic patterns described, and then clearly differentiate those from normal or healthy patterns: so that the fair-monded reader can clarify what is toxic. and what is within reasonable boundaries.

A MUST READ! Factual, well written.

This book is absolutely amazing. I'm a tough cookie, but had tears at some parts because it spoke to parts of my childhood, and ex marriage, I didn't even realize were narcissism. You will learn about what to look for, how to deal with it, and that yuh you're not alone. From the time I started this book, until I finished it, I have transformed how I deal with the two narcissists I have to maintain contact with, and it has changed how they respond to me too. I have sent this book to several people. HIGHLY RECOMMEND.

The narrator is perfect. I'm normally a book reader, a visual learner, and have a hard time with listening to people talk for long periods of time. It is a long book, but her tone was perfect, and kept me engaged.

Don’t miss this opportunity to heal from narcissistic abuse

As a licensed professional psychotherapist I found this book offered an exhaustive list of resources and information for victims of narcissistic people.

very helpful

This book isvery informative and helpful for the soon to be ex-wife of a Narcissist.

Get this book please…

There is nothing I didn’t like about this book. I’ve listened to it once and I’m currently listening again. Yes it’s that good, insightful and informative in a very personable and soothing way. I caught myself crying a few times because of the revelations this book was helping me get. It will take you all the way back to that time you felt like you were being emotionally abused but shrugged it off because you just KNEW that person would never purposely treat you that way, only to explain to you WHY you shrugged it off. This book gives you signs, hope and even strategies. I loved every bit of it, it helped me so much. Thank you to the author Shahida Arabi for your help!

Loved this audiobook!

Most of us have been a target of a narcissist at one point in their lives, but many of us seem to feel like we attract narcissists. Listening to the stories of countless survivors of NPD abuse helped empower myself. Knowledge is power!

The Good, The Bad, and the Ugly

The good: actual helpful information on surviving narcissistic abuse!
The bad: promoting unscientific woo (acupuncture, reiki,…) and some toxic links (esp. “One Mom’s Battle”, a site promoting Parental Alienation denial, and engaging in toxic harrassment themselves)
The Ugly: shameless selfpromotion all through the book, and every link (http://…) spelled out. Bith of which pull you out of the useful info.

Good info but annoying delivery

It's really difficult to listen to because of the narrators vocal frying and/or exaggerated pronunciations. Such great information. Depending on my mood, I just dread hitting play.

Constant reading of long links

Ughh The book contains so many links which may be helpful if you actually have the book, but when listening to the audio - the narrator reads each link letter by letter including dashes and dots etc. This happens so frequently that could not continue listening. Had to return it.