The Betrayal Bind

How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Has Hurt You the Worst

By: Michelle Mays LPC CSAT-S

Narrated by: Sarah Welborn

What happens when your partner, your primary person, in an instant, becomes a source of danger and pain?

The Betrayal Bind introduces new language, concepts, and imagery to explore the crucial relational dilemma that betrayed partners face when their significant other is unsafe to connect to, yet connection is the key to healing.

Discovering a partner's sexual betrayal spins your world out of control. In a split second, your sense of safety is shattered, your trust is gone, and everything you thought you could count on is in question.

Betrayed partners, whether dealing with an isolated infidelity or a pattern of sexual compulsivity, need immediate support to navigate the new terrain of their relationship. They need a clear articulation of betrayal trauma, a thorough education about their normal attachment-based reactions, and a proven path to healing.

By focusing on how a partner's attachment system functions in the wake of sexual betrayal, The Betrayal Bind offers a new, game-changing exploration into an age-old problem and connects the dots from research to the lived experience of betrayed partners.

©2022 Michelle Mays (P)2023 Tantor

All of it

I was listing to a podcast on betrayal and Michelle was on that podcast. I purchased the audiobook. And like a rocket in shoot up to the moon! Each time I listen it was helping me day to day. I told my husband about the book and ask for him to download it and why he should for only understanding. I purchased the book for him self as well mine . The book is helping him understand how this affected me. It gave him inside info about what him self and his betrayal. He said it did not make him feel worse . The workbooks and journals help as well with my therapist. We have been together for 35 years and built a life . We have to go down this path together. We don’t know if working on this in therapy will make it work or end it. Either way we owe it to our selves as well each other and our family. The anger has to be out a side and let god and our higher power lead us to heal . Thank you Michelle thru your own pain you have helped Jim and I
For ever thank full
Michele Bauer

A must read

Therapist approved! A must read if you’re healing from betrayal trauma. Providers an thorough understanding of and how to heal from betrayal trauma.

Lifeline

I listened to Mays’ book on audio for my first time through. The Betrayal Bind was recommended by my therapist. It’s one of my lifelines, keeping me as calm tethered as can be when every day is unpredictable. My second time through, I’ll listen, read and take notes.

Good Information

Lots of knowledge in this book and I look forward to guidance to heal from betrayal. I may have to listen to it again.

This makes it make sense.

I have read some amazing books from experts on the subject. THIS makes soo much sense. I’m learning and stuck on this audibly in a way I didn’t think. & Hearing her personal experience is appreciated.

Vulnerability is a super power

Excellent read for the betrayed and even the betrayer to understand the storm of infidelity and healing

100% recommend

Incredible book! The author is so knowledgeable and provides concrete steps and guidance. So helpful!

Just what I needed

This book changed my life, cleared the fog from my vision, stripped the blinders from my eyes, at a time when I was walking through life refusing to be honest with myself about my reality... all of these things which I was desperately longing for.

Great Info!

This book was so validating for me! Her story and realness helped me better understand the experience I was having and create a game plan to move forward. The narration is a little slow so feel free to speed it up but I absolutely recommend this book.

Foundational for Betrayed Partners

As an MFT, I recommend this book to all of my betrayed clients and their partners. It gives a solid roadmap to healing and supports our therapeutic process.