Overthinking About You

Navigating Romantic Relationships When You Have Anxiety, OCD, and/or Depression

By: Allison Raskin

Narrated by: Allison Raskin

Dating is hard. But pursuing love and relationships when you live with mental illness can be even more overwhelming.

Allison Raskin knows this challenge firsthand and shares her journey with perfect candor. She’s learned from her experiences, and we get to learn from her, discovering new ways to form healthy dating and relationship habits. How do you talk to a partner about your mental health? What is the potential impact of SSRIs on your body? What is the difference between having valid concerns and catastrophizing? It’s all here, from meeting online to how to handle a breakup, from recognizing and avoiding unhealthy relationships to the big one—sex.

Woven in throughout are interviews with clinical psychologists, a psychiatrist, a sexologist, relationship experts, and real-life couples for their points of view and professional guidance. All to help you walk away from this book feeling less alone in the struggle and better prepared to tackle dating and relationships with more confidence and less worry.

It’s a transformative book, with insights on every page and an inspiring message of optimism and hope.

Critic reviews

“Allison Raskin is a warm hug in the world of mental health. She reminds us that this life is meant to be enjoyed and to never give up on love because we all are more than deserving of it. This book is going to save relationships!” —Kelsey Darragh, author of Don’​t F*cking Panic: The Shit They Don’t Tell You in Therapy About Anxiety Disorder, Panic Attacks, and Depression

“Romance and love can press all the buttons for overthinkers, denying us what we ultimately crave. Thank you, Allison, for being the brave soul to finally show us we can do both—fret and share a healthy intimate connection with another awesome human!” —Sarah Wilson, New York Times bestselling author of First, We Make the Beast Beautiful

“A warm and thoughtful guide to an under-discussed topic.” —Mara Wilson, writer and actor

“This invaluable and empowering primer delivers on its promise to help readers date while struggling with mental illness.” —Publishers Weekly

“A quick, quippy book that can be read in an afternoon. The thing I liked most was Raskin’s observation that we’re allowed to be works in progress, and that if you’re prone to overthink, it doesn’t mean you can’t or shouldn’t be in love.” —Boston Globe

“Raskin’s book is a powerful reminder that while mental health can be all-consuming, it doesn’t define you—and it certainly doesn’t have to define your relationships.” —Teen Vogue

Potently Insightful!

If you have even a sprinkle of anxiety in your romantic life, read this. Even if you’re in a relationship, read it. I promise it will be worth it.

Great listen!

This was a really good listen. Very insightful and funny. I cried within the first few pages because it really resonated with me. I have a lot of anxiety in relationships and it’s affecting my current relationship. Definitely going to listen again!

Beautifully shared

Allison you are amazing and strong. Sharing your journey has already helped a lot of us. We all must do the work every day. Understanding and compassion are the first steps. Vulnerability and truth are the outcome. We are all part of a star filled universe that holds us all in the meaning of Relationship. It is our truth that defines each us. Peace, Unity, Respect.

What I Needed

It's exactly what I needed. Thank you Alison for a wonderful book and advice!

I couldn't get past her wokeness

I thought the Book had some good information but it was just hard to take the author serious because she's so woke